I need your advise please

[MyPann]

So here is a little background the quick version, my parents are getting a divorce started this past august when my mom found out about his gf (who is almost the same age as me barley three years differnce ) Divorced proceedings began in February. well now I've taken on the responsibility of driving my three younger siblings 16, 14, & 13 to NY to have their first week long visitation with our father. It's also the first time we will be meeting his gf--i say this loosely and just want to make it known I have many other names I want to call her & him --He lives with her so we will all be staying with her in her house. I was told that I was more than welcome to bring Pann. She has an middle age dog, hes a large dog maybe a bulldog or something similar. I've been told he super friendly. What do you guys think? Car rides don't bother Pann, he loves other dogs, but he does like to mark. (He's getting fixed this summer) I keep going back and forth over weather or not to bring him. And I can only bring him not Artemis, so I worry about separating them for a week?? Pann is up to date on all his shots. I feel like I'm making to big of a deal out of this but I can't decide and my feelings are all clouded because I love Pann and he helps me threw things. But I can't help but wonder if I'm going to be making to much trouble for myself or if this will be too stressful for Pann??? i don't know sorry this is so long I just can't decide Please any and all advise would be helpful and I'd be beyond greatfull

[cathys]

I so sorry you are having to deal with this. I think if it makes you feel better you should take him with you. I'm sure you will have a room you can keep him in to keep him safe and out of trouble. This is not going to be an easy visit, so maybe having you little friend with you will help. I know I would want someone to hang onto if it were me, but thats just my opinion.

[miabellaamoure]

First, I am sorry for what you & your siblings are dealing with but, bringing Pann just might be a great distraction from the awkwardness of this new situation you about to enter.

If I might be so bold...may I ask why your father is not coming to see you & your siblings? Why are you being expected to travel to see him for "his" visitations?

[MyPann]

Originally Posted by miabellaamoure

First, I am sorry for what you & your siblings are dealing with but, bringing Pann just might be a great distraction from the awkwardness of this new situation you about to enter.

If I might be so bold...may I ask why your father is not coming to see you & your siblings? Why are you being expected to travel to see him for "his" visitations?

I don't mind we are going to see him because he isn't speaking with most of his family and friends bc they disagree with his decisions and he doesn't like that, he told his mom my gma that she was grounded for a year from talking to him rofl Right now he's a bit ridiculous and not his old self? soooo... we just have to deal with it and role with the punches. And I do believe he won't be spending all his time with us because his new "college/alternative life" he's living requires him to party and drink a lot. I'm in college and I don't do that but w/e I'm just hoping this doesn't completely ruin his relationship with my siblings. But they are the most important right now so I'll do what I need to do for them and they need their dad hopefully he can see this and make more of an effort to be accommodating to them next time.

[kjc]

I would leave him home this time. Too many emotions going on he can pick up on. Go, meet and greet everybody, pay special attention to the big dog (get to know him).

If you need support hopefully one of your siblings could fit the bill this time.

Check out the house, look for safety issues for a small dog, that way next trip you'll be more relaxed and he'll be safe if you do happen to get distracted.

Might be better to introduce him to the big dog after he's neutered anyway.

Hope you have a good trip...

[My Sophia]

wow, I know this is going to be hard on you and your siblings. I'd say leave Pann at home until you can scope out the situation at your dad's new place. Maybe next time for him and it'll give you time to pick up a belly band or two to prevent the marking. Maybe Pann and Artemis could spend the weekend with your mom to keep her company and help distract her.

[Roccosmommy]

Originally Posted by kjc

I would leave him home this time. Too many emotions going on he can pick up on. Go, meet and greet everybody, pay special attention to the big dog (get to know him).

If you need support hopefully one of your siblings could fit the bill this time.

Check out the house, look for safety issues for a small dog, that way next trip you'll be more relaxed and he'll be safe if you do happen to get distracted.

Might be better to introduce him to the big dog after he's neutered anyway.

Hope you have a good trip...

My thoughts exactly. You already have enough emotional unknowns to deal with on this trip...why add more stress and possibly have Pann in a stressful and/or unsafe situation. Scope it out and think about it for the next time. So sorry you are having to go through this...sounds like you have more responsibility and maturity in your pinky finger than your dad has in his whole body. Best of luck to all of you in this crappy situation that you didn't ask for.

