LOL I agree! Get the dog.......Hubby will get over it when he sees how happy the puppy makes you and besides the hubby will fall in love with the yorkie. How can u not love a yorkie!!

Being a husband I know what you should do...nag,nag,nag and withold sex.:D

Well I have been naging for 2 yrs now and the withold sex thing I don't think will work... for reasons that i don't think I should mention lol... but that was a great suggestion. I almost fell of the sofa from laughing...:D

He is fine with them, he treats them good, just doesnt care to spoil them like I would if he would let me... he grew up with dogs but they were "outside" dogs never let in the house, tied up sometimes... I grew up differently and have had dogs in the house anyway, my oldest female had a litter of pups and we kept one which was another female and then she had a litter, we kept one of hers, but I had to give her up b/c she was too hyper for us I gave her to a good family... So I have Saidee(gma) and Pete(grandson)- he has grown on hubby but he doesnt spoil him... but I do all the clean up when ther are accidents and bathe them they are like my kids...

So he's not the kind that a baby would win over, so I wouldn't try the surprise tactic if I were you.

I don't mean this to sound offensive, but why do you have to ask him? I understand that it's a big decision, but who made him boss? It's your life, too. My husband didn't want a dog because of his allergies, but after conferring with his doctor with him, I got the dog. Michael wasn't thrilled at first, but now he loves Sydney. He calls us, "his girls." I would find out if there's a local ordinance against having more than two dogs, though. Also, if money is tight and/or you have a small house, your husband may have a point.

I wouldn't get the dog unless your DH is in full agreement. This is something that both of you have to agree on or it will never work. Maybe in time he'll come around but in the meanwhile I'd hold off. I know that isn't what you want to hear, but things change over time and, hopefully, you will have your Yorkie some day. :)

I do want to add that I didn't surprise Michael with a Yorkie. He agreed after talking with his doctor, but I think he also realized how important it was to me. I agree, it shouldn't be a surprise and he should know if you are getting one, but I get frustrated when I hear how women need permission to do something from their boyfriends/spouses. Does he ask you for permission and if you said no, how does he react?

I admire people that think for them selves :thumbup::thumbup::thumbup:

I want to add that it definitely depends on the DH. I have surprised my DH with many things, many times, but he's the sort that I know will capitulate and be happy. I don't get that same feeling with the OP's DH and, therefore, think she should wait until he agrees - for the sake of their marriage.

Well if he asks you what you want for christmas just give him your biggest puppy eyes and beg a little lol or you could just go around the house singing all I want for christmas is a yorkie puppy to the tune of my two front teeth lol he may get so sick of hearing the song that he'll cave in lol. Good Luck to you xo

I think this is an unfair statement about married couples.

When you're married, it's not about "me"- it's about "us". ALL decisions that involve both parties should be made TOGETHER. As much as it seems unfair when someone says "no", and you want to pout about it and think you know best, (no matter what decision, whether it be about a dog, the color of the living room, that new couch) I think it's not an equal marriage if you go do something without running it by each other first.

Of course this doesn't apply to everything, but getting a dog is a major decision. I don't care how much the one person wants it, if the other is saying no- RESPECT that decision. Talk it out, and maybe eventually you'll agree to get another dog in the future.

When you're married, you don't always get what you want. Sacrifices have to be made so that there is harmony in the house. Pouting and being sad over a dog, isn't reason enough to fight or go ahead and "do it anyway".

It's selfish to think that you're the only opinion/one that matters in the household and what you say goes.

I personally don't think it's right when one person has more control over the decisions and doesn't include the other one in one them- you're MARRIED, WELCOME TO "It's not all about YOU!"

I totally agree. My marriage hasn't lasted 28 years because I let him boss me around, but because there is mutual trust and respect for each other.
My husband had a certain upbringing, and was totally oposed to having a dog in the house. As much as I disagreed with this, and having an upbringing where we always had pets in the house, I gave in and excepted that the time was not right for a yorkie. I did it out of respect for his feelings and not because I could not think for myself, or I let him boss me around.
He would not do anything I was strongly oposed to either.
Other times we have to compromise. It is a give and take.
A dog is a major decision. A commitment that will last 15-18 years (if you are lucky). It also changes the dynamics of a family, just like a child would.
Personally, I wouldn't put the "want" for a dog over my family life or my marriage. Now that I have Bonnie, she IS part of my family (the daughter I never had. LOL). A part that both my husband and myself have decided together to add.

After we lost our last little girl my mom said no more for a few years, but after a year and a cat the lack of a dog was driving me crazy so I said if I waited until after our holiday could I get one and she agreed, Alfie was born a year to the day we lost Chloe and came from the owner of Chloes dad. Then last x-mes my mom fell relly ill & was in hospital for weeks, luckily my sister took care of him but it made me realise he needed a companion in case he had to be left, but my mother said no again, she changed her mind when Alfie tried to get a life size yorkie ornament to play ball with him, cant argue with that.
I find being honest about your feelings helps. My mom is now disabled & besides working full time I'm her carer, the dogs are companionship for her and a reason for me to get out the house each day for a break and some exercise and are great stress relievers. Sometimes I get frustrated at the house training but as my mother now says I wouldn't be without them