HELP!! I want to get Abbey spayed, family won't let me...(want her to have puppies!)

[abbey lee]

Originally Posted by browniesmom622

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Thanks so much for going through the trouble of sending me this information!!! Appreciated.

[abbey lee]

Originally Posted by katelin

I doubt your family will come around to your views no matter what you say or who says it. People think that breeding is a normal activity that happens in the wild without all our help, so why not now with your baby. The problem is, in the wild it is survival of the fittest. Here, we want all of our babies to survive.

You're in college now, and it is possible for you to take action without their approval. You need to make this decision for your baby and then follow through. Best wishes.

Yes the other day after I said "Some dogs die when giving birth" my sister replied with "Well some humans die when giving birth, but they still do it." I tried to explain that humans have ONE baby most time and still struggle and Abbey weighs 4 pounds not like 170 and ITS JUST NOT THE SAME.

I know I can make my own decisions and I am, I am spaying her. I just want the fam to come around and see why I am so against it so I was looking for info to prove how hard it can be on the dog...Thanks for the concern!!

[JuicyGirl]

Stay strong and don't give in to them. I think you should see if your vet will let you make payment plans... Is your name on all of her paperwork? My mom wanted me to breed Lola and told me it was easy also... when she was a kid their dogs had puppies all the time. She was upset that I wanted to spay her... I saved up my money ( i'm in college also ) made an appointment and took her in. Tell them your grandmother may have payed for her, but Abbey is YOUR baby and you will do what is in her best interest

[lstrobee]

That is really sad that your family is putting you in such an uncomfortable situation. I also have an Abbey who is just four months old! She will definitely be spayed at six months! Abbey was given to you as a gift which makes her your babygirl! You have to do what is best for her.....she counts on you. Good luck with your family.

[mybirdys2003]

My mother always said a gift is a gift and the person you give it to can do whatever they want with it because it is no longer yours! Good Advice! Stand up for yourself and do what you want to do. My Misty is 5 months old, but the vet said to wait until the second eye tooth comes in to spay her, as they don't lose the first one and have doubles. He said it was fine to wait until she was about 7 months. She is starting to get them now. The reason he said to wait, is so that they won't have to put her under twice!
Pat

[abbey lee]

Great news!! Just talked to my grandma and had a long conversation. she basically agrees with me... Sent me this email...

"Its ur dog and u have enough to do with out handling dogs wanting to get to her and then her pregnancy and then the delivery and then taking care of her and the pups and in an APT! Do it! I will send u the money when u get the bill. Shes urs, so do it!"

I knew my grandma would come around, so I'm doing it, scheduling the appointment next week. My sister, mom, and aunt can just deal with it. BC she's my baby.

Thanks again for the ideas, I will forward the info to my family.

[xxmxaxrxyxx]

aww that is great to hear! hey your grandma gave you Abbey and now she understand and is even willing to pay for the spay...wish Abbey a full recover!

[lstrobee]

That is awesome! What a nice Grandma!

[hasrv4fun]

Originally Posted by abbey lee

This is going to sounds terrible, I know. And I will probably get some negative responses but please please keep in mind MOST people do not know as much about yorkies as many YTers.

Abbey is six months old now and I want to get her spayed ASAP, my vet does too. Problem is, my grandma bought Abbey for me AND pays all her vet bills. I probably could not do it on my own as I am struggling with being in college, having loans, rent, ect. So I guess my fam feels some entitlement to what goes on with her bc of that. When I first got Abbey they said they wanted to breed her with my sister's yorkie, Noodle. I kind of blew this off like they weren't very serious. Well now, they really want to do it. I brought up that I was thinking she should get spayed soon and my mom was like "No, we are breeding her!!"

I ABSOLUTELY do NOT want to breed her. First, he is very tiny, she weighs 4 pounds right now. Second, I do not know the first thing about breeding and I tell my family this and they are like "Oh, you can learn, it's not that hard." They say this bc my stepmom bred her yorkie and had little experience and everything was fine! Ugh. I try to explain them what I have read on YT and other places about how hard it is, how dangerous it is for the dogs, ect. They do not care, they just want the puppies!!!