[yorkieusa]

I wish you the best whatever you do. If you do take him, you might want to take some bellybands.

[BanditSocks2]

I don't know if you should take or leave Pann, but I do want to say that you're doing a great thing taking your younger siblings for their first time to see your father, especially since he's living at his "girlfriends" house. I'm sure this means more to them than they'll ever be able to express. Hugs to you!

[MyPann]

Originally Posted by yorkieusa

I wish you the best whatever you do. If you do take him, you might want to take some bellybands.

I'm leaning to not taking him but then I see his little face and I want him to go lol and as for belly bands we don't have any and I highly doubt I could get one by Wednesday evening were leaving super early Thursday--but I am open to that

[2Morkies]

I say take him. He might help to keep you calm enough not to strangle the little hussy. UGGH...I'm so sorry you have to deal with this....I went through that with my dad, but she was an old hussy with money...I still want to strangle her and my dad died in a work accident 5 years ago.
Another good thing about taking him is you'll have the excuse to always take him out for a walk if you need some air. "Opps I need to take Pann out again even though it was 15 min ago""
What ever you can do just make sure he never marries the trallup... My dad did and after he died she sued my mom for her divorce settlement.....and WON. This really can't be healthy for your siblings. I'm so sorry...I say take him and let him mark his heart out...(just kidding about the marking...take him though)
Hey, did you hear about that lady that sued her husband's mistress and WON 9 million dollars????

[DvlshAngel985]

Originally Posted by MyPann

I'm leaning to not taking him but then I see his little face and I want him to go lol and as for belly bands we don't have any and I highly doubt I could get one by Wednesday evening were leaving super early Thursday--but I am open to that

They have some at PetSmart you could pickup. Unfortunately, the ones I've seen in stores have an elastic band all around. I'm pretty sure Pann can use his yorkie smarts to get it off. It will probably do the trick for this trip if you decide to take him. Belly bands are good to have regardless. I always pack one when we visit my relatives, or go on trips and stay at hotels. Kaji doesn't mark, but I like to be prepared. The one time I didn't have one was the one time he peed on a friend's coffee table.

[stingraylady]

I just want to comment on how impressed I am with your attitude! You sound like great support for your siblings. Keep strong through this difficult time.

[MyPann]

I want to thank everyone for your support I really appreciate it you all are wonderful. This support is why I love YT. I wish I could put my appreciation in words right now for all your kind words but there isn't any that could tell you exactly how much I appreciate them.

Originally Posted by DvlshAngel985

They have some at PetSmart you could pickup. Unfortunately, the ones I've seen in stores have an elastic band all around. I'm pretty sure Pann can use his yorkie smarts to get it off. It will probably do the trick for this trip if you decide to take him. Belly bands are good to have regardless. I always pack one when we visit my relatives, or go on trips and stay at hotels. Kaji doesn't mark, but I like to be prepared. The one time I didn't have one was the one time he peed on a friend's coffee table.

Thanks for that info I didn't know they sold them! Yah Pann is normally pretty good inside it's outside he marks everything, which normally is fine. But the one time he marked my Aunts leg it was funny for everyone else but her we couldn't believe it! He's also got a thing for table legs so... idk better safe then sorry. The two of us will have to take a trip their to get one, even if he doesn't come with me.

[DvlshAngel985]

Originally Posted by MyPann

I want to thank everyone for your support I really appreciate it you all are wonderful. This support is why I love YT. I wish I could put my appreciation in words right now for all your kind words but there isn't any that could tell you exactly how much I appreciate them.



Thanks for that info I didn't know they sold them! Yah Pann is normally pretty good inside it's outside he marks everything, which normally is fine. But the one time he marked my Aunts leg it was funny for everyone else but her we couldn't believe it! He's also got a thing for table legs so... idk better safe then sorry. The two of us will have to take a trip their to get one, even if he doesn't come with me.

Buy it and save the receipt! If you don't end up taking him it's best you return it. The one I bought at PetSmart I returned the next day. Like I said, the elastic band Kaji figured out, and I was able to buy 3 belly bands for the price of the PetSmart one. (not including shipping) I haven't found better belly bands than here on YT.