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Old 08-28-2011, 01:52 AM   #1
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My nan/best friend/ second mum lost battle with cancer on Friday!! Its only been a few days and i still aint stop crying! The whole family are in peices and i was just wondering if poppy will be ok! Im know she knows something is the matter and she been standing staring at me for ages without moving.... just looking at me, she did this alot yesterday and again this morning. How can i make this eaiser on her?
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Old 08-28-2011, 02:55 AM   #2
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I'm so sorry. I knew she was very ill. My heart goes out to you. I know how much you loved her. Pick Poppy up and hold her and tell her how much you love her. She knows something is terribly wrong. You just want her to feel safe and she will as long as you hold her and let her know that she is loved and secure.
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Old 08-28-2011, 04:28 AM   #3
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i am so sorry for your loss. i dont have advise, just wanted to say your in my prayers
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Old 08-28-2011, 05:35 AM   #4
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I'm so sorry to hear about your nana
I think animals can be a great comfort at times like these, dogs are very sensitive to emotions and she will be able to sense how you are feeling.
I know when my gran died I felt I needed to talk to someone, but didn't want to upset anyone. So I spoke to my dogs about her, they are great listeners.
Just hug Poppy and think about all of the happy times you had with your nana, she is in a better place now. xxx
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Old 08-28-2011, 05:39 AM   #5
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Our dogs seem to understand what is going on with us and most are quite understanding in their own way through our troubles. Some dogs get tense and overanxious and require some doggie time of a vigorous playtime, a good walk, a training session or a good long scratch/massage followed by some loving and hugging to make them feel we are still ok with them. Some dogs seem to think our brooding/sadness is directed at them and get quite tense so if you have a doggie that is acting strange, please give her some extra time to bolster the sense of bonding with you. Your dogs reaction sounds like most dogs, though. They sense something is wrong with us and are curious and wondering what happened to us and why we have changed. If you can manage, a little dog time would make her feel you are still a close team and all is ok.
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Old 08-28-2011, 07:10 AM   #6
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Sending sympathy for your loss. Hugs for you. Poppy knows something is wrong but can't see, smell, hear, taste, what it is. Poppy will be fine just give hugs and talk to her about Nana. She can be a great comfort to you. I think it helps to talk to them because they do sense something is wrong with us. Our body chemistry changes when we are sad, happy, fearful and sharing tears helps us heal.

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Old 08-28-2011, 07:33 AM   #7
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So sorry to hear of your loss. Hope the strength of great memories will help you through your grief.
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Natasha, I'm so sorry to hear about losing your Nan! My heart goes out to you and your family. Your YT family is here if you need us, ok? Poppy is probably just wondering why Mummy is so sad--these little ones are very intuitive, so just hold her close, tell her whats on your mind, and she'll just be glad for the interaction!
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Thinking of you, hug your puppy, remember your Nana with love.
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hugs to you and ss for your loss. My yorkie binky actually mourned the loss of my husband along with me in different but very the same way. They truly are sensitive and will provide you with a lot of comfort even if they are also feeling the pain of the loss. My little girl would pull down a hoodie off a hanger and lay on it by the door every day waiting for her daddy. she eventually, got past that part of grieving it took her a long while. she also acted out a bit for a while missing her potty pad to express her dislike and with patience she got past that. I lost my little girl back in january and would not have got through the loss her my hubby/her daddy without her by my side.
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I'm really sorry, Natasha. I know how great this loss is and how special your Nana will always be to you. You and Poppy should rely on each other to help you cope with your grief. The love you feel for your Nana will always remain a part of you. I hope the pain eases in time and that you can smile again when you remember beautiful memories of your Nana.
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I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. It's amazing how our babies know when we're down as well. The best advice I can give it to just cuddle and be with Poppy. She knows you're down and will want to comfort you. So go ahead and hug and cuddle 'til your heart begins to hurt a little bit less. Remember, your loved ones have a way of still always looking out for us, and in your case I'm sure it's through little miss Poppy.

Prayers for comfort and peace will be sent your way.

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Old 08-29-2011, 02:06 PM   #13
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Thank you everyone! I feel kinda numb at the moment. This is the only place i feel i can talk about it. Was horrible today cleaning out all her stuff in her house and sorting though her things, felt wrong and as if i was intruding! The undertakers came and talked about her funeral and i just sat there lisening to my mum and aunty cry and get upset. I feel like i should be smiling and telling them its gonna be ok and not to get upset, so thats what i am doing.

I looked after my nan when she was ill and its just been me and my nan for the last 6years. I visited her everyday coz my mum lived abroad and my aunty lived 3 hours away. It was kinda just me and my nan, my brother was around but he wasnt to bothered (kinda selfish) My family think it aint hit me yet, and in a way i think there right. I know after the funeral and when my family have all gone home i am gonna be left all alone i wont know what to do, i am gonna miss her so much My OH has been wonderful but i wont even show my emotions to him! I just want this all to be a dream!!
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Prayers and Hugs to you for the loss of your precious Nana. I am sure you have wonderful loving memories.
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You will always have wonderful memories of your Nana. No one can take that away from you.
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