Advice on Yorkie's living conditions

[tigker86]

Originally Posted by RoxyLuv

If Lexi hasn't perfected her basic puppy skills, I see this going back & forth w/rules-no rules resulting in a troubled/confused adult dog. The going back & forth wouldn't be such a big deal if the he followed through with the rules.

BF did give her to you as a gift, right? Does he take back all his gifts to you? Personally, I think he needs to grow up. I wouldn't personally tolerate his behavior. I had to get tough w/dh when we got Roxy as I wasn't going to have another dog of any kind who didn't know how to behave. He didn't like me much for awhile, but that's OK. He finally realized I DID actually know something! Have a good heart to heart talk with bf & come to some kind of agreement that works for both of you or kiss him goodby & you keep Lexi.

Yup it's been hard. I came home and because it was quiet I immediately started crying and I feel kind of pathetic.
My bf is at work now and Lexi is with his auntie at his house, he refused to drop her off at my house today when I was home. My bf can be immature and stupid. He never takes back everything but he can take back that cutie pie in my life. I already told him I wanted to talk to him and he probably knows why. He just got immediately upset and asked if it was over Lexi, like it was no big deal and that I was being stupid. Anyways...i'll wait till he comes home tomorrow.

[shodanusmc]

Originally Posted by tigker86

Yup it's been hard. I came home and because it was quiet I immediately started crying and I feel kind of pathetic.
My bf is at work now and Lexi is with his auntie at his house, he refused to drop her off at my house today when I was home. My bf can be immature and stupid. He never takes back everything but he can take back that cutie pie in my life. I already told him I wanted to talk to him and he probably knows why. He just got immediately upset and asked if it was over Lexi, like it was no big deal and that I was being stupid. Anyways...i'll wait till he comes home tomorrow.

If you were my daughter, you would already know what I would tell you! All this drama already? Key words..Immature and stupid, refused, take back, upset, and no big deal.

I seriously hope it works out with you and the pup, but as far as your boyfriend,,,well, I had best not comment.

[yorkieusa]

Originally Posted by tigker86

Yup it's been hard. I came home and because it was quiet I immediately started crying and I feel kind of pathetic.
My bf is at work now and Lexi is with his auntie at his house, he refused to drop her off at my house today when I was home. My bf can be immature and stupid. He never takes back everything but he can take back that cutie pie in my life. I already told him I wanted to talk to him and he probably knows why. He just got immediately upset and asked if it was over Lexi, like it was no big deal and that I was being stupid. Anyways...i'll wait till he comes home tomorrow.

Have confidence in yourself. You aren't being pathetic. You are being human. Honestly, I think he is pathetic. I know you are already attached to Lexi and I hope that he can be decent enough to let you keep the lil girl since he gave her to you. Whatever happens, we are all here for you. OK?

[tigker86]

THANKS GUYS!!! you are all THE BEST!!!

[tigker86]

HEY EVERYONE!
Lexi came back home permanently! My boyfriend and I got into an arguement and he took Lexi away for a week. I was devastated and after a long week without Lexi, I finally got her back.

My only problem now is that she's really aggressive and bites A LOT!
She doesn't listen and she's like a lil monster... =(
please tell me it's not too late to enforce good habits again...

[yorkieusa]

Originally Posted by tigker86

HEY EVERYONE!
Lexi came back home permanently! My boyfriend and I got into an arguement and he took Lexi away for a week. I was devastated and after a long week without Lexi, I finally got her back.

My only problem now is that she's really aggressive and bites A LOT!
She doesn't listen and she's like a lil monster... =(
please tell me it's not too late to enforce good habits again...

It's not at all too late. That is why she needs only ONE HOME!

She'll be just fine. You're just going to need to spend more time with her and be very patient and consistent in her training. She is confused and why shouldn't she be? She's been all over the place and heaven only knows what experiences she's had. Be understanding and patient, but firm. Use treats as rewards for good behavior. Don't call her a monster. She's not. The people who have done this to her are the monsters.

[tigker86]

Originally Posted by yorkieusa

It's not at all too late. That is why she needs only ONE HOME!

She'll be just fine. You're just going to need to spend more time with her and be very patient and consistent in her training. She is confused and why shouldn't she be? She's been all over the place and heaven only knows what experiences she's had. Be understanding and patient, but firm. Use treats as rewards for good behavior. Don't call her a monster. She's not. The people who have done this to her are the monsters.

Thanks!
I just feel so bad it got this far! When I was trying to prevent it, things just heated up for no good reason. Some people just don't understand how yorkies are to be trained and treated.
Being grabbed and consistently cuddled viciously doesn't really make them want to be touched anymore =( hopefully she'll see I'm not like that.
But i'm going to keep trying!

