Adopting Kricket
 

Hi all - as you may or may not know by now my dh gave the permission to get/adopt Kricket. It took 4 days of pouting, tireless convincing and some tears, but he made me promise a few things.
So today we went and saw him and what a little sweetie he is!! So cute & so much like Deegan! I'm exstatic, but Julien isn't. He keeps bringing up the fact of how much extra work it will be and how he's happy with just one & not showing any enthusiasm at all. Now I feel bad, like I'm forcing it on him. I think that once he gets used to the new routine and stuff it won't be so bad. He's not big on change at all - he kinda acted like this when I first got Deegan too. I'm trying to reassure him that it won't be too much after we get Kricket settled, but he thins otherwise. I hope that it works out - for all of us.
Has anyone elses spouse acted like this when you were about to get a new dog that they didn't really want? What was the outcome?

AND Julien doesn't like the name Kricket - I think he wants to change it. I do to in a way, but it seems so hard since he's been called Kricket for 8 months while in the rescues care. (He was there 8 months because he had liver shunt surgery and they wanted to be sure he was fully recovered before adopting him out.) Has anyone ever change a dogs name? How did that go? Is it too confusing to the dog? So many questions and concerns - I want to do this good deed, but I pray that it goes smoothly.

Sounds like Cricket is a BOY!?! IF so..that is NOT a boys name...let your husband name him. He, for sure, knows a better boy name!
ENJOY!

I had a similar situation with my DW. I did the male equivalent of pouting & crying. I went by myself to meet Gus. If I had taken my DW with me, she'd have said "Let's think some more." We'd still be thinking 10 months later.

It took about 6 months for my DW to really warm up to Gus. Now she thinks he's so cute, & affectionate. My wife rarely smiles, & is usually grouchy. However, when Gus greets her she bursts into a large smile, & she become's warm & calm.

I think the name change is doable. I think it's the tone of voice more than the actual name.

Good luck. I think it will work out very well.

I am alone (spouse passed away) so I have not gone through this. But If you let hubby name him/her, that will bring the puppy and him closer. I have 5 dogs total. He will be able to handle two. It will just take time. The fact that he said yes to you, tells you he will be able to handle it. That's men for you. If he was really against it, he would have stuck to his guns and said no dog, no way. I wish you the best of luck, and pray it all works out for you.

Name change is deffiantly doable. My uncles English setter went from the name London (First owner) to, Paris (Go figure:rolleyes: -Second owner) ,to morgan (3rd owner), to Nipper (Uncle:D) And This was over the course of4 years. She had her first name for 2 whole years and she started responding to her name within 2 weeks.


I think he'll warm up. My mom didnt want another dog either. She was and still is heartbroken oveer the death of our family (More like her) Dog. And she wasnt enthusiastic and prety much jut gave in but didnt really agree. As soon as keely came into our home. Mom loved her and Almost got jelous because i was and still am keelys favorite hoooman.. lol. He'll get over it pnce he relizes the true joy of adopting a dog in need.

I never thought of it that way! I already gave him a couple name suggestions that I like, so maybe if I let him pick he'll come around faster! Thanks - that's a great suggestion!

I have always let my husband name all of my dogs as it does make him more involved in the process. My husband gave me the money for my last 2 yorkies but each time I brought them home he seemed a little distant. With Pixie within 24 hours he was calling her Perfect Pixie and loves her to pieces and it took him a little longer to warm to Roxie but I think that was because we had just lost Dixie (Roxie was the breeders replacement for her) and he felt so awful about losing her after only 5 weeks and didn't want to get attached again. I think your husband will see how much fun having 2 is and see how they play so nicely that he will come around.

The little 12 year old I adopted named one of the dogs that I got after I got her. He is the one that sleeps with her, and she calls "her" dog. LOL !! He listens to her more than me. This is what will happen to you if hubby names the dog! :thumbup:

a change of name works fine whatever the age of the dog.
my first dog was 10 years old when i adopted her. she'd had a abusive past and i wanted to change her name incase she had been shouted using her old name.
I changed it from Lady to Willow, and she accepted it really quickly.
I changed Mollys name from Bubbles to Molly, and she was fine with it too.
If you think of all the names you call your little one, and how quickly they get to know them all.
I dont very often use Mollys proper name..
its usually Mollzy, munchkin, or scruffball, and she answers to them all...lol

ps...my hubby said definitely no more dogs after we had to have willow put down, but...
he makes just as much fuss of Molly as i do, and he likes to take her everywhere we go if we possibly can!!

