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Joeysmom · 12-27-2008, 09:41 AM

I'm so sorry for your loss... I lost a dear friend about 5 years ago suddenly, and I still weep over her at times. My heart pangs every time I think of her, and it's almost daily still.

It makes me mad when people say, get over it... Another friend lost her 16 year old daughter almost two years ago, and within 6 months people were telling her that.... oh my goodness...the insensitivity.

The pain WILL soften in time, though you will always miss him and be sad. I'll be praying for you sweetie..

deb

Sookie · 12-27-2008, 03:34 PM

I wouldn't want to "get over" the loss of a friend. That seems too callous and not a fitting way to celebrate his friendship and his life. I'm sorry for your loss. I'm sure in time you will be able to remember the happier times though.

And please don't "lurk" just because you don't own a Yorkie yet. Your comments and contributions are always welcome here.

jenn1381 · 12-29-2008, 02:53 PM

Thanks again for all your prayers... I was doing a whole lot better until last night, when I had a dream that the CPR worked and he just got up and was fine. It was real enough that I almost believed that that was the outcome. The funeral is on Friday or Saturday, we're still waiting to hear from the family. I do think that is going to be difficult as there will be a lot of questions about his final moments. I was the first one to get to him and the last one to leave his side, so I'm sure a lot of those questions will be focused towards me. I wish I had answers that would make the family feel better...

Thanks again for all the support.. it helps, it really truly does... I appreciate it.

Deegan's mom · 12-29-2008, 04:31 PM

Wow, what a traumatic time your having! And I can't believe that your parents aren't being more sympathetic to the situation. But know that you did all that you could... it's not your fault! I feel for you and am thinking of you. I hope that you can grieve and move on in time. My mom passed away in 2007, and before she died she always reminded me that "Life is for the living", don't dwell on the dead - remember & honour them, but don't dwell on them. Good luck & hope to hear from you soon with good news.

AshasMom · 12-29-2008, 04:44 PM

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Originally Posted by jenn1381

Thanks again for all your prayers... I was doing a whole lot better until last night, when I had a dream that the CPR worked and he just got up and was fine. It was real enough that I almost believed that that was the outcome. The funeral is on Friday or Saturday, we're still waiting to hear from the family. I do think that is going to be difficult as there will be a lot of questions about his final moments. I was the first one to get to him and the last one to leave his side, so I'm sure a lot of those questions will be focused towards me. I wish I had answers that would make the family feel better...

Thanks again for all the support.. it helps, it really truly does... I appreciate it.

I am so sorry for what you are going through. I lost my best friend to suicide almost 4 years ago. Time does soften the hurt, but it never goes away. I dealt with alot of guilt for a long time because I didn't see it coming. I felt like there was something else I should have done. I too had dreams about her after she died, and in those dreams, she was talking to me and telling me she was ok. It was so real. Somehow I think we are allowed to dream the dreams that they are ok because it is their way of letting us know that they ARE ok. They are at peace with it and we should be too. I luckily had my sister's shoulder to cry on after that, and I hope you can find someone that you can trust to talk to as well. I wrote my friends family a letter after she died telling them how special she was to me. It was my way of dealing with the pain and letting go. Maybe you should consider doing something to help you express your hurt. Don't keep it bottled up inside. Hang in there, and please keep in touch. Know that you are in my thoughts and prayers....

Fancy_Pants · 12-30-2008, 06:18 PM

Sending lots of prayers your way. Remember, God doesn't give you what you can handle, He helps you handle what you are given....

I have a 5 yr old son that has been battling cancer for 2 yrs now - I promise there is light at the end of the tunnel. Keep your head up and reach out to someone you can trust, even if it is here on YT.

~Shelly

4doggiemama · 12-30-2008, 07:36 PM

Just would like to give you a hug.

12-27-2008, 03:34 PM	#17
Sookie My Four Sweet Babies Donating Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: South Jersey near Philadelphia Posts: 5,452	I wouldn't want to "get over" the loss of a friend. That seems too callous and not a fitting way to celebrate his friendship and his life. I'm sorry for your loss. I'm sure in time you will be able to remember the happier times though. And please don't "lurk" just because you don't own a Yorkie yet. Your comments and contributions are always welcome here. __________________ I LOVE MY BABIES

12-29-2008, 02:53 PM	#18
jenn1381 YT Addict Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Barrie, Ontario, Canada Posts: 427	Thanks again for all your prayers... I was doing a whole lot better until last night, when I had a dream that the CPR worked and he just got up and was fine. It was real enough that I almost believed that that was the outcome. The funeral is on Friday or Saturday, we're still waiting to hear from the family. I do think that is going to be difficult as there will be a lot of questions about his final moments. I was the first one to get to him and the last one to leave his side, so I'm sure a lot of those questions will be focused towards me. I wish I had answers that would make the family feel better... Thanks again for all the support.. it helps, it really truly does... I appreciate it. __________________ Oliver & Mya are my

12-29-2008, 04:31 PM	#19
Deegan's mom YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Windsor, ON Posts: 1,271	Wow, what a traumatic time your having! And I can't believe that your parents aren't being more sympathetic to the situation. But know that you did all that you could... it's not your fault! I feel for you and am thinking of you. I hope that you can grieve and move on in time. My mom passed away in 2007, and before she died she always reminded me that "Life is for the living", don't dwell on the dead - remember & honour them, but don't dwell on them. Good luck & hope to hear from you soon with good news. __________________ Jayde, Deegan & Trooper ~Be the change you wish to see in the world - Adopt a rescue pet~

12-30-2008, 06:18 PM	#21
Fancy_Pants YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 972	Sending lots of prayers your way. Remember, God doesn't give you what you can handle, He helps you handle what you are given.... I have a 5 yr old son that has been battling cancer for 2 yrs now - I promise there is light at the end of the tunnel. Keep your head up and reach out to someone you can trust, even if it is here on YT. ~Shelly Last edited by Fancy_Pants; 12-30-2008 at 06:20 PM.

12-30-2008, 07:36 PM	#22
4doggiemama Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: KS Posts: 3,290	Just would like to give you a hug. __________________ Joanne Eli ChipperEva Snowboy Rosie(R.I.P. 1996-July 29, 2013) Cocoa(R.I.P 1998-April 26, 2012):

12-27-2008, 09:41 AM	#16
Joeysmom No Longer a Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Buckley, WA Posts: 930	I'm so sorry for your loss... I lost a dear friend about 5 years ago suddenly, and I still weep over her at times. My heart pangs every time I think of her, and it's almost daily still. It makes me mad when people say, get over it... Another friend lost her 16 year old daughter almost two years ago, and within 6 months people were telling her that.... oh my goodness...the insensitivity. The pain WILL soften in time, though you will always miss him and be sad. I'll be praying for you sweetie.. deb