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Rachael1983 · 05-30-2014, 04:04 AM

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Originally Posted by ColesMommy01

Her answer was "I don't allow anyone to tell my child what to do". My response "If you want your child to come into my home and I catch him doing something wrong I'm going to say something. So I guess he won't be coming over again."

This would have rubbed me the wrong way. I'm sorry that she wasn't more understanding because your kids enjoy each other.

ColesMommy01 · 05-30-2014, 04:05 AM

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Originally Posted by Verbena

I would just let the kids know when they are in the house if a door is closed they are not allowed in that room. And that he needs to ask permission if he wants anything

I think the family as a whole has boundary issues. She showed up at my home last weekend drunk with her son in tow. I put Rasta up but she kept putting her face in his playpen. After he growled repeatedly and I told her he wasn't friendly he bit her nose. Then she left him alone. Honestly, I can deal with the kid. It's the mother that grinds my gears. Adults that allow their children to disrespect and drink to get drunk regularly just hit a nerve with me.

Pam Shaw · 05-30-2014, 12:32 PM

Being a good parent is the hardest job in the world! You both are obviously very loving and responsible. As a retired teacher who has seen all kinds of kids and families, I salute your hard but rewarding job, and wish you good luck with this situation. Cole is a lucky boy!

yorkietalkjilly · 05-30-2014, 01:31 PM

Unless these individuals are somehow worth sustaining a relationship with, I think I would steer clear of them, keep my doors closed to them and their children, as apparently none of them understand how to behave or respect a vulnerable, pet dog who's obviously scared of or very uncomfortable with them around. Your baby likely feels like a trapped, sitting duck in his pen with no where to run when they are around.

capt_noonie · 05-30-2014, 08:15 PM

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Originally Posted by ColesMommy01

I dont think she's being quite honest myself when it comes to the whole "scared of dogs" thing. She does like pets or at least mine since she's asked repeatedly that I breed one of them and that she get a puppy at a "military discount" ummmm no. He just won't be coming over any longer. I called his and told her about the situation and asked that she say something to him about it. The hubs already said he didn't want the child coming over at all anymore but I was trying to be more lenient if the mother was understanding. I told her next time I would have to say something to him since we don't allow that type of behavior. Her answer was "I don't allow anyone to tell my child what to do". My response "If you want your child to come into my home and I catch him doing something wrong I'm going to say something. So I guess he won't be coming over again."

What? OMG tacky!
And good for you for standing up to her! She seems like a horrible person!

capt_noonie · 05-30-2014, 08:18 PM

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Originally Posted by ColesMommy01

I think the family as a whole has boundary issues. She showed up at my home last weekend drunk with her son in tow. I put Rasta up but she kept putting her face in his playpen. After he growled repeatedly and I told her he wasn't friendly he bit her nose. Then she left him alone. Honestly, I can deal with the kid. It's the mother that grinds my gears. Adults that allow their children to disrespect and drink to get drunk regularly just hit a nerve with me.

OMG! I like to drink, but I would NEVER get drunk in front of a child.

capt_noonie · 05-30-2014, 08:19 PM

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Originally Posted by yorkietalkjilly

Unless these individuals are somehow worth sustaining a relationship with, I think I would steer clear of them, keep my doors closed to them and their children, as apparently none of them understand how to behave or respect a vulnerable, pet dog who's obviously scared of or very uncomfortable with them around. Your baby likely feels like a trapped, sitting duck in his pen with no where to run when they are around.

Agree. I don't think these people are in any way shape or form good for you or your son. Nip it in the bud!

pink66 · 05-31-2014, 09:40 AM

I just realized there is a big age difference, your son being only 5 and this kid being 11. The age difference plus the kid's behavior would concern me a whole bunch! If you want to let your son continue this friendship, I would say they need very strict supervision at all times they are together, mainly for your son's safety!

ColesMommy01 · 05-31-2014, 10:59 AM

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Originally Posted by pink66

I just realized there is a big age difference, your son being only 5 and this kid being 11. The age difference plus the kid's behavior would concern me a whole bunch! If you want to let your son continue this friendship, I would say they need very strict supervision at all times they are together, mainly for your son's safety!

That was another thing I was worried about. I have cousins who are around that age that my son interacts with regularly and I'm fine with it but with someone else's kid and I don't like their parenting style already....I haven't let my son around him since Thursday so hopefully slowly but surely they'll get the hint. We have a few kids in the neighborhood who are closer to his age so he can play with them. I don't expect to like all my neighbors but I try to have respect for them and I honestly have to try very hard not to let my mouth get the best of me with her and what she considers normal. I'd rather just not deal with it at all.