LOL My hubby has learned by now, never to know what to expect out of me. But, the last one I did promise this would be it, as when all 6 of my dogs are gone, it will be about retirement age for us. Told him when we retire, I want to be able to come and go as we please also. I knew hubby didn't really want me to get the last one(number 6), he said with a grin, you're killing me, but, he loves this little girl, infact today, he said where's the baby when she was the only one that wasn't on the couch by me.

I agree with everyone else that having your husband be a part in re-naming your new baby will bring him that much closer to him. Our first Yorkie, a rescue, was 5yrs old when we brought her home...my husband absolutely refused to call her "Precious", which is the only name she had known. We changed it immediately to "Jessie" and she adapted to it right away. She became his "best bud" in no time flat!

This is true, my husband did not want us to get Gucci but we did anyway and I told him when we got home, he could name him..he was just in awe over the idea and fell in love with him. He now calls him pop-ee-cho lol I named him Gucci after that but he still listens to Popecho as well, that is his and daddy's special name.

He'll come around.. they all do .. How can he resist a yorkie? ;)

I'm so glad you got to go see Kricket and that he is still available!

I agree that DH's feelings will probably change. At least he said you could get him.

Mine did NOT want a dog. It took quite a bit of asking on my part, and he finally agreed, but he agreement was more like, "Get it if you want." He seemed angry and annoyed at first. Any little problem was cause for huffing and puffing and a complaint.

Little by little, though, he has been changing. I could hear him downstairs sometimes, after she learned a new trick, he'd be trying it with her. Once he was playing fetch with her. I said, "You can't tell me she's not cute." His response, "I didn't want a dog." This was repeated over and over, until he finally admitted that she was cute. Not too long ago, he went to take a "catnap" on the couch, and brought her up to lie with him. He's been doing that more often. :) He keeps asking me, "What kind of dog is she again?" So I know he's talking about her away from home.

And the biggie - yesterday when he got home from work and I told him she had chewed up the figure from his Polar Express train set (but that I was ordering him a new set of figures), he just said, "Lexi, you've gotta stop chewing things."

As far as names, I think letting DH name the dog is a great idea. I call Lexi so many things, that I don't think Kricket would have a hard time at all. In fact, you could still call him Kricket at times, as one of his many names. My son thinks it's funny to call Lexi "Gertrude". "Come here, Gertrude!" Because it is so much the tone of voice, that she will come to him - if she feels like it! ;)

Good luck, and keep us posted!

My dh sounds alot like yours inthe fact that I know I'm gonna get alot of grief in the begining when things don't go the way they are, but it gives me hope. I know eventually he'll come around. Afterall - he didn't want Deegan and now look. He LOVES that dog and is just mesmerized by any little thing he does!
I especially like the part where he asks what kind of dog she is!! LOL He is definately talking about her!

I went to look at Toby on Monday when DH agreed I could. On Tues.I went to the pet store and bought a bed, Leash, etc. We were set to go on Wed. and pick him up.
When dh came home from work He had a bit of an attitude change and wasn't sure we should get Toby. He was annoyed that I had gone to look at him myself, and was feeling that I was making the decision instead of We. Of course I didn't think it was fair that he was now changing his mind after he had said yes. We talked it out, and went to get him that night.
Driving home with this little shaking pup softend his heart. After a week or so whenever I referred to Toby as my dog, I was corrected that he was our dog. Two months later Toby's tale wags more for dh than for me!

I agree with letting your DH name the new dog. I had a female lab named Cricket. It sounds like a girls name to me too. As far as your DH goes, mine is the exact same way. Give him time and he'll adjust to the new family member. Sometimes men are just stubborn when it comes to us women wanting something.