It makes me sick bc this is my own family and they just want "free" puppies. Everyone is already claiming one!!! I try to tell them it won't be free...she may need a C-section and other vet bills. I also tell them I would have to stay home and care for the babies when they are born. By no means "free" puppies.

My main concern is Abbey. I DO NOT want her to breed bc I am afraid she will have complications. I am not willing to risk her life for this.

I even called my mom and said "Go BUY yourself a puppy from a breeder. Don't come after my dog." Basically she does not need to be "cheap."

Abbey is my baby and I thought my family loved her like me (I guess they do) but how can they see her as a puppy machine?!?!? And how can they even talk about her having puppies when she is still a puppy?? Makes me sick.

Anyway, I need your help. I want to get Abbey spayed, but like I said I cannot do it if my grandmother does not help me pay for it. What should I say to my family??? What can I say (that I haven't already) to make them see this is a TERRIBLE idea and that buying their own puppies from a breeder is a better idea?? I could probably get together some money and get her spayed and not tell them but I really just want their support. And they honestly get mad at me when I talk about getting her spayed!!

Please help.

If you will pm me i will see to it that the spay bill is taken care of - this is blackmail that they are doing to you - if this is your dog then you should have the say about breeding etc- breeding is not a thing to take lightly -

PM me please

[xxmxaxrxyxx]

Originally Posted by hasrv4fun

If you will pm me i will see to it that the spay bill is taken care of - this is blackmail that they are doing to you - if this is your dog then you should have the say about breeding etc- breeding is not a thing to take lightly -

PM me please

aww that is so sweet of you....but i think her grandma has already agreed to pay for the spayed...hehe...

[kwaymon]

I'm glad your Grandma came around. My family wanted me to breed mine and my sister's dog. They all wanted free pups too, including my sis. Well, I went and got him neutered anywaway and that was that. Now my sister's dog is spayed too. I think your family will get over once they realize that what's done is done.

[abbey lee]

Originally Posted by hasrv4fun

If you will pm me i will see to it that the spay bill is taken care of - this is blackmail that they are doing to you - if this is your dog then you should have the say about breeding etc- breeding is not a thing to take lightly -

PM me please

I PMed you, you are so kind, I am amazed how awesome YT members are and how many amazing people I have met here!

[lulababy]

I am having the same issue.. except without the money. my family is not supporting me spaying my puppy. they are all so ignorant! they think i am doing the wrong thing and taking away opportunity. they say she is so pretty and will make pretty babies but she is like 3lbs and way too small! they think because i am getting a tiny male next month that i should breed them and basically "sell the winnings" ... ugh!

[lulababy]

Originally Posted by hasrv4fun

If you will pm me i will see to it that the spay bill is taken care of - this is blackmail that they are doing to you - if this is your dog then you should have the say about breeding etc- breeding is not a thing to take lightly -

PM me please

aw helen!! you are beyond sweet!!

[Beabble]

Oh boy, that's a tough one, specially for me, cause I'm not a nice person when it comes to the ignorance (I'm by no means slamming your family) of people wanting to breed furkids like that and for stupid reasons. My hubbies cousin wants to breed his lil mix with Maggy May and I laughed in his face and told him in his dreams, she's getting spayed and even if she wasn't getting spayed, she's not having pups. He said, but they'd make such cute puppies! I said, ya, they would, and I don't care, she still isn't being bred with anything! I'd simply put my foot down and tell them you're not letting her be bred with anything, period. She's YOUR furkid and you're doing what's best for her and if they get mad, oh well, they'll eventually get over it. These furkids depend on us to do what's right for them and we need to stand up for them, even if it means disappointing family members. Sorry I couldn't be of much help, I hope you can find a peaceful resolution to this situation.