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Carsons Mommy · 11-22-2008, 01:55 PM

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Originally Posted by annamalyssa

I don't know your situation or how many problems Teddy has caused you, but I am sure he loves you .. you are his only mommy

Exactly... just keep remembering that.

I understand you're frustrated but my Bailey has peed/pooped on my clothes, carpet, and my bed NUMEROUS times yet someone couldn't pay me a million dollars to get rid of her.

How old is he? You just need to keep him confined when you're not there. Whether it be in a crate, expen or locking him in the bathroom.

QuickSilver · 11-22-2008, 01:56 PM

Also, please keep in mind that as frustrating as Teddy may be right now, he does not INTEND to frustrate you. In his little doggy brain, it made sense to pee on the bed, not the pad. I can't explain why -- just sometimes it helps to keep in mind that he doesn't have the comprehension of a person. You and he can learn to communicate better though, human to dog.

upindust · 11-22-2008, 01:58 PM

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Originally Posted by Carsons Mommy

Exactly... just keep remembering that.

I understand you're frustrated but my Bailey has peed/pooped on my clothes, carpet, and my bed NUMEROUS times yet someone couldn't pay me a million dollars to get rid of her.

How old is he? You just need to keep him confined when you're not there. Whether it be in a crate, expen or locking him in the bathroom.

I'm afraid of him clawing at the bathroom door and ruining it. Thats the only reason i haven't put him in the bathroom.. he loves the bathroom he always goes in there, jumps in the tub and licks the faucet. Even when he has water in his dish he does this.

nov 16th he turned 1

Carsons Mommy · 11-22-2008, 01:59 PM

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Originally Posted by upindust

I'm afraid of him clawing at the bathroom door and ruining it. Thats the only reason i haven't put him in the bathroom.. he loves the bathroom he always goes in there, jumps in the tub and licks the faucet. Even when he has water in his dish he does this.

nov 16th he turned 1

I used to leave Carson in the bathroom with a baby gate... maybe that's an option so he doesn't scratch at the door??

Tink's Mom · 11-22-2008, 01:59 PM

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Originally Posted by upindust

i also found ways to prevent him from trash diving so thats not an issue anymore. No one else I know has an issue like this with their dogs

Oh the stories I could tell you...!! I love my little Tinkerbelle to pieces but she can be sooo naughty that I call her Tinkerbrat!

She was very difficult to potty train. Everytime I thought we had it under control, she'd suprise me with a lovely present in the middle of the carpet or on my comforter and even on the mattress twice. Thank goodness for enzyme cleaners or I would be in the poor house.

She has such a sweet personality that I have to keep trying with her. And now she has some physical issues with potty training that are not her fault - the result of a seizure disorder - so when she is having "issues" on go the pretty little diapers and all is well.

You can get through this - I know you can. Bring out the belly bands, the crate, the X-pen, whatever it takes to get your little fella and you through this. Please don't give up on him, He needs you - you're his mommy.

QuickSilver · 11-22-2008, 02:03 PM

upindust, so it sounds like he's acting out when you leave the house? That's really too bad for both of you - he's stressed because he wants to be with you, and risking being be re-homed!

If it is overbonding stress, that is fixable. You can leave him for one minute, then three minutes, then five minutes, etc., so he gets used to the idea that you will always come back.

chachi · 11-22-2008, 02:09 PM

If hes 1 you are just about through the destructive phase. They calm down so much about 1 1/2. I can understand your frustration mine did all kinds of destruction but the last thing they did was at 1 1/2 and that was a dog bed. Dont give up on him. I agree with everyone else confine him and use belly bands

SamiNFurbabies · 11-22-2008, 02:10 PM

I am the type of person who would rather wait than have something "less than standard"... so I spent many years sleeping on the floor until I could afford my $1200 matress. And Chachi peed on it (I don't know when)...and well---it was not fun.But he's a dog and I knew that when I got him and I love him. He's family
Just calm down and start from scratch. Things happen.

