Dealing with my Mother.

[mscat]

If i were you I would take Bella with you. I would not apreciate my mother doing that to my dog/baby.
Your an adult and i believe she has disrespected you and your wishes . I'd also do whatever you can to get out on your own . Maybe even lieving with roomates for a while or shared rentals could be an option.
i know you probably do not always want to be in conflict with your mother either, and I do feel that in this case she has totally step over her boundaries.
Your mother has already made it clear of what she is going to do when you leave. I would not leave your baby with her. Start making alternative plans for Bella , more so for her saftey, and your peace of mind.
I am sorry your mother is not supportive and making things stressful on you. This is your baby though and your respnosibilty. So do what is in the best interest of your Yorkie, and what works best for you.
Animals can't speak for themselves, and I personally would never leave anybody in charge of my Suzi if could not trust them. Regardless, who it may be.

[kingston_james]

This is a tough one... you are an adult and have your own responsibilties to attend to (namely your doggie!) but you are still under your mom's roof and therefore under her thumb

Until you move out and get your own place, this will just be a losing battle.

If I were you, I'd find another dog food or else your mom is just going to keep going against your wishes. Find one that doesn't make her sick and that is still good for your doggie. Make it easy on her so she'll actually feed her properly.

Unfortunately, your doggie is YOUR responsibility and perhaps you should have considered your living situation before buying a pup. Until then, just keep mom happy so she will keep the dog healthy, kwim?

[kingston_james]

Originally Posted by LaurenMarie

I'm 22, I am not young and I wish to call my mother a bitch for her disrespect towards me, when I have nothing but respected her in regards with MY dog in OUR house (do you know if I help pay the bills, the mortgage? I think not, so before you open your 'matured' trap, I suggest you know a little more than uh... absolutely nothing).

Secondly, DonnaRod is correct, perhaps I may not call my mother a bitch to her face, but doing here so is hurting no ones feelings.

Thirdly, I have seen this forum lose people before due to the rude behavior of the OLDER bunch here and to be honest, it's disgusting. However, I am not as soft skinned as the rest and you may have a harder time flushing me out.

Wow. Today is my first day here and if this is what I have to look forward to by coming to this site, I think perhaps I should just save myself the drama and leave now!

Girl, you are coming across like a downright rude spoiled brat. If you do not want to hear the opinions of the other "mature" ladies on here, then do not post your personal problems on a public forum. This is the internet. You will not always hear what you want to hear; sometimes people may say stuff that upsets you, but if you want to be treated like a mature adult yourself then perhaps you should take it with a grain of salt instead of acting like a prima donna.

kingston's mom (a 20 year old with RESPECT for others who first SHOW respect).

[phfgkl]

Originally Posted by kingston_james

Wow. Today is my first day here and if this is what I have to look forward to by coming to this site, I think perhaps I should just save myself the drama and leave now!

Girl, you are coming across like a downright rude spoiled brat. If you do not want to hear the opinions of the other "mature" ladies on here, then do not post your personal problems on a public forum. This is the internet. You will not always hear what you want to hear; sometimes people may say stuff that upsets you, but if you want to be treated like a mature adult yourself then perhaps you should take it with a grain of salt instead of acting like a prima donna.

kingston's mom (a 20 year old with RESPECT for others who first SHOW respect).

I think you're my lost daughter..

[mscat]

Originally Posted by kingston_james

Wow. Today is my first day here and if this is what I have to look forward to by coming to this site, I think perhaps I should just save myself the drama and leave now!

Girl, you are coming across like a downright rude spoiled brat. If you do not want to hear the opinions of the other "mature" ladies on here, then do not post your personal problems on a public forum. This is the internet. You will not always hear what you want to hear; sometimes people may say stuff that upsets you, but if you want to be treated like a mature adult yourself then perhaps you should take it with a grain of salt instead of acting like a prima donna.

kingston's mom (a 20 year old with RESPECT for others who first SHOW respect).

Please do not get put off by some of these posts. You are a tough, strong, young woman, and that is what we need in here. Do not worry about the drama, it happens everywhere anyway. You have brought up great points too, and YES, respect is never onesided.
I guess it takes some to mature and grow up longer then others .

[Grayson's mom]

my thoughts are one day your mom will be gone and you will will be sorry for your harsh words. I miss my mom bad some days Mom has been gone 7 years now breast cancer took her from my kids who were too young to know what a wonderful woman she was.

jmo................

[yorkiemomto4]

Col 3:20...Children,obey your parents in all things: for this is wellpleasing unto the Lord.

I think deep down the op really loves her mother. I think everyone at one time or another says things that they will regret on down in years. I think what bothers some of us most about her calling her mom the b word is that she has her mom with her and some of us would give anything in this world just to have ONE MORE DAY with ours. I lost my mom 3 yrs ago. If i searched the world over, i couldnt find better parents than what i had. To the op...i know there are some bad moms out there too and i dont know your mom...but if she is a good mom to you, then treasure what you have, because you just dont realize what you have until its gone for good and theres no getting it back when its gone!