[Cerise]

Originally Posted by tigker86

HEY EVERYONE!
Lexi came back home permanently! My boyfriend and I got into an arguement and he took Lexi away for a week. I was devastated and after a long week without Lexi, I finally got her back.

My only problem now is that she's really aggressive and bites A LOT!
She doesn't listen and she's like a lil monster... =(
please tell me it's not too late to enforce good habits again...

It's not to late! Your boyfriend was probably doing the guy thing...making her play rough with him. I don't know what it is about guys that make them think it's okay to make a dog play or be aggressive Keep correcting her and telling her "no bite!" Be patient and firm. She'll come around.

[BellaDonna]

Glad to see that you got your Lexi back. How old is she now? Is the boyfriend still in the picture? If he is don't be surprised if he still tries to snatch her if you ever call it quits. Immature people are like that.
It is hard from dogs and children to learn when they are learning from two people giving different signals. Now that she is with you if you are consistant she should get the picture.

Good luck!

[tigker86]

Originally Posted by BellaDonna

Glad to see that you got your Lexi back. How old is she now? Is the boyfriend still in the picture? If he is don't be surprised if he still tries to snatch her if you ever call it quits. Immature people are like that.
It is hard from dogs and children to learn when they are learning from two people giving different signals. Now that she is with you if you are consistant she should get the picture.

Good luck!

I asked him if he was going to take her back, he said no, I told him I'm making all the decisions for her, and he said, ok. BUT for some reason I still think he would snatch her again. =( hopefully my intuition is wrong.
As for our relationship. He gave her back to keep the relationship a float. I haven't had a decent convo since I got her back. So I will have to see.
I also made up a contract for him to sign, so that it officially signs Lexi over to me, and i'll make all her decisions, but he refused to sign the paper, so i'm trying to trust him, but I'm still uneasy with this situation. I hate seeing Lexi so mixed up.
When i got her back they said she wasn't eatting, and when I looked at her bowl of food, it's like they don't wash her bowl, it was filled with food more half way, when she gets less than quarter of that bowl. And it was filled with treats! I don't even believe she had fresh food! I'm so upset she had to live like that.
She's even having a hard time eating right now. So I'm going to the vet to see if she's ok. Hopefully she eats later on.

[shodanusmc]

Glad you got the pup back, and she will be fine.

Now forgive me for saying, but I would say you need to "smart" up and dump the guy. It will not get better, only worse for you. You are not in a sound and long term relationship. Hope it works out for you.

[JeanieK]

I suggest getting a second one. Can't have too many yorkies.

[LindaBedilia]

Originally Posted by tigker86

So I got a Yorkie out of the blue. She was given to me, and it did caught me off guard but I love my little Lexi. My boyfriend brought her home early February as my "valentine's present." Since i've trained her to "sit" "down," my boyfriend believes we're going to "share" her. Since it was my valentines present so i assumed she was to stay at my house unless she needs some house sitting if I'm away too long.

Anyhow he believes that Lexi would be "just fine" going to two different houses during the week or every other week. I want to keep her at one location but he's stubborn and doesn't see it that way.

She's happy and learning where to potty at my house plus she's really good at listening to me. Whenever she comes back home it's like I have to retrain her all over again.

What can I do? or what can I tell him if she's going to continue letting her living like this? or should I try to change his mind to stay at my house?

All she does at his house is sleep and cuddle, turn over the garbage and tear up the pee-pad, it's like there are no rules in his house and she rules the house.

I'm at my wits end! Maybe I should just not keep Lexi at my house anymore and tell him he can have full responsibility and leave me out of the picture. I just feel guilty if i abandoned her, we were bonding so well.

I think that while Lexi is still a puppy she should be raised in one house only especially if your boy friend doesn't train her. Then, if he still insists, let him take her once in a while, but if Lexi was a present, - she is yours.

[tigker86]

Originally Posted by JeanieK

I suggest getting a second one. Can't have too many yorkies.

He claimed he's getting one for himself now. I haven't seen that puppy yet, but that would be more relief for me. He wanted to get me a different yorkie and keep Lexi, but you cant just replace a puppy. It was her personality that meshed with me and all Yorkies have their own little ways. We'll see how his yorkie turns out
Mine will be super social and polite. (After her last set of shots today )

[tigker86]

Originally Posted by JeanieK

I suggest getting a second one. Can't have too many yorkies.

He claimed he's getting one for himself now. I haven't seen that puppy yet, but that would be more relief for me. He wanted to get me a different yorkie and keep Lexi, but you cant just replace a puppy. It was her personality that meshed with me and all Yorkies have their own little ways. We'll see how his yorkie turns out
Mine will be super social and polite. (her last set of shots is today )