Boyfriend wants me to get rid of my Yorkie

[ladyjane]

Originally Posted by Doodlebug

I couldn't agree more with this post, and Judy's post, and Ann's post, and many more. This is just the first demand in an attempt to take over control of your household and your life. The demand he is making is completely selfish and hateful in my opinion. I'm sure that those of us who have lived this real-life nightmare recognize the beginning of a life of misery with someone who needs to have control of you. I have been there and it is not a happy life at all. OP if you are reading any of this please think about it. We mean to offer help and not criticism. You can have your little baby, the love of your life, for many years. She will always be loyal and true to you. She will not make demands of you. She will look at you as her savior and the most important person in the world. She will give you tail wags and kisses. Sbe will give you what this boyfriend never will, unconditional love.

Now that the boyfriend has moved in and attempted to take control, you should really think long and hard if this is what you want your life to be (without your little love bug). I hope you come back and say he is gone. The pup deserves to live in her own home and be loved, adored and treasured every single day of her innocent, trusting little life. I don't think you will ever look back and regret letting him go and keeping your precious baby.

Ditto!

This is so well said...I pray the OP listens ...this is about sharing experiences.

[ladyjane]

Originally Posted by Doodlebug

Linda, that is so well said!!!

Originally Posted by maxdog

Love it! And it could not be more true.

Funny .. it just jumped out at me and made me think of this thread...

Probably some angel leading me to it...I really believe we get the things we need if we always remain open ...

[Magnus]

Originally Posted by Ssmmkk

Omg! I am in exact same situation, our arguing got so bad I've moved out with my yorkie. My bf asked me to get rid of him, but I love him and moved out. I'm now really focusing on toilet training!

Good for you!

If someone really loves you, s/he should never make you chose between someone you really love. Instead, try to work things out....

[Doodlebug]

Originally Posted by ladyjane

Funny .. it just jumped out at me and made me think of this thread...

Probably some angel leading me to it...I really believe we get the things we need if we always remain open ...

[matese]

Originally Posted by ladyjane

Just saw this on FB and had to share.....



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It's never the dog, how do they learn if we do not teach them. It is up to the owner to teach and TRAIN. perfect post, just suited for this thread.

[matese]

Originally Posted by Ssmmkk

Omg! I am in exact same situation, our arguing got so bad I've moved out with my yorkie. My bf asked me to get rid of him, but I love him and moved out. I'm now really focusing on toilet training!

Good for you, he was not the right man for you if he tells you to get rid of the dog. You did the right thing by leaving a wanna be controlling man.

[Doodlebug]

I just want to mention a story about a time in my life when I had to give up my precious, loved and adored pup. Misty was a poodle/pug mix that someone asked me to take. She was the last puppy from an accidental mating on the street. She was my first dog. She was a wonderful dog, she lived to be 20 years old and we were together for a long stretch of my life. I moved around a lot at that time and my baby was always right there by my side.

At one point the elderly owner of the flat I was living in sold it to a new owner. The new owner was very strict and told me I had to get rid of my dog. I was heartbroken but I couldn't afford to move. I gave her to my sister's MIL who always loved her and was looking for a dog. I cried hysterically every night and hated myself for giving her up and not finding a way to keep her. I knew instantly that I had made a terrible mistake. I prayed to God to find a way for me to have her back.

By some miracle my prayers were answered and I received a call from my sister's MIL asking if I would take her back because having a dog was more work than she had anticipated. I was overjoyed at getting my baby back. I moved out of that place with my baby Misty and never looked back.

Please don't do what I did. You might not be able to get Emma back. I was so blessed to get Misty back. She lived out the rest of her 20 years with me, where she was meant to be.

I just wanted to share my experience giving up a dog that was my cherished companion. I hope this won't happen to anyone else.

