Am I spoiling her too much? - YorkieTalk.com Forums

joyce evans · 04-04-2013, 01:15 PM

Everything is quite now because Hannah and I are at work. She is in her playpen sleeping quietly. BUT..when we get home and I place her in her kennel all ____ breaks loose. She will start barking non-stop and of course I can't take it anymore so I let all of my other dogs outside and then let Hannah out of her kennel for a while. I'll put her up and then have to repeat again. It's getting hard for me to get things done when at home because it's all about her. Am I spoiling her too much to bend at her every whimper?

Adamsfly · 04-04-2013, 01:29 PM

I just had this same conversation with my sister last night, lol. I never knew just how much a new puppy would actually steal my heart. Oakley certainly has from day one and is certainly spoiled too! I also give into his every whine, etc. to easily. I've had him since January 19th (he was 8 weeks old) and I cannot imagine life without him!

On Easter Sunday we all went to my oldest son's house and Oakley came along for the day. My sister said Oakley spent more time in my arms than on the ground, lol. My sister said I should just invest in a little purse because I never put him down.

He spends more time with my DH, son (younger one) and daughter than me yet when I get home from work he wants only me and yes, I love it, hehe. I barely have enough time to walk through the house to put my purse down and he's already barking for me to pick him up.

When it's "calgon take me away time" Oakley is just outside the door barking his little head off. I swear, if he could, he would squeeze his little body under the door.

I'm pretty new to this site and can bet you there at alot of us spoilers around.

Ldyrev1 · 04-04-2013, 01:34 PM

Yep, I imagine there are a lot here. I think I'm one! LOL Princess Sophie doesn't want to be picked up and carried all the time. When she's not napping in my arms, during the day, she's trying to get our mini-schnauzer to play. I love to watch but I wouldn't mind a bit more lap time here. HAHA!!

joyce evans · 04-04-2013, 01:49 PM

I hate to hear her bark and wine...it breaks my heart!! I'm with her all day and she fine. It's just when i get home and she sees the other dogs. She wants to play with them (not me) but she's just too little right now. I have to supervise them.

MandiesMom · 04-04-2013, 02:01 PM

I didn't even have to read your post - I just read the title and said, out loud to the computer screen, "Yup. Probably."

I mean, don't we all? They have us trained and they know it lol

Deb1 · 04-04-2013, 02:02 PM

Oh, ya...

...spoiled and loved to the max, 24/7!

yavenay · 04-04-2013, 02:52 PM

It's those big brown teddy bear eyes.......gets you every single time. Don't look into their eyes and you might have a chance

dawn27 · 04-04-2013, 03:33 PM

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Originally Posted by MandiesMom

I didn't even have to read your post - I just read the title and said, out loud to the computer screen, "Yup. Probably."

I mean, don't we all? They have us trained and they know it lol

LOL Terri .... I did the same thing but I dont talk to my computer, that would just be crazy.

But in my head I said: " If you have to ask than the answer it Yes ! "

The worse thing you can do when trying to teach a pup to be independent is to take them out of their cage or x-pen when they are whining and crying. They must learn to sooth themselves and you must learn to deal with it the best you can and to ignore them when they in that state of mind. You are not only adding to their temper tantrum you are teaching them that if they whine long enough that they will get their way. (Just like a child) The behavior is learned by how you react to them when they are doing it. You never reward them when they are in a frantic state of mind but only when they are calm. By you giving into the whining he now knows that it works. He'll continue to do it until you make the choice to ignore it.

We all know how hard it is to ignore our babies when they are crying but as long as they are fed, warm, safe and sound they will be fine. Its not easy I know, I've been there lots of times but if you want a well balanced pup it worth it.

Ok , Im done going all Cesar on you all now !!

