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10-11-2012, 03:02 PM | #1 |
Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Ft myers,fl usa
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| I'm heartbroken, not going to get Charlie :,( I just emailed the lady and told her i have decided against adopting him. Without going into to many details this last year has been very challenging to say the least, with our 14 yo son. I like to pretend that everything k is okay. But the pay couple of days have really opened my eyes a bit. He is so angry and defiant. Today I'm actually thinking of a home for troubled youth?? I don't think it's fair to bring in a new dog, that is going to be upset and scared already into my unpredictable ( using this term lightly) home. I'm just so sad. Charlie seemed perfect. Have to keep reminding myself that your time will come. 3 1/2 more years, ...please don't think i do not love my son, but sometimes it's very challenging to like him. I'm a kitchen manager at an Elem school. Today during breakfast, a first grader came through the line with a sad look on his face, i said Philip what's wrong, why are you so sad, he pulled it of his pocket .07. , he says this is all i have for the book fair,omg that just broke my heart. I said what book do you want? He said diary of a wimpy kid. I said does it matter which one? He said no any of them. I told him go sit down I'll be right back. The book was 7.00 that was the best money i gaffer EVER spent. Taught me a lesson today, probably a little to late, my kids do not go without anything. Nice clothes, phones, computers, etc.these kids that have nothing appreciate everything. Ok im done, thanks for listening.. Janet |
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10-11-2012, 03:12 PM | #2 |
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| I'm so sorry. I know how you feel about your kids. I love them dearly but have spoiled them, just wanting them to be happy. They don't appreciate things like kids who don't have so much do. Very sweet of you to get the book for the little boy. ((Hugs))
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10-11-2012, 03:28 PM | #3 |
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| It is probably for the best. You made the right decision As for the little boy, I bet you made his day. What a good deed!
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10-11-2012, 03:44 PM | #4 |
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| I am so sorry about this troubled son you have.....this is a piece of your heart and soul that is breaking. Are you as a family, getting any help from anyone? Counseling? Interventions? I can NOT even imagine what you will do to get through this....If you feel a home for troubled youth is necessary to help your son deal with the demons he is fighting in his young life, then by all means, provide that for him. As a parent, we have to do whatever we can do to get these kids in a position where they can become stable productive citizens. Perhaps counseling for him with a psychologist or psychiatrist.....that may be what it takes to get him the coping skills he is lacking.......good luck, sweetie...I am so sorry you are having this trouble...that was a very kind thing you did for someone elses son, and I bet he will remember that all his life. That small thing you did for him, was monumental to him......and as far as a pup, you made the right decision.....you will get your puppy one day, and it will be the perfect time for both you and the puppy...... |
10-11-2012, 03:48 PM | #5 |
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| Sounds like you made the right choice for now. How sweet I bet you made that little boys day!
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10-11-2012, 03:51 PM | #6 |
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| i understand/ I have a biopolar 28 year old son and it has been very challenging since he was 15 years old// i think that it was wonderful that you bought that book for that little boy// what a gift you gave him |
10-11-2012, 04:21 PM | #7 |
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| Your not alone. There are a lot of parents going through the same thing. We do our best for our kids but then they go out and are exposed to a world of things that we have no idea about. Many of kids that our children go to school with have homes that have little or no parental guidance. Some have parents that never matured properly themselves. All these kids are put together in one pot and the mixture is not always good. It's very difficult when a child turns that age and becomes someone that you don't seem to know anymore. I hope you can find a support group of some kind to help you. In some areas there is little help. It seems like society has just accepted the fact that kids are going to act like this because of the fact that the family unit is not intact in so many cases. |
10-11-2012, 04:43 PM | #8 |
Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Grove Oklahoma
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| God bless any parent dealing with a teen in crisis. I am so glad I survived raising 2 of those creatures(teenagers) shudder.....Keep looking up because that is where your strength will come. Prayer is half the battle it will save you, and guide you. You will survive the teen thing keep telling yourself that. But I will tell you as a parent-- after raising 2 teenagers I know why alligators ate their young.... Had to be when they reached puberty!!!!!!! Very sure not getting a yorkie was a a heartbreaking decision I concure with others you did right thing.... Part of why yorkietalk works is the great people that belong. Anytime you need someone to vent to or use as a sounding board we have hugs to offer and listening hearts with non judmental listening skills. Vent away!!!!!! Hugs to you, hang in there!!