[matese]

Originally Posted by Doodlebug

I just want to mention a story about a time in my life when I had to give up my precious, loved and adored pup. Misty was a poodle/pug mix that someone asked me to take. She was the last puppy from an accidental mating on the street. She was my first dog. She was a wonderful dog, she lived to be 20 years old and we were together for a long stretch of my life. I moved around a lot at that time and my baby was always right there by my side.

At one point the elderly owner of the flat I was living in sold it to a new owner. The new owner was very strict and told me I had to get rid of my dog. I was heartbroken but I couldn't afford to move. I gave her to my sister's MIL who always loved her and was looking for a dog. I cried hysterically every night and hated myself for giving her up and not finding a way to keep her. I knew instantly that I had made a terrible mistake. I prayed to God to find a way for me to have her back.

By some miracle my prayers were answered and I received a call from my sister's MIL asking if I would take her back because having a dog was more work than she had anticipated. I was overjoyed at getting my baby back. I moved out of that place with my baby Misty and never looked back.

Please don't do what I did. You might not be able to get Emma back. I was so blessed to get Misty back. She lived out the rest of her 20 years with me, where she was meant to be.

I just wanted to share my experience giving up a dog that was my cherished companion. I hope this won't happen to anyone else.

Giving up a dog
I lived in a pvt. house in NY for 22 years, then my landlord sold the house, the new landlord wanted my apt. for a family member, I had to move. I wanted to stay in the same area. I called every ad that had an apartment for rent, I told each landlord I had two small yorkies, no one would rent to me with dogs. I went to a agency told them I needed an apartment that would allow two small yorkies, the agent told me it would be very hard to find as no one wanted tenants that had dogs. After 6 months of searching I had to make a decision, I was not about to get rid of my dogs, they were raised together and could not be separated. The only way I could keep my dogs was to buy my own home where no one could tell me how many I could have or tell me I had to get rid of my dogs. I moved two states away, took a commuter bus to my NY job 1 & 1/2 ride. I did this for my dogs, to be able to keep them, that is how I come to live in Pa. for my babies. It was the best thing I did, I had my babies and they had a yard to run and play in. I have NEVER looked back.

[Doodlebug]

Originally Posted by matese

Giving up a dog
I lived in a pvt. house in NY for 22 years, then my landlord sold the house, the new landlord wanted my apt. for a family member, I had to move. I wanted to stay in the same area. I called every ad that had an apartment for rent, I told each landlord I had two small yorkies, no one would rent to me with dogs. I went to a agency told them I needed an apartment that would allow two small yorkies, the agent told me it would be very hard to find as no one wanted tenants that had dogs. After 6 months of searching I had to make a decision, I was not about to get rid of my dogs, they were raised together and could not be separated. The only way I could keep my dogs was to buy my own home where no one could tell me how many I could have or tell me I had to get rid of my dogs. I moved two states away, took a commuter bus to my NY job 1 & 1/2 ride. I did this for my dogs, to be able to keep them, that is how I come to live in Pa. for my babies. It was the best thing I did, I had my babies and they had a yard to run and play in. I have NEVER looked back.

Good for you!!! This was so touching I got goose bumps reading it. You did the right thing. I learned my lesson. My babies have NEVER given up on me and i will never again give up on any of them. I learned the hard way.

[maxdog]

To the OP:

What do you think of all the responses you have rec'd to your original post?

[Magnus]

Originally Posted by maxdog

To the OP:

What do you think of all the responses you have rec'd to your original post?

Looks like she haven't logged in since she posted.... Hopefully, they're working things out.

[matese]

To have and to hold from this day forward, For better, for worse, in sickness and health, till death do us part.

[matese]

Originally Posted by Magnus

Looks like she haven't logged in since she posted.... Hopefully, they're working things out.

JMO, He seems to be so controlling maybe he has forbidden her to use her computer. Controlling starts off small, before you know it you are asking their permission before you do anything.

[Shicks]

I would crate the egotistical boy friend. 😊

[maxdog]

Originally Posted by Shicks

I would crate the egotistical boy friend. 😊

A small crate. With no pee pads.