MandiesMom · 04-04-2013, 04:25 PM

Dawn - helllooooo! I'm the woman that takes pics of my kiddo while on the toilet. Of COURSE I'm crazy.

dawn27 · 04-04-2013, 04:37 PM

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Originally Posted by MandiesMom

Dawn - helllooooo! I'm the woman that takes pics of my kiddo while on the toilet. Of COURSE I'm crazy.

No Comment !!

ilovejoel · 04-04-2013, 05:29 PM

The only way is to wait until she stops whining

My Joel learned that fast, I trained him to accept being ignored lol

Jess87 · 04-04-2013, 05:38 PM

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Originally Posted by ilovejoel

The only way is to wait until she stops whining

My Joel learned that fast, I trained him to accept being ignored lol

I'm working on this now with Dexter. Seems to be going ok so far.

joyce evans · 04-05-2013, 06:03 AM

Dawn27,

That is what I needed to know. I do feel bad when I ignore her but trust me I love her from near to far and beyond. It's just that I have other animals to love and care for not to mention the everyday cooking, cleaning...She gets her play time and mommy time. I just don't want to leave her in her kennel if it is stressing her out too badly. With my other breeds I would let them cry until they finally figured it out and calmed down but I'm finding that Yorkies are not like any other breeds and she keeps me on pins and needles. Thank you soo much for taking the time to respond to me as I was seriously seeking advise on this subject and yesterday I just didn't have the time to type everything I wanted to express.

mperran1974 · 04-05-2013, 06:11 AM

If at anytime I am sitting down, she is in my lap. The kids also spoil her rotten with lots of kisses and playing.

yavenay · 04-05-2013, 06:37 AM

I think it's important to set boundaries for puppies. I have two seniors one cat 13 and my yorkie 12. I spoiled the heck out of them though because I set boundaries for them at the very beginning. They know what's allowed and what isn't so spoiling them is not an issue.
Although I will admit the older my cat gets, the more cantankerous she gets

. She's beginning to break all the rules. When my last cat did this, she her health was in decline and after 15 yrs she past away so I am keeping a close eye on Zoey.

Now that they are both seniors about the only thing I don't give in on is their diet. They both have special diets and no matter how much they give me those sad looks, I will not give them anything else to eat. Everything else, they pretty much get away with.

04-04-2013, 01:15 PM	#1
joyce evans YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2013 Location: houston Posts: 1,519	Am I spoiling her too much? Everything is quite now because Hannah and I are at work. She is in her playpen sleeping quietly. BUT..when we get home and I place her in her kennel all ____ breaks loose. She will start barking non-stop and of course I can't take it anymore so I let all of my other dogs outside and then let Hannah out of her kennel for a while. I'll put her up and then have to repeat again. It's getting hard for me to get things done when at home because it's all about her. Am I spoiling her too much to bend at her every whimper? __________________ Hannah's Mom

04-04-2013, 01:34 PM	#3
Ldyrev1 Princess Sophie's Choice Donating Member Join Date: Jan 2013 Location: Clinton, IL, DeWitt County Posts: 2,758	Yep, I imagine there are a lot here. I think I'm one! LOL Princess Sophie doesn't want to be picked up and carried all the time. When she's not napping in my arms, during the day, she's trying to get our mini-schnauzer to play. I love to watch but I wouldn't mind a bit more lap time here. HAHA!! __________________ Diane owned and loved by Hansel and Princess Sophie

04-04-2013, 01:49 PM	#4
joyce evans YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2013 Location: houston Posts: 1,519	I hate to hear her bark and wine...it breaks my heart!! I'm with her all day and she fine. It's just when i get home and she sees the other dogs. She wants to play with them (not me) but she's just too little right now. I have to supervise them. __________________ Hannah's Mom

04-04-2013, 02:01 PM	#5
MandiesMom and Shelby's too Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2012 Location: Millbrook, AL Posts: 7,842	I didn't even have to read your post - I just read the title and said, out loud to the computer screen, "Yup. Probably." I mean, don't we all? They have us trained and they know it lol __________________ Terri, proud mom to Mandie & Shelby-Dale

04-04-2013, 02:02 PM	#6
Deb1 YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2012 Location: Iowa Posts: 2,983 Blog Entries: 3	Oh, ya......spoiled and loved to the max, 24/7! __________________ Proud Mommy to Max, Teeka, Tatiana and forever in my heart Tameka! My sunshine doesn't come from the skies, it comes from my puppies eyes!