upindust · 11-22-2008, 02:15 PM

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Originally Posted by chachi

If hes 1 you are just about through the destructive phase. They calm down so much about 1 1/2. I can understand your frustration mine did all kinds of destruction but the last thing they did was at 1 1/2 and that was a dog bed. Dont give up on him. I agree with everyone else confine him and use belly bands

well if he wanted to eat his doggie bed I wouldn't be nearly as mad or stressed i got it on sale for 20 bucks and have been wanting to get him a new one anyway! it's just that the bed is a really really big accomplishment for me. I'm 21 and my bed is the most expensive thing in my apartment and we've worked hard to be able to afford a really nice set and now I'm worried that it's ruined or I won't be able to get the stains out.. it's just out of ALL the items in the apartment he could pee on.. he could of peed on the couch and that would of been better because it's scotch guarded. he could of climbed onthe kitchen table and ate my brand new underware(he destroyed my favorite pair yesturday but climbing) I wouldn't be as stressed if he had done that.

I deffinitly hate the idea and can't stand the idea of giving him up but at the sametime it's.. will he ever get any better or will this behavior just continue my parents min palmerian was a NIGHTMARE that dog hated me so much and would guard door ways from me and attack me at any chance he got(i had to wear shoes all the time out of protection)..and I feel like teddy is slowly, very slowly going in the direction of that palm.. only instead of attacking me physically he's going after anything nice we buy.

Also since I'm 21, i DID raise my little sisters from age 6-13 I know what work kids have and I babysit a friends son on days her husband gets a 24 hour watch(military wife too). Also since I'monly 21 I don't want any kids until my late 20's because I don't want the stress they will bring right now and I want to enjoy my young adulthood.

maxmom · 11-22-2008, 02:20 PM

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Originally Posted by upindust

i also found ways to prevent him from trash diving so thats not an issue anymore. No one else I know has an issue like this with their dogs

Oh hun, of course we all go trough the same things you are going trough,they are just like little children, and it gets to be frustrating at times, but it wont last forever, they are highly intelligent animals, are hard to train, but you and your husband will be able to get him to behave. Hope this stage will be over soon and you both get to enjoy your baby.

SamiNFurbabies · 11-22-2008, 02:21 PM

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well if he wanted to eat his doggie bed I wouldn't be nearly as mad or stressed i got it on sale for 20 bucks and have been wanting to get him a new one anyway! it's just that the bed is a really really big accomplishment for me. I'm 21 and my bed is the most expensive thing in my apartment and we've worked hard to be able to afford a really nice set and now I'm worried that it's ruined or I won't be able to get the stains out.. it's just out of ALL the items in the apartment he could pee on.. he could of peed on the couch and that would of been better because it's scotch guarded. he could of climbed onthe kitchen table and ate my brand new underware(he destroyed my favorite pair yesturday but climbing) I wouldn't be as stressed if he had done that.

I deffinitly hate the idea and can't stand the idea of giving him up but at the sametime it's.. will he ever get any better or will this behavior just continue my parents min palmerian was a NIGHTMARE that dog hated me so much and would guard door ways from me and attack me at any chance he got(i had to wear shoes all the time out of protection)..and I feel like teddy is slowly, very slowly going in the direction of that palm.. only instead of attacking me physically he's going after anything nice we buy.

Also since I'm 21, i DID raise my little sisters from age 6-13 I know what work kids have and I babysit a friends son on days her husband gets a 24 hour watch(military wife too). Also since I'monly 21 I don't want any kids until my late 20's because I don't want the stress they will bring right now and I want to enjoy my young adulthood.