[IluvLucy]

I believe I may have started this with my post. I didn't do it to start anything - but, as one of the "mature" posters, it just struck me wrong. I have adult sons and am fortunate enough to have a great relationship with each of them, as well as with my DIL.

I am also at an age where I face losing my parents, who are both in bad health. I butted heads with my mother regularly as a teenager, and eloped at 16 to my eternal regret. It takes time to realize that the things you do and say when you're younger DO follow you for the rest of your life. I regret daily the hurt that I caused her by being just plain stubborn and thank God that I've been able to heal my relationship with her. She wasn't abusive or anything - just being a mother.

I hope all goes well with you changing your baby's food - and pray that you'll come to appreciate your Mother, because good, bad, or indifferent - she's the only one you'll ever have and you're gonna miss her one day.

[keylargolady100]

Originally Posted by kingston_james
Wow. Today is my first day here and if this is what I have to look forward to by coming to this site, I think perhaps I should just save myself the drama and leave now!

Girl, you are coming across like a downright rude spoiled brat. If you do not want to hear the opinions of the other "mature" ladies on here, then do not post your personal problems on a public forum. This is the internet. You will not always hear what you want to hear; sometimes people may say stuff that upsets you, but if you want to be treated like a mature adult yourself then perhaps you should take it with a grain of salt instead of acting like a prima donna.

kingston's mom (a 20 year old with RESPECT for others who first SHOW respect).


I think you're my lost daughter..

No I think she is mine!! lol

What a pleasure to hear from a young person who shows respect. And she knows that what she shows is what she will recieve.

[manolos mom]

Originally Posted by kingston_james

Wow. Today is my first day here and if this is what I have to look forward to by coming to this site, I think perhaps I should just save myself the drama and leave now!

Girl, you are coming across like a downright rude spoiled brat. If you do not want to hear the opinions of the other "mature" ladies on here, then do not post your personal problems on a public forum. This is the internet. You will not always hear what you want to hear; sometimes people may say stuff that upsets you, but if you want to be treated like a mature adult yourself then perhaps you should take it with a grain of salt instead of acting like a prima donna.

kingston's mom (a 20 year old with RESPECT for others who first SHOW respect).

I want her..What an honor it is to meet you.

[phfgkl]

Originally Posted by keylargolady100

Originally Posted by kingston_james
Wow. Today is my first day here and if this is what I have to look forward to by coming to this site, I think perhaps I should just save myself the drama and leave now!

Girl, you are coming across like a downright rude spoiled brat. If you do not want to hear the opinions of the other "mature" ladies on here, then do not post your personal problems on a public forum. This is the internet. You will not always hear what you want to hear; sometimes people may say stuff that upsets you, but if you want to be treated like a mature adult yourself then perhaps you should take it with a grain of salt instead of acting like a prima donna.

kingston's mom (a 20 year old with RESPECT for others who first SHOW respect).
Well, you'll have to fight me for her. I claimed her first


I think you're my lost daughter..

No I think she is mine!! lol

What a pleasure to hear from a young person who shows respect. And she knows that what she shows is what she will recieve.

Well, you'll have to fight me for her. I claimed her first

[layorkiemom]

Originally Posted by manolos mom

I want her..What an honor it is to meet you.

LOL! Can we draw straws to see who gets her? I would bet we would have to fight her real mom! She was a breath of fresh air on this thread that is for sure

[phfgkl]

Originally Posted by layorkiemom

LOL! Can we draw straws to see who gets her? I would bet we would have to fight her real mom! She was a breath of fresh air on this thread that is for sure

Now listen, I already claimed her first. Kingston, tell me where to send your Christmas presents too..

[kingston_james]

lol, aw shucks

[greyacresmom]

I am shocked where again: a thread has not gotten the OP the "support" she wanted.

I have been a very poor young mom, alone. Always had animals. If I had the money, or a boyfriend or whatever that was springing for a trip: you would think that there was a firm foundation for love there. I would have explained the situation to him/her and gotten the money to get my own place. I was VERY close to my Mom, but we could not live together.

My DH won a trip to Hawaii just as we were moving into "Grey Acres" here. It is 2.5 acres and he traded the trip for cash (only about 500.00) but we needed it to put toward the $15,000 it was costing to fence the whole property.

As an adult you will face all kinds of tough choices. You have chosen a trip for a few memories, where you could have chosen a place of your own and possably saved your relationship with your Mother. I lost both of my parents way to early. To put the "bit**" in print was taking it to far...

Sorry I just don't see it your way.
May make this "mature" woman a "Bit**" also. But that is ok. I earned that title years ago with my own kids that live on there own and pay their own way.