Pam Shaw · 05-31-2014, 02:42 PM

Omg, I agree about the age difference issue! Not appropriate under the circumstances.

capt_noonie · 05-31-2014, 07:51 PM

Oh I didn't even realize the age difference! Def NO! Imagine what will happen when the neighbor kid turns 13 or 14 and your son is only 7 or 8!

crazydoglade · 05-31-2014, 11:34 PM

One of my best friends has 4 kids that I love dearly but the 5 year old is constantly pivking at my dogs. This is their home. I'm not putting them up but the last straw was when he kicked my 4 pound baby Piper. His parents weren't here so I put him in time out. He did it again. He is now not allowed to come over unless his parents are here and watch him. If it happens again he will be banned. His parents know this. My house, my rules. You don't have to put up with another persons child. It sounds like his home life isn't safe. Mom frequently drunk and a child who wanders the neighborhood unsupervised.Maybe CPS needs to have a look at the home situation.

Pam Shaw · 06-01-2014, 07:12 AM

You are DEFINITELY doing the right thing!

chestermama · 06-11-2014, 01:40 PM

I would not have been happy

Lil Sis · 06-11-2014, 02:27 PM

Wow.just reading this. I am so sorry you hVe to deal with this family as a neighbor.

My advice to to just "nip it in the bud". This mother does not have good values and they are being passed onto her son. She is no ya role model you want for your son. She doesn't sound like someone you would want as a friend.

My dought had a friend like that.. She would just walk into our house. I found her in our kitchen making herself lunch one time! I was horrified! She is grown up now and she is a horrid person.

Good luck

05-30-2014, 01:31 PM	#19
yorkietalkjilly ♥ Love My Tibbe! ♥ Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: D/FW, Texas Posts: 22,140	Unless these individuals are somehow worth sustaining a relationship with, I think I would steer clear of them, keep my doors closed to them and their children, as apparently none of them understand how to behave or respect a vulnerable, pet dog who's obviously scared of or very uncomfortable with them around. Your baby likely feels like a trapped, sitting duck in his pen with no where to run when they are around. __________________ Jeanie and Tibbe One must do the best one can. You may get some marks for a very imperfect answer: you will certainly get none for leaving the question alone. C. S. Lewis

05-31-2014, 09:40 AM	#23
pink66 Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2013 Location: Aberdeen, MD Posts: 550	I just realized there is a big age difference, your son being only 5 and this kid being 11. The age difference plus the kid's behavior would concern me a whole bunch! If you want to let your son continue this friendship, I would say they need very strict supervision at all times they are together, mainly for your son's safety! __________________ Shannon & Puff "All his life he tried to be a good person. Many times, however, he failed; for after all he was only human. He wasn't a dog." Charles M. Schultz

05-31-2014, 02:42 PM	#25
Pam Shaw Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Feb 2014 Location: Crossville, Tennessee Posts: 228	Omg, I agree about the age difference issue! Not appropriate under the circumstances. Last edited by Pam Shaw; 05-31-2014 at 02:45 PM. Reason: To clarify what I agreed with.

05-31-2014, 07:51 PM	#26
capt_noonie www.yorkierescue.com Donating Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Las Vegas & Orange County Posts: 17,408	Oh I didn't even realize the age difference! Def NO! Imagine what will happen when the neighbor kid turns 13 or 14 and your son is only 7 or 8! __________________ The T.U.B. Pack! Toto, Uni, & Bindi RIP Lord Scrappington Montgomery McLimpybottom aka El Lenguo the Handicapped Ninja 10-12-12

06-11-2014, 02:27 PM	#30
Lil Sis Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: South Florida Posts: 8,008	Wow.just reading this. I am so sorry you hVe to deal with this family as a neighbor. My advice to to just "nip it in the bud". This mother does not have good values and they are being passed onto her son. She is no ya role model you want for your son. She doesn't sound like someone you would want as a friend. My dought had a friend like that.. She would just walk into our house. I found her in our kitchen making herself lunch one time! I was horrified! She is grown up now and she is a horrid person. Good luck __________________ Shinja mom to Remy lil Sis to Bailey and Sammy

05-30-2014, 12:32 PM	#18
Pam Shaw Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Feb 2014 Location: Crossville, Tennessee Posts: 228	Being a good parent is the hardest job in the world! You both are obviously very loving and responsible. As a retired teacher who has seen all kinds of kids and families, I salute your hard but rewarding job, and wish you good luck with this situation. Cole is a lucky boy!

05-31-2014, 11:34 PM	#27
crazydoglade YT Addict Join Date: Jan 2013 Location: california Posts: 405	One of my best friends has 4 kids that I love dearly but the 5 year old is constantly pivking at my dogs. This is their home. I'm not putting them up but the last straw was when he kicked my 4 pound baby Piper. His parents weren't here so I put him in time out. He did it again. He is now not allowed to come over unless his parents are here and watch him. If it happens again he will be banned. His parents know this. My house, my rules. You don't have to put up with another persons child. It sounds like his home life isn't safe. Mom frequently drunk and a child who wanders the neighborhood unsupervised.Maybe CPS needs to have a look at the home situation.

06-01-2014, 07:12 AM	#28
Pam Shaw Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Feb 2014 Location: Crossville, Tennessee Posts: 228	You are DEFINITELY doing the right thing!

06-11-2014, 01:40 PM	#29
chestermama YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: washington Posts: 3,383 Blog Entries: 1	I would not have been happy