Boyfriend wants me to get rid of my Yorkie

[Maximo]

Originally Posted by yorkiemini

There are several books on potty training. One of them is Training in 7 Days, but it will take you longer than that because of bad habits that need to be overcome.

Have you asked your bf to help you train her? If he is willing then that is something that you can do together and he can see the progress.

As was said before, dog are not throw away toys, so you must train her whether you have the bf or not. You may need to confine her and start a structured training program with lots of praise and treats.

Good luck! But for remember the pup is totally dependent upon you for care, your bf is not.

Originally Posted by Doodlebug

Keep the puppy, get rid of the boyfriend. Would he be able to tolerate a misbehaving child? My Yorkie had accidents when she was a pup but once she understood that she must not potty and poo in the house, she was the best pup you could ever want. Just be consistent and give it time. It will be worth it. I'm sorry but I don't see him as a perfect boyfriend if he would break your heart because the puppy is an inconvenience to him. And what will happen to the poor pup? Please don't get rid of the pup, I think you will come to realize that you made a big mistake. Best of luck to you.

Both you and your boyfriend are responsible for training the dog. Everyone living with the dog has to participate or it won't work.

Chewing things: dogs are like toddlers and you have to keep things out of their reach. It's a safety issue in addition to protecting your valuables. Sunglasses and shoes are easy to keep out of reach.

[Jkpal]

Long while back I had a sweet, intelligent, well-trained German Shepherd who became a little nervous when it got real windy. One howling of a wind storm night, she crawled up in bed with us, making herself as small as possible (too cute). Boyfriend made some disparaging comment about her coming between us, I liked her more than him...whaa, whaaa, whaaaa...to which I responded, "You know what?She's scared, she's staying on the bed, and besides, she'll be around long after your gone." Need I mention that my girl and I spend many happy years alone together without the whiny ex-boyfriend. My girl was more understanding, loving, reasonable, fun and steadfast than most 'boyfriends.' I never-ever put any guy before one of my canine units---ever! A good man would never ask you to choose, an intelligent man would know better knowing the choice, and a sensitive loving man would have no need to ask the question, but would share in your joy and love both you and your little one--problems or not.

[Yorkiemom1]

Originally Posted by maxdog

Train the dog and then lose the bf. Anyone who would tell you that you MUST give away something he knows you love is not the person you want to spend the rest of your life with

[jshade]

Originally Posted by matese

Definitely train the pup, not for your BF but for you and your baby. All dogs need to be trained where to pee and poop. Start now, potty training is a MUST DO with or without a BF. Even tho it's your fault for your babies bad behavior, I would DUMP THE BF before I got rid of my baby. How much could he care / love you when he tells you to get rid of the dog he knows you love, if you had an unruly child would he tell you the kid needs to go? If he truly cared / loved you he would suggest you both start with a potty training program. As for chewing things up, when you get a puppy to have to puppy proof your home, just as you would have to baby proof if you had a toddler in the home. Puppies are notorious for stealing thing and chewing them or hiding them. If you don't want to lose it, put it where the puppy can't get it. IMO he is out of line to tell you to choose "him or the dog" I would be handing him his tooth brush and showing him to the door . But, PLEASE, do it for your self and this precious baby and do train her, also as Doodlebug stated what will happen to the dog, where will she end up, will she be beaten, starved, abused, not given proper vet care. You took her to care for and to love her, PLEASE do not get rid of yoyyur baby like she is a worn out shoe to be tossed away, this is a life we are talking about. Get rid of the BF keep the baby, there are plenty of men that would be more then willing to work with you on training a dog, knowing how much you love this little furbutt. Start now training her. Good luck, I pray you make the right choice.

I couldn't have said it any better!

[KairaPup]

Loose the boyfriend. He sounds like a creep anyway.

And you MUST train this dog as well. Boyfriend or not- she's walking all over you.

[sandy simpson]

All you need is love and a dog. Don't need a boyfriend complaining about your yorkie. My husband steps over fences smells dog food and trips over dog toys. Jojo will bark and charge after him. He loves me so he allows me to have my yorkies. Get some training for the yorkie and let that boy know how precious the love of a dog is. A faithful loyal companion is the dog. Dog stays. I would not let him move in. Date him and if he and dog don't jive it's a lot easier to say goodbye if he and stuff aren't comfy in your home.

[ladyjane]

Originally Posted by Doodlebug

Keep the puppy, get rid of the boyfriend. Would he be able to tolerate a misbehaving child? My Yorkie had accidents when she was a pup but once she understood that she must not potty and poo in the house, she was the best pup you could ever want. Just be consistent and give it time. It will be worth it. I'm sorry but I don't see him as a perfect boyfriend if he would break your heart because the puppy is an inconvenience to him. And what will happen to the poor pup? Please don't get rid of the pup, I think you will come to realize that you made a big mistake. Best of luck to you.

Originally Posted by Wylie's Mom

Hi -- you say above he's the "perfect boyfriend..." - but he's not at all. If he doesn't accept you - everything about you, including your fur child - and throws ultimatums at you (someone mature would NOT do this) in order to control you, then he is NOT even close to being perfect.

