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loveshay · 03-23-2010, 09:53 PM

You are in my thoughts and prayers, please be careful...I don't want to scare you, but a piece of paper doesn't make things stop...there is a new thing they are doing in TN, I think just passed, where they make the abuser wear an ankle bracelet, so they know where they are at all times...if you ask for a PPO, ask about it... take care, be safe!

BabyBrizzy · 03-23-2010, 10:19 PM

Just wanted to say that I hope court went ok for you today! You are in my prayers!

YorkieShadow · 03-23-2010, 10:23 PM

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Originally Posted by yorkiemom68

Update to all well today was a day of all days.At my house today was 6 car loads of police that he by the way call via 911.Needless to say he is in the county jail tonight for domestic violence/abuse.He is to be in front of the judge in the morning in which I will be asking for an order of protection.Please pray for me this has been a bad relationship for 20 years but we stay per say for they kids but he is so bitter at this point it is impossible to live in anymore.Will be asking my docter this friday for which I made the appointment for the script for my babies wish me luck there too and for all the advise God bless you and thank you so very much.I will remember this site in future life situations lol there are so very smart and wise folks here.Love ya all and ty again.Will post update after court tomorrow.

Im so sorry you are going through all this. and wanted to say please be safe. Is there any where you and your babies can go stay for a few weeks?

For court I would take statements from your Dr saying you need these dogs.
also the AKC papers thats in your name & the contract and a statement from the breeders.
A statement from the vets saying you are the one that brings them in for their care and you are the one that pays them for that care. That you have took care of these dogs 100% of the time.
I would also mention to the Judge about his domestic violence/abuse and the fact that he only wants the dogs to hurt you.
I would not even let him have the dash hounds or the cat. how does he act around these animals. do you think that he would hurt any of them? If so id bring that up to the Judge to.

as for the firearms and other things he is taking from the house. Go fill out a Police report. report them stolen. he had no right to get rid of them or hide them with out your permission.
take the police report to court with you. also explain you were living in one part of the house and him in the other.

Good Luck and keep us posted. Praying you get to keep all your babies.

AbbysMom08 · 03-23-2010, 10:29 PM

Oh my....what a day you had.
I hope you are ok.
Please stay safe.
I will keep you in my prayers.

katy-yorkie · 03-24-2010, 04:39 AM

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Originally Posted by ladyjane

I understand people's concerns about laws, but in my experience the person who hides things often, almost always, gets away with it. I have zero faith in family law. My ex-husband forged my name and sold our car...purchased another car in his name and got away with it. Oh, it was used as a bargaining chip to get another vehicle for me, but did he get into any issues because of it? No! No one cared. And he walked away with a BMW while I got a used POS.

Again, if I had even a small idea that my pups were going to be split up in a divorce, they would be gone. I would not toss it up to chance because that is what you have....a big gamble. You never know how a judge will rule.

This is how divorce works in TX. Men can forge their soon to be ex's name and get away with it. I don't care what anyone says, in Texas men usually come out ahead. I agree with LadyJane, if I thought my puppies would be split up and not go with me, they would be gone. Although I do recall a man taking his wife's sewing machine and when the judge found out, HIS attorney told him to give it back. I don't think that would work for dogs.

Tinx · 03-24-2010, 06:57 AM

GEEEZZZ Your story makes me so angry!!! How dare he! Your Ex has got a lot of enemies on Yorkie Talk... I really don't think a rational thinking judge would let your ex take your dogs. Besides, like everyone has been saying you have your papers, you have your receipts all the paper work is in order. What "ownership" does he have? Does he even know their names?! You could get a letter from your therapist and your breeder friends which will give you more of a foot hold. You could also argue that he will not care for your babies as you have because the only reason wants them to hurt. Therefore, it's in the dogs best interest that they stay with you. What about a letter from an animal behavior specialist about how these dogs can't be separated? Good luck Yorkie friend! keep us posted.

yorkiemom68 · 03-24-2010, 07:48 AM

Well back from court an order of protection was ordered today requiring him not to be anywhere I am if I am in wal-mart and he see's me he must leave but the funny thing to me is this if you have an order of protection you are not allowed to own or have any weapons so now I think omg what will he do now with all of my inherited guns he has already stolen.I will just have to let my attorney find them lol he is only charging me 7500-10,000 for this so wow

Zeus08 · 03-24-2010, 07:59 AM

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Originally Posted by yorkiemom68

Well back from court an order of protection was ordered today requiring him not to be anywhere I am if I am in wal-mart and he see's me he must leave but the funny thing to me is this if you have an order of protection you are not allowed to own or have any weapons so now I think omg what will he do now with all of my inherited guns he has already stolen.I will just have to let my attorney find them lol he is only charging me 7500-10,000 for this so wow

Oh my! Your soon to be ex sounds scary. Please stay safe. I hope you are okay phsically and mentally. Sending big hugs your way.

Melissa

yorkiemom68 · 03-24-2010, 09:05 AM

God bless each any every one of you for your kind words and wonderful advise.I am so blessed to have found this site with such supportive people thank you so very much.Love ya all.

Lee B · 03-24-2010, 09:23 AM

Your lawyer KNOWS your husband has stolen the guns, right? Can he be forced to turn them in to the police pending disposition, especially since he has the TRO on him? On second thought, maybe they need to go somewhere else ... I know around here, once the police get their hands on a gun, they don't want to give it back, even to it's rightful owner. As far as they're concerned, they got 'em off the street, and they don't want them getting back out there. Check into it.