You guys have really made me feel alot better - about both the dh & renaming him! I told dh this morning that he can name the lil' one, and he was rather surprised. He asked if it was my way of saying thank-you for agreeing to asopt him and I told him yes, and that I appreciated it more than he knows! Thanks for putting my mind at ease! I'll fill everyone in one when we get him & what his name will be. (I just hope I like it - lol)

I'm glad you agreed to renaming him. Please let us know as soon as possible what his new name will be and just how much of a sucker ;)your DH will be once you get the new boy home LOL. My husband fell in love w/Jack real quick. I knew he would b/c he is such a sucker :yelrotflmNo offense to men, but you usually are!;)

How neat! Firstly that you can get him and that your DH gets to name him. Let us know what name it is!! and even if you don't like it at first, you'll warm up to it. :D :) Congrats!

He'll accept his new name in no time at all. I'm sure when you get him your hubby will come around.

Congrats on the new baby:) I think changing his name would be fine, and what a great idea to let you hubby name him! It might be easier for him to adjust to his new name if you stuck to a 2 syllable name and maybe even a name that starts with a K or a C. At least you gave your hubby notice, I just brought a new furbaby home a couple of weeks ago and mine had no clue I was even going to look! He thought I was out Christmas shopping! He was upset for about 10 minutes, then he said well let me see her. All manly of course! :DLOL:D Yorkies have a way of knowing who they need to warm up to and they worm their way into our hearts in no time!

LOL, these pups sure do know how to work it when they need to! Haha!
Congrats on your baby too!

Ok - so the rescue people came today to do our home interview. They checked the home, the backyard and met with the dh & Deegan. They are extremely throrough! Which is a good thing. So they said that we seem like good pet parents and I will hear on Monday once they speak to my vet. They wanted to call her today, but it was after noon and the office wasn't open.
I can't wait to hear back!!! I might be a little presumptuious by saying this, but I'm an awesome pet parent and have people to back that up so I can't see them denying me. But she also said that if we're approved that we probably won't get Kricket for a week cause she's so busy and has a ton of paperwork to fill out. Ok, but I'm so excited to get the little guy here! He really seems to love dh & Deegan both, so playful and affectionate!
Wish me luck & I'll keep everyone posted.

:thumbup: Oh I am so happy for you. Soooo, you have to wait till monday. I know that will seem like a lifetime, and then another week, will seem even longer. But I am sure you will be able to get Kricket. Will hubby be picking out the name? Will be praying everything goes the way you want. The excitment will be building up for another week. Do keep us posted. :thumbup:

Congratulations, I'm so happy for you and hope everything works out ok. Many of our DHs feel a need to "be in charge", so including him in naming and other aspects will make him feel more a part of it all. We all know it doesn't take long for these furbabies to win your heart.... so just get him home and let the magic happen! Oh, and bless you for giving this little guy a wonderful home and life.

Yeah, this next week is gonna be torture for me!!! I'll probably be completely swamped at work since the office has been closed for a week and a half for the holidays, so that means one of two things - either it will help me keep my mind off of the anticipation OR I'll be too distracted to get anything accomplished.
Oh and, in my earlier post about how the rescue people came over to interview us and how particular they are, wow! Very - but yes, it's good, however there were some things that I wasn't sure of. I can appreciate the fact that they want to check with my vet & come see the house, and check the backyard. They're even making us put locks on our gates, which is fine because is would make me feel better about people not leaving it open or people coming in who shouldn't be. But when I told them I have Deegan on Revolution, they kinda gasped and said that's not a good product that I should think about changing him to Heart Guard & Advantage... I've used Revolution for years and never had a problem...but when I had my other dog on Advantage, he had reactions to it. Plus I thought I heard that those two products weren't very good... I think I'm going to stick with what I've been using, but just wanted to hear anyone elses thoughts on it.

It sounds like things are headed in the right direction! I know the wait will be hard, but it will be worth it. :) Hopefully, work will keep your mind distracted from all things Kricket, and will help the time pass more quickly!

I don't know anything about the different brands of medicine. I can't imagine they wouldn't approve you just because of that.

Good luck!

I have always used the Advantage, and HeartGuard, but I asked my Vet what was best?? The woman I spoke with said, Well it's like this. I use what you use, but if you ask some of the other girls that work here, they will give you a different answer. It all depends on what works for you. The good thing about it all, is that you use Something! So I am not too sure there is a Correct answer, or Wrong answer. Keep on using what you are using. It works for you. :thumbup: