Originally Posted by DerbyLayne (Post 2913130)

I think this is an unfair statement about married couples.

When you're married, it's not about "me"- it's about "us". ALL decisions that involve both parties should be made TOGETHER. As much as it seems unfair when someone says "no", and you want to pout about it and think you know best, (no matter what decision, whether it be about a dog, the color of the living room, that new couch) I think it's not an equal marriage if you go do something without running it by each other first.

Of course this doesn't apply to everything, but getting a dog is a major decision. I don't care how much the one person wants it, if the other is saying no- RESPECT that decision. Talk it out, and maybe eventually you'll agree to get another dog in the future.

When you're married, you don't always get what you want. Sacrifices have to be made so that there is harmony in the house. Pouting and being sad over a dog, isn't reason enough to fight or go ahead and "do it anyway".

It's selfish to think that you're the only opinion/one that matters in the household and what you say goes.

I personally don't think it's right when one person has more control over the decisions and doesn't include the other one in one them- you're MARRIED, WELCOME TO "It's not all about YOU!"

Originally Posted by Kirby (Post 2913409)

No offense was intended. I don't know the situation of the person who started this thread. I jumped to conclusions and I shouldn't do that, but I have known many woman who think it's up to the husband to decide. My husband and I will be celebrating our 12th anniversary next year. There has been a great deal of give and take, but there is also respect. When one person wants something so much, who am I to deny the person I love from reasonable happiness? Again, though, as I stated in my first post, perhaps her husband has a very good reason. This is a big decision that should be made together but not for the sake of control.

Originally Posted by Misti1 (Post 2913027)

So he's not the kind that a baby would win over, so I wouldn't try the surprise tactic if I were you.

Originally Posted by yorkielover916 (Post 2913489)

It's ok. you are right you dont know how my marriage is, and I am not upset, so don't worry about it. I ask him because I do know how big of a decission having new puppy is. and because I am not the only one that lives in my house. even though I would be doing most of the work with the puppy as I do for my other two, I do try to keep my DH's feelings in mind when I am going to spend a large amount of money on a puppy. btw, we usually dont ask ea other for permission to do anything, but since this is a living thing that needs to be taken care of I think its something he should be in agreement with. but I am on the brink of just going and getting one ;)

Originally Posted by Kirby (Post 2913498)

It sounds like a frustrating position. I know how it feels. You sound like a good person who respects her husband's opinion. Please do not listen to an over sensitive bloke like me. There was a recent issue with a couple of friends and their husbands. I shouldn't have taken their situation out on yours. My apologies, but I do hope that it works out for you both to have another puppy.

Sincerely,


Sonya

Originally Posted by jaac (Post 2913504)

I say get the dog I also have mini doxie plus a golden ,a scottie and new baby yorkie soon. they all get along nicely.
a good thing to remember is it easier to ask for forgiveness, than permission :rolleyes:

Originally Posted by yorkielover916 (Post 2913489)

I do try to keep my DH's feelings in mind when I am going to spend a large amount of money on a puppy. btw, we usually dont ask each other for permission to do anything, but since this is a living thing that needs to be taken care of I think its something he should be in agreement with

Originally Posted by Disney (Post 2913617)

Totally agree Derby.

Personally, I think throwing a toddler tantrum and just getting the dog will end very ugly. If he doesn't want a dog, talk to him, ask him why. If he doesn't have valid points have a heart to heart. If he simply does not want another dog, you may just need to accept that rather than putting a strain on your marriage and his trust in you by going and grabbing what you want.

Good luck! :)

Originally Posted by yorkielover916 (Post 2912783)

I think its the money, that has a big part in it, he says that they are too expensive, btw our dachshunds were given to us, so having to pay for a dog is out of the question for him. I do all the work w/ them, which is why I think I can handle another especially now since I am going to school and am home more to spend time with the new puppy. he says he doesnt like dogs but the second I turn around he's loving on the dogs and talking to them in baby talk his way. its cute... but I mention the third one and he's like "no" doesnt even look at me when he says it b/c I give him the puppy dog eyes and he can't tell me no when I give him those eyes, I'm not gonna give up though.