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10-11-2012, 04:49 PM | #9 |
Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Ft myers,fl usa
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| Thank you all for your kind words. I naively thought that you just love your kids , give them what they want /need and they will grow and be the same loving person . He is testing every fiber of patience i have. We have gone to therapy but he now refuses to go. When it's something he doesn't want to do, he simply won't do it. He's to big to physically make him, and i haven't found a mental way either. All of you are so caring , to someone you don't even know. Thank you Janet , |
10-11-2012, 04:49 PM | #10 | |
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10-11-2012, 05:21 PM | #11 |
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| Oh Janet, I'm so sorry things have turned out this way, but you probably did the best thing. It's a shame cuz everything about that dog seemed so right for you. Hang in there with your son--you definitely have my sympathy. Teenagers can be such hellions! (I was one of them, lol!). When the time is right, there will be the perfect yorkie in your future!
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10-11-2012, 06:24 PM | #12 |
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| You are an angel on earth. Praying for your son that he gets past his rebelious stage. It gets harder every year to cope with teen's . You are an angel for buying that little boy his book, to bad there are not more people out there like you. You will be truly blessed in your next life. So sorry you can not adopt Charlie right now but there will other pupster's in the future, There are alway's Yorkies that need a good home. Praying thing's get better at home. Have a good day will be thinking of you often. Anne/Luci |
10-11-2012, 06:59 PM | #13 |
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| Hugs to you!!! I love it when people go out of their way to make someone else smile. Those $7 were probably not a big deal to you, but that little boy will never, ever forget the kindness you showed him. I hope things work out with your son. Don't lose your hope. The kindness you showed will be returned you 10x!!
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10-11-2012, 07:08 PM | #14 |
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| It's so sad you are not going to get Charlie...it may be the best thing, but still sad. It's a common problem anymore...kids...behavior...also sad. Thank you for helping that child, though...you are such an angel! You know, when I first moved to FL, my youngest was in 2nd grade and that school said that "United Way Day" they held a "festival" at the school for the kids...parents and public were welcome, too. No mention of what that entailed, however, for the newly transplanted, unaware family. So, my child went to school as usual...no cash in his pockets. He told me that afternoon that being at the festival...which was a requirement...meant that he was expected to spend money or do...NOTHING! So, having no money, he just kind of hung out in the computers/games area, and another child's father noticed he wasn't playing any of the games and asked if he didn't like compputer games. My child said he liked them, then the dad caught on and asked if he had any money. When my child said, "no," that dad gave him several quarters so he could participate. I probably should say that my child had a computer at home, and lots of games. He is today in early 30's (older than me now, since I am only 26...lol), and is himself now a computer programmer, and taught himself the Assembler programming language when he was 11 years old. So, deprived of computer games he wasn't...bored and ostracized for lack of quarters in his pockets that day, he was. I appreciated the caring and generosity of that dad, and so did my child. It wasn't that we didn't have money he could have spent at the festival, we just didn't know he needed money that day. I will save my opinion of that 'hard sell charity' organization, but tell you emphatically that I NEVER sent my child to that school on "United Way Day" again WITHOUT being heavily armed with quarters...to share with the really poor children there...and he did!!!
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10-11-2012, 07:22 PM | #15 |
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| Aw! I'm sorry... but you know... it's not meant to be until everything falls into place. I couldn't wait till the kids grew up and moved out (they're so cute when they're little!). Then I got 3 more dogs! Then the kids and a few grandkids moved back in! It's a pain, but I am adamant about keeping the youngsters away from my dogs. And pretty much keep a close eye on their parents when they're around them as well, lol!
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