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10-04-2012, 07:09 PM | #16 |
Donating YT 3000 Club Member | I am sorry for all you are experiencing. I agree with the ladies above. Become the primary caregiver. And food is the way to a little dogs heart. Also have a special treat only you give him. Good luck and hugs |
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10-04-2012, 07:36 PM | #17 |
Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: South Florida
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| I am sending prayers that you overcome your illness and stay strong! We (dh and I) have had two girls and three boys pups over the years. The boys are alway attached to me and the girls to him. I will say our little yorkie is attached to both but just a wee little bit more to him. I think it is because he plays with them more, and I do the bad stuff like baths and brushing You have received good advise... and I wish you the very best
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10-04-2012, 08:42 PM | #18 |
YT Addict Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: nj
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| I agree, you need to do everything for him for a little while and see if that helps. Did your husband do most things for him when you first brought him home? When Maggie was little I was the one who stayed near her so she could be taken out to potty every few hours. Her very first week when she was sad and lonely I was the one who cuddled her so she would sleep some more (and so i could sleep instead of having her cry in her cage). Obviously I fed her several times a day...all this while Dad was at work. This may be why I am her "lay with" person. Dad, however, was always playmate and treatman. It's hard to say who she prefers. She seems to like to lay with me on the sofa, but I still don't know if it's me she wants, or just the configuration of how I lay, but you can count on her to jump up when I lay down to watch TV. Dad however, gets her the most excited. She waits for him to come home and greets him enthusiastically. If it's playtime she's looking for she'll often start it with him. Almost every night around 8:30 she will gaze at him from the floor and at the slightest signal she is up on the sofa almost trying to grab his hand off his computer so he can get her a snack. She will snuggle and whine at him until he asks if she wants one. She doesn't do it with me, even when he is away, so it's a thing with them. My oldest son represents food. She mainly wanders into his room when he has taken food up there! You have to become more meaningful (than your husband) in some way. Have a special "thing." Food is a very good place to start. Good luck, I'm sure when he gets more settled in and calms down you will find your place with him. |
10-04-2012, 09:38 PM | #19 |
YT Addict Join Date: May 2012 Location: secaucus, nj
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| Hi there, First, I wish you the best in your fight with cancer. As others have mentioned, stay strong. My son has leukemia so I do know that your emotional well-being is so important to your treatment and recovery. Second, don't be deterred with your pups' behavior. It's so difficult to compare your new baby to the one you so sadly lost. Every puppy is different, yet you can work with him to develop a close bond for both of you. As others have said, you should become the human devoted to your baby for a while. Perhaps your DH can step back so that the bond between you and your pup grows. Anecdotally, my daughter is the primary caretaker for our Lucy. She takes her out for walks, plays with her and feeds her - sometimes by hand! Lucy follows her everywhere and cries when she leaves. She will be attending a week long school trip next week. I've had my daughter drop the reigns some so that my son (who'll be the stand-in caretaker) can bond with Lucy. Well, in not very much time, it's been working! My son takes Lucy for walks, feeds her (sometimes by hand ), carries her around and plays with her. Now, it seems that Lucy is becoming equally comfortable and affectionate with both my children. Lately, she's even been sleeping in the bed with my son. I also think that perhaps you're still quite sad and grieving over the loss of Gizmo. You really have to allow yourself to love another puppy as much. I believe that dogs are receptive to our feelings. You must be completely willing to adore this puppy as much as Gizmo. It's so difficult not to compare the two puppies. But I think you must give your new baby total devotion. You can do it! Stay positive and focussed. I'm certain several months from now you'll have a completely different view of the relationship you have with this baby! Good luck and stay well. Tracey |
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