I can understand that you are young (as am I---in college) and that it takes a while to save up---and you want to enjoy your young adulthood.
However, YOU made the commitment to get Teddy. For life. YOU made the commitment to train him. Whatever problems he has is YOU not being as consistent or strict as you should be. I'm not saying this to be mean. It's a fact. Just like with me, If Suzie or Izze have a mistake---it's MY fault. Nobody else's.
He's only a year old---they eat everything---the carpet , the walls. They pee everywhere--- on beds, on pillows. It's up to you to keep your eye on him and when you can't confine him to the crate.
I hope that you try with him. He needs you and loves you. You are his everything. Please be there for him.

chachi · 11-22-2008, 02:21 PM

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Originally Posted by upindust

well if he wanted to eat his doggie bed I wouldn't be nearly as mad or stressed i got it on sale for 20 bucks and have been wanting to get him a new one anyway! it's just that the bed is a really really big accomplishment for me. I'm 21 and my bed is the most expensive thing in my apartment and we've worked hard to be able to afford a really nice set and now I'm worried that it's ruined or I won't be able to get the stains out.. it's just out of ALL the items in the apartment he could pee on.. he could of peed on the couch and that would of been better because it's scotch guarded. he could of climbed onthe kitchen table and ate my brand new underware(he destroyed my favorite pair yesturday but climbing) I wouldn't be as stressed if he had done that.

I deffinitly hate the idea and can't stand the idea of giving him up but at the sametime it's.. will he ever get any better or will this behavior just continue my parents min palmerian was a NIGHTMARE that dog hated me so much and would guard door ways from me and attack me at any chance he got(i had to wear shoes all the time out of protection)..and I feel like teddy is slowly, very slowly going in the direction of that palm.. only instead of attacking me physically he's going after anything nice we buy.

Also since I'm 21, i DID raise my little sisters from age 6-13 I know what work kids have and I babysit a friends son on days her husband gets a 24 hour watch(military wife too). Also since I'monly 21 I don't want any kids until my late 20's because I don't want the stress they will bring right now and I want to enjoy my young adulthood.

I understand why your frustrated. I really think if you give him some time he will come out of it. Mine are 4 now and they never destroy anything. Youve just got to get completely out of that puppy stage

QuickSilver · 11-22-2008, 02:23 PM

I hear you, upindust. I can understand that this bed is a big deal for you, and it might almost seem like Teddy is deliberately molesting the things you care about most. Your mattress is going to be fine, though. Even if it has a stain, the mattress is going to be flipped over half the time anyway, and covered with sheets. You will have many years to enjoy sleeping on it. By the way, congratulations on getting a real bed! I think you're going to be getting much better sleep.

If you grew up with a badly trained dog, you might unconciously believe you're doomed to always have bad dogs. That's not the case. Your parents should have trained their dog better, it's not right that a dog attack family members. This is not a judgment of your parents, they may have been great in all other respects, but they made a mistake there. You can definitely have a good dog of your own. He just needs the proper guidance.

upindust · 11-22-2008, 03:04 PM

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Originally Posted by QuickSilver

I hear you, upindust. I can understand that this bed is a big deal for you, and it might almost seem like Teddy is deliberately molesting the things you care about most. Your mattress is going to be fine, though. Even if it has a stain, the mattress is going to be flipped over half the time anyway, and covered with sheets. You will have many years to enjoy sleeping on it. By the way, congratulations on getting a real bed! I think you're going to be getting much better sleep.

If you grew up with a badly trained dog, you might unconciously believe you're doomed to always have bad dogs. That's not the case. Your parents should have trained their dog better, it's not right that a dog attack family members. This is not a judgment of your parents, they may have been great in all other respects, but they made a mistake there. You can definitely have a good dog of your own. He just needs the proper guidance.

right now the stain is a light yellow. now. I am going to be treating it for a few days and hopefully it'll go out.

yorkiegirl83 · 11-22-2008, 03:12 PM

I feel for you, I really do! With having 4 babies of my own, I've seen them destroy just about everything at one point or another. Honestly -- no matter how good they've been being at any moment they can seem to be possessed, lol.

They've chewed all the baseboard molding of my new house, tore up this pillow, ect ect. So I can really relate to how you are feeling. It's hard when you feel you are trying your best and sometimes the behavior doesn't change.

If after you have thought about this some more and you still really feel you can't do this, I think it would be understandable to find Teddy a new home. Sometimes certain times in our lives just aren't right for a pet and if it is stressing you so much, I believe Teddy might feel it and act out more.

Just search deep in your heart and do the best you can.

11-22-2008, 02:09 PM	#22
chachi I Love My Yorkies Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Indianapolis, Indiana Posts: 37,147	If hes 1 you are just about through the destructive phase. They calm down so much about 1 1/2. I can understand your frustration mine did all kinds of destruction but the last thing they did was at 1 1/2 and that was a dog bed. Dont give up on him. I agree with everyone else confine him and use belly bands __________________ Chachi's & Jewels Mom Jewels http://www.dogster.com/?132431 Chachi http://www.dogster.com/?132427

11-22-2008, 02:10 PM	#23
SamiNFurbabies YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: My House Posts: 517	I am the type of person who would rather wait than have something "less than standard"... so I spent many years sleeping on the floor until I could afford my $1200 matress. And Chachi peed on it (I don't know when)...and well---it was not fun.But he's a dog and I knew that when I got him and I love him. He's family Just calm down and start from scratch. Things happen. __________________ Chrissy, Izze (Yorkshire Terrier),Molly & Suzie (Toy Poodles), Chachi (Chihuahua)

11-22-2008, 02:23 PM	#28
QuickSilver Thor's Human Donating Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: San Francisco, CA Posts: 5,929 Blog Entries: 31	I hear you, upindust. I can understand that this bed is a big deal for you, and it might almost seem like Teddy is deliberately molesting the things you care about most. Your mattress is going to be fine, though. Even if it has a stain, the mattress is going to be flipped over half the time anyway, and covered with sheets. You will have many years to enjoy sleeping on it. By the way, congratulations on getting a real bed! I think you're going to be getting much better sleep. If you grew up with a badly trained dog, you might unconciously believe you're doomed to always have bad dogs. That's not the case. Your parents should have trained their dog better, it's not right that a dog attack family members. This is not a judgment of your parents, they may have been great in all other respects, but they made a mistake there. You can definitely have a good dog of your own. He just needs the proper guidance. Last edited by QuickSilver; 11-22-2008 at 02:26 PM. Reason: I like to edit!

11-22-2008, 01:56 PM	#17
QuickSilver Thor's Human Donating Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: San Francisco, CA Posts: 5,929 Blog Entries: 31	Also, please keep in mind that as frustrating as Teddy may be right now, he does not INTEND to frustrate you. In his little doggy brain, it made sense to pee on the bed, not the pad. I can't explain why -- just sometimes it helps to keep in mind that he doesn't have the comprehension of a person. You and he can learn to communicate better though, human to dog.

11-22-2008, 02:03 PM	#21
QuickSilver Thor's Human Donating Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: San Francisco, CA Posts: 5,929 Blog Entries: 31	upindust, so it sounds like he's acting out when you leave the house? That's really too bad for both of you - he's stressed because he wants to be with you, and risking being be re-homed! If it is overbonding stress, that is fixable. You can leave him for one minute, then three minutes, then five minutes, etc., so he gets used to the idea that you will always come back.

11-22-2008, 03:12 PM	#30
yorkiegirl83 Love My Furbabies! Donating Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: somewhere Posts: 4,427	I feel for you, I really do! With having 4 babies of my own, I've seen them destroy just about everything at one point or another. Honestly -- no matter how good they've been being at any moment they can seem to be possessed, lol. They've chewed all the baseboard molding of my new house, tore up this pillow, ect ect. So I can really relate to how you are feeling. It's hard when you feel you are trying your best and sometimes the behavior doesn't change. If after you have thought about this some more and you still really feel you can't do this, I think it would be understandable to find Teddy a new home. Sometimes certain times in our lives just aren't right for a pet and if it is stressing you so much, I believe Teddy might feel it and act out more. Just search deep in your heart and do the best you can.