Baby Bella meets Big boy Max

[GiMorale]

hello everyone,

I joined this forum when I first got my baby Max back in 2008 and it helped me so much that here I am hoping you can help me with this.

So, Max was the best decision I ever made. I got him for myself when I was at a very low point in my life and he has made me so happy. I can't imagine my life without him. So its been for a while now that although its been great so far, I have been thinking and talking a lot about getting another yorkie. I've been reading about it and trying to learn as much as I can about how to go best about this but - I haven't gone about it because my schedule with work and all - its been tuff and Max gets ALL of my time when I'm home

So, a very close friend of mine went ahead and got me a new yorkie Friday. he told me after work he had to see me and that he would meet me at Grand Central after work. I'm thinking ok, well I've been depressed about Valentine's day rolling around and being single and all - I thought maybe movie tickets or chocolates -- boy was I wrong. he surprised me with a Yorkie in is backpack!! Now, I seem to know more about what goes behind such a decision rather than he does and so I was completely shocked. In his backpack there she was, the cutest yorkie ever. At 10 wks old (from the few papers she came with) there she was. Now, I tried to be as appreciative as I could but I just couldn't help but just blow up with 100's of questions like, where did you get her? Who are her parents? I want to see them -- and from his reaction I saw what I was hoping wasn't the case.

he picked her up from the airport, ordered her online.

Now here I am with the new addition "Bella" and my terrified 3 year old "Max." Max is really just, used to it being just me and him. he's very calm and Sweet, everyone refers to him as a sweetheart... I like to think I raised him that way. Now Bella on the other hand - I love her, she has certainly won my heart but she doesn't display the same behavior as Max when he was a baby. I know she's going to be a tuff cookie. Right now I'm dealing with trying to get her to go on the pads and getting her away from all the loose chords in the house. I never went through this with Max.

I need help. I have to go to work tomorrow and I'm afraid. I have bought a bunch of toys and treats for Max - all she wants to do is play, she's a baby but my big baby isn't having it. She chases him and its clear he's afraid. Very afraid - he runs to me and its really breaking my heart. It's really important to me that he's comfortable with this new situation and he isn't.

When she's sleeping, he goes up to her and smells her but at his pace - he's, a complete gentleman. I Love him like... just typing this makes me want to cry - I'm a complete mess right now lol.

Bella - is now in my room barking about I don't know what. I am off to check on her and pray for a point in some direction as I am very lost at what to do. Sorry for the long story.

Thank you.

[Maximo]

Originally Posted by GiMorale

When she's sleeping, he goes up to her and smells her but at his pace - he's, a complete gentleman.

That is so sweet! Congratulations on your new pup. I understand you are overwhelmed right now, but rest assured, everything will work out over time.

I would recommend putting your pup in an xpen with a bed, piddle pad, food and water, when you go to work.

Check out Vivian's thread. She recently added a pup to her family and she is facing some of the same challenges:
http://www.yorkietalk.com/forums/gen...-any-tips.html

[misslissa]

I wish I had more advice but all i can say is hang on Im sure it will get better she is probably just insecure by the sudden changes

[Mom2TwoYorkies]

It'll be ok . . .really . . .deep breaths . . .

Its a slow transition, but, it will work out . . .honest . . .Brody was 2 when we got Rhianna and he was a quiet, submissive sweetheart too . . .It took a week or so for him to get used to Rhianna being around . . .they are inseparable now . . .

Since you have to work tomorrow, I would keep Bella in a different room and when you get home, ALWAYS go to Max first . . praises, kisses, treats, etc.

[GiMorale]

oh you guys are great! Always go to Max first!! I have to chant that.

Maximo, Vivian is going through the exact same thing - Thank you so much. Just knowing that there is hope and things will get better is soothing, I'll just stick it out and continue to hang in there. I originally thought Max's behavior might have been a sign of something more serious. It's just a part of the process

[Lil Sis]

It will work out... trust me and all the great yt people that have great advise.

I think the main thing now is to keep her safe, a xpen would be great (I found they are less expensive from toys r us then dog places- same ones just different pictures on box) and try to not let you fear spread to you alpha dog

That was a very very nice present, maybe not thought out too well but the heart was there.... you must have given lots of indications you wanted another and I guess this little gal was meant to be yours --good luck xo

[Yorkiedaze]

Your friend has a very big, warm heart, but not dealing with reality I'm afraid. One should never give an animal as a gift. Getting a puppy then having to go to work all day generally doesn't work so well with house training. Do you have someone you could leave her with? You may need an expen and attach it to a crate (cover the crate with a blanket making it like a den and keeping the draft out) and a washable potty pad, water bottle and food cup attached to the expen, (so she can't turn them over) but she needs to be taken outside to run around and potty about every hour. She will need to eat every three hours and also have Nutri-Cal on hand. Do you have anyone who can come over during the day to hellp take care of her?

[Patti]

I know every time I brought a new one in to the house it was an adjustment. Especially when you weren't expecting to have one. You forget how hard the puppy phase can be. I bet in a short time they will be best friends. Max will have company while you are at work as well. Can you check on them at lunch or have someone else check for a couple of weeks to make sure they are ok? Is she eating kibble? If so you can leave her food out for her. Just take it day by day.

[viviansnickers]

Hang in there Sweetie....it is an adjustment process, one that I am going through right now....I feel your pain and nerves!!!!!!

Hugs--
Vivian

[GiMorale]

Thnx ladies - I went yesterday and bought this octagon shaped closed in gate thing. I have it in the center of my living room. In it is her bed, toys and wee wee pad. I had my best friend pet sit for me today and he said it went well. She knows that is her area, it completely amazes me. She takes her toys inside of it (when we leave it open) and totally goes in it and plays. She slept in it last night and woke up crying a few times but would go back to sleep.

Max still doesn't want anything to do with her.

[Maximo]

Originally Posted by GiMorale

Thnx ladies - I went yesterday and bought this octagon shaped closed in gate thing. I have it in the center of my living room. In it is her bed, toys and wee wee pad. I had my best friend pet sit for me today and he said it went well. She knows that is her area, it completely amazes me. She takes her toys inside of it (when we leave it open) and totally goes in it and plays. She slept in it last night and woke up crying a few times but would go back to sleep.

Max still doesn't want anything to do with her.

I'm glad your pup likes her new little "home" and that she is doing well. Max will come around in time and he will grow to love having companionship.

[Wabbit]

awwww Can't wait to SEE PICS!!!! Sounds like Bella's adjusting well to the situation!

Don't worry about Max.....Sounds like he's a very sweet little guy....it could take a week or TWO for him to get used to the new baby girl...but they'll be the best of friends!! You'll see!

When I introduced Tulip to our house...it took them several weeks to bond....but now they are inseparable!!!! And eventually.... Max will have a buddy to hang with while mom's working!!