04-04-2013, 01:29 PM	#2
Adamsfly Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jan 2013 Location: Kenner, LA USA Posts: 75	I just had this same conversation with my sister last night, lol. I never knew just how much a new puppy would actually steal my heart. Oakley certainly has from day one and is certainly spoiled too! I also give into his every whine, etc. to easily. I've had him since January 19th (he was 8 weeks old) and I cannot imagine life without him! On Easter Sunday we all went to my oldest son's house and Oakley came along for the day. My sister said Oakley spent more time in my arms than on the ground, lol. My sister said I should just invest in a little purse because I never put him down. He spends more time with my DH, son (younger one) and daughter than me yet when I get home from work he wants only me and yes, I love it, hehe. I barely have enough time to walk through the house to put my purse down and he's already barking for me to pick him up. When it's "calgon take me away time" Oakley is just outside the door barking his little head off. I swear, if he could, he would squeeze his little body under the door. I'm pretty new to this site and can bet you there at alot of us spoilers around.

04-04-2013, 02:52 PM	#7
yavenay Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Delaware Posts: 2,663	It's those big brown teddy bear eyes.......gets you every single time. Don't look into their eyes and you might have a chance

04-04-2013, 04:25 PM	#9
MandiesMom and Shelby's too Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2012 Location: Millbrook, AL Posts: 7,842	Dawn - helllooooo! I'm the woman that takes pics of my kiddo while on the toilet. Of COURSE I'm crazy. __________________ Terri, proud mom to Mandie & Shelby-Dale

04-04-2013, 05:29 PM	#11
ilovejoel Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Alaska Posts: 3,299	The only way is to wait until she stops whining My Joel learned that fast, I trained him to accept being ignored lol __________________ ℜachael JoelRoxy iLoveJoely.com

04-05-2013, 06:03 AM	#13
joyce evans YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2013 Location: houston Posts: 1,519	Dawn27, That is what I needed to know. I do feel bad when I ignore her but trust me I love her from near to far and beyond. It's just that I have other animals to love and care for not to mention the everyday cooking, cleaning...She gets her play time and mommy time. I just don't want to leave her in her kennel if it is stressing her out too badly. With my other breeds I would let them cry until they finally figured it out and calmed down but I'm finding that Yorkies are not like any other breeds and she keeps me on pins and needles. Thank you soo much for taking the time to respond to me as I was seriously seeking advise on this subject and yesterday I just didn't have the time to type everything I wanted to express. __________________ Hannah's Mom

04-05-2013, 06:11 AM	#14
mperran1974 YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Oct 2012 Location: splendora, tx Posts: 701	If at anytime I am sitting down, she is in my lap. The kids also spoil her rotten with lots of kisses and playing. __________________ Michelle-mommy to Chloe also mommy to Haley and Tyler

04-05-2013, 06:37 AM	#15
yavenay Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Delaware Posts: 2,663	I think it's important to set boundaries for puppies. I have two seniors one cat 13 and my yorkie 12. I spoiled the heck out of them though because I set boundaries for them at the very beginning. They know what's allowed and what isn't so spoiling them is not an issue. Although I will admit the older my cat gets, the more cantankerous she gets . She's beginning to break all the rules. When my last cat did this, she her health was in decline and after 15 yrs she past away so I am keeping a close eye on Zoey. Now that they are both seniors about the only thing I don't give in on is their diet. They both have special diets and no matter how much they give me those sad looks, I will not give them anything else to eat. Everything else, they pretty much get away with.