But, NOW I'd be afraid ... he's ticked off, has a history of violence, and is armed. Don't let the animals outside without you being with them. At this point, I'd fear poison ... It's very likely he'll do anything to hurt you.

You don't need this ... I pray he sees reason soon.

Mom to Hot Rod · 03-24-2010, 09:33 AM

glad that today went you way, but like others have said, it sounds like he will do anything at this point. Not to scare you, but you said that it was impossible for you to continue to live this way any longer...he knows this and probably does not care one bit about any consequences. Please be careful and if you have somewhere to go, please consider it and protect your babies as he knows that they mean the world to you. Sending you big hugs and lots of prayers.

BabyBrizzy · 03-24-2010, 10:29 AM

I know that you dont know me, but my hubby and I have been following your posts, and he says that TN isnt a far drive... He'd be happy to do some @ss kickin for ya! Please let me know if there is anything you need, even if its just a friend to talk to!

Bellasmygirl · 03-24-2010, 10:54 AM

My parents done the same thing when they split. My mother got the dog and took care of him all during the separation. She got the dog in the divorce. Good luck I'm sure you will get your babies. I also live in TN. and so did my parents.

03-23-2010, 09:53 PM	#46
loveshay YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: TN Posts: 556	You are in my thoughts and prayers, please be careful...I don't want to scare you, but a piece of paper doesn't make things stop...there is a new thing they are doing in TN, I think just passed, where they make the abuser wear an ankle bracelet, so they know where they are at all times...if you ask for a PPO, ask about it... take care, be safe! __________________ loving my lil SHAY

03-23-2010, 10:29 PM	#49
AbbysMom08 Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Illinois Posts: 2,268	Oh my....what a day you had. I hope you are ok. Please stay safe. I will keep you in my prayers. __________________ Jan, Mommy to Abby

03-24-2010, 09:33 AM	#56
Mom to Hot Rod Donating YT 5000 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: MD Posts: 10,908	glad that today went you way, but like others have said, it sounds like he will do anything at this point. Not to scare you, but you said that it was impossible for you to continue to live this way any longer...he knows this and probably does not care one bit about any consequences. Please be careful and if you have somewhere to go, please consider it and protect your babies as he knows that they mean the world to you. Sending you big hugs and lots of prayers. __________________ www.kissecollar.com Soft Cone Collars for Post-surgery and much more! 10% (non-food) - Discount code YT10

03-24-2010, 10:54 AM	#58
Bellasmygirl Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: White House,TN Posts: 158	My parents done the same thing when they split. My mother got the dog and took care of him all during the separation. She got the dog in the divorce. Good luck I'm sure you will get your babies. I also live in TN. and so did my parents. __________________ Bella's My Girl!!!

03-23-2010, 10:19 PM	#47
BabyBrizzy BANNED! Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Taylorsville, UT USA Posts: 372	Just wanted to say that I hope court went ok for you today! You are in my prayers!

03-24-2010, 06:57 AM	#51
Tinx Currently Suspended! Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: South Africa Posts: 63	GEEEZZZ Your story makes me so angry!!! How dare he! Your Ex has got a lot of enemies on Yorkie Talk... I really don't think a rational thinking judge would let your ex take your dogs. Besides, like everyone has been saying you have your papers, you have your receipts all the paper work is in order. What "ownership" does he have? Does he even know their names?! You could get a letter from your therapist and your breeder friends which will give you more of a foot hold. You could also argue that he will not care for your babies as you have because the only reason wants them to hurt. Therefore, it's in the dogs best interest that they stay with you. What about a letter from an animal behavior specialist about how these dogs can't be separated? Good luck Yorkie friend! keep us posted.

03-24-2010, 07:48 AM	#52
yorkiemom68 Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Greeneville,Tn Posts: 90	Well back from court an order of protection was ordered today requiring him not to be anywhere I am if I am in wal-mart and he see's me he must leave but the funny thing to me is this if you have an order of protection you are not allowed to own or have any weapons so now I think omg what will he do now with all of my inherited guns he has already stolen.I will just have to let my attorney find them lol he is only charging me 7500-10,000 for this so wow

03-24-2010, 09:05 AM	#54
yorkiemom68 Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Greeneville,Tn Posts: 90	God bless each any every one of you for your kind words and wonderful advise.I am so blessed to have found this site with such supportive people thank you so very much.Love ya all.

03-24-2010, 09:23 AM	#55
Lee B YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Land O' Lakes, FL Posts: 735	Your lawyer KNOWS your husband has stolen the guns, right? Can he be forced to turn them in to the police pending disposition, especially since he has the TRO on him? On second thought, maybe they need to go somewhere else ... I know around here, once the police get their hands on a gun, they don't want to give it back, even to it's rightful owner. As far as they're concerned, they got 'em off the street, and they don't want them getting back out there. Check into it. But, NOW I'd be afraid ... he's ticked off, has a history of violence, and is armed. Don't let the animals outside without you being with them. At this point, I'd fear poison ... It's very likely he'll do anything to hurt you. You don't need this ... I pray he sees reason soon.

03-24-2010, 10:29 AM	#57
BabyBrizzy BANNED! Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Taylorsville, UT USA Posts: 372	I know that you dont know me, but my hubby and I have been following your posts, and he says that TN isnt a far drive... He'd be happy to do some @ss kickin for ya! Please let me know if there is anything you need, even if its just a friend to talk to!