Are you prepared for a lifetime of him tossing out ultimatums in order to control your life???

You chose to take on the responsibility of owning this poor little innocent dog. You need to put your foot down *now* and stand up for this dog whom you love and tell him that you come w/ Emma as a package deal and he doesn't have the right to force you to give up your fur child. Tell him you should be approaching this problem as a team as something to solve and deal with and find solutions for. If he can't see that, then perhaps you're not right together, ya know?

I would suggest you view the training and potty training sticky threads in our Training section. Also, I'd highly suggest you pay a trainer to come to the house, meet Emma and the boyfriend, and give you advice.

Yes, yes, and YES. I can promise you that if you give up Emma for this so called "perfect boyfriend" , you will be very very sorry later on.

This will be his first demand...more will inevitably come along and in the end, when you don't have him, you will wish you had her.

[Ssmmkk]

Omg! I am in exact same situation, our arguing got so bad I've moved out with my yorkie. My bf asked me to get rid of him, but I love him and moved out. I'm now really focusing on toilet training!

[Belladea]

Originally Posted by Yorkiemom1

Give me a break!! The pup was there BEFORE the boyfriend! The boyfriend moved into THE PUP'S HOME/YOUR HOME, and he is going to tell you what he will tolerate and not tolerate????? I dont think so!!!!

THAT being said, you need to teach your baby how to behave like a civilized little pet!!! You can NOT allow that baby to use your home like a toilet! It sounds like you have taken the path of least resistance, and rather than expend the time and energy to teach and train and control your pups behavior, you have let the pup raise itself, and you now have a dog that does not integrate with other people and has no house manners! THIS is YOUR fault and you need to correct it!

Either resolve yourself to make the time to train your pup to live like a civilized house broken companion, or spend the money and effort to have a professional do it. I am fearful you have a baby that NO ONE will tolerate being around, because of lack of training! YOU have raised a house ape and you need to fix that so even if you are not able to keep that baby, you do not want her to end up on the streets because no one can tolerate her bad/unacceptable behavior!

While I can not stand a man that would move into my home and then begin to tell me how I have to make MY living space acceptable for him, I can understand where he is coming from. He should have known or noticed after 2 years of dating, (and I am certain he has been at your living space at least once during that time, so he knew how you tolerated your pup's bad manners), that your pup was not well house trained.....he should have NEVER moved into your space under the current conditions if they were unacceptable to him.

Well said......I agree 100% with Yorkiemom1 !!!

[katherinep1225]

I can understand that untrained dogs can be annoying and hectic.
however, ,,, really. lose the boyfriend. I can't believe someone can suggest such a thing.

[ladyjane]

Originally Posted by katherinep1225

I can understand that untrained dogs can be annoying and hectic.
however, ,,, really. lose the boyfriend. I can't believe someone can suggest such a thing.

These are living beings who depend on us. How you could treat one as disposable is beyond my comprehension. That man would be out of my life.....OUT. Perfect? Hardly and I hope the OP sees it before she makes a huge mistake that she WILL regret later.

She does need to work on training, but that is not the real issue here in my opinion...the real issue is HIM. I have zero tolerance for people like him. As someone said, he knew this before he moved in....BS to move in and make such demands. Clearly he didn't have anything much to offer....she didn't move into his home...it was the opposite. Sounds like she had more to offer him.

[ladyjane]

Just saw this on FB and had to share.....

[Doodlebug]

Originally Posted by ladyjane

These are living beings who depend on us. How you could treat one as disposable is beyond my comprehension. That man would be out of my life.....OUT. Perfect? Hardly and I hope the OP sees it before she makes a huge mistake that she WILL regret later.

She does need to work on training, but that is not the real issue here in my opinion...the real issue is HIM. I have zero tolerance for people like him. As someone said, he knew this before he moved in....BS to move in and make such demands. Clearly he didn't have anything much to offer....she didn't move into his home...it was the opposite. Sounds like she had more to offer him.

I couldn't agree more with this post, and Judy's post, and Ann's post, and many more. This is just the first demand in an attempt to take over control of your household and your life. The demand he is making is completely selfish and hateful in my opinion. I'm sure that those of us who have lived this real-life nightmare recognize the beginning of a life of misery with someone who needs to have control of you. I have been there and it is not a happy life at all. OP if you are reading any of this please think about it. We mean to offer help and not criticism. You can have your little baby, the love of your life, for many years. She will always be loyal and true to you. She will not make demands of you. She will look at you as her savior and the most important person in the world. She will give you tail wags and kisses. Sbe will give you what this boyfriend never will, unconditional love.

Now that the boyfriend has moved in and attempted to take control, you should really think long and hard if this is what you want your life to be (without your little love bug). I hope you come back and say he is gone. The pup deserves to live in her own home and be loved, adored and treasured every single day of her innocent, trusting little life. I don't think you will ever look back and regret letting him go and keeping your precious baby.

[Doodlebug]

Originally Posted by ladyjane

Just saw this on FB and had to share.....



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Linda, that is so well said!!!

[maxdog]

Originally Posted by ladyjane

Just saw this on FB and had to share.....



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Love it! And it could not be more true.