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chachi · 04-14-2008, 06:32 AM

I am sorry your going through this. I think the best thing you can do is just consider that you rehomed the pup to the best home possible at the time just like the breeders do when they place pups. Then when the timing is right for you maybe you can get another pup

saphire · 04-14-2008, 06:37 AM

I am sorry you are hurting. I hope you find a solution, and that your heart heals.

Sheilagh

Mom to Hot Rod · 04-14-2008, 06:38 AM

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Originally Posted by YorkieRose

I am so sorry this has happened to you...but it is done and you will have to move on. We choose to be happy or depressed...we can not say, "when all is well in my life, THEN I will be happy"...because you know how life is...it may be fine for awhile, but something always hits the fan sooner or later...

Treasure your memories of your puppy...get up each morning and decide to be happy, make the life of someone else better...go to the shelter and volunteer to walk dogs, find a shut-in who would enjoy a visit from you and Hot Rod, get involved in animal welfare and do it for the love of Zoe...best wishes

PS...You may say I do not understand the pain in your heart and you have no control over it...BUT I do understand and when you take the focus off YOUR heartaches and concentrate on someone elses, your pain will lessen...

Sage and very good advice but right now the cut is too deep and I need this time to let the wounds heals at least allow them to mend some. In my head, I realize that in time things will not be so bleak but allow please allow me my time to mourn my loss.

Breezeaway · 04-14-2008, 06:45 AM

So sorry for your pain, it brings tears to my eyes. I think I would go to her doorstep and cry. I hope it all works out for you. BIG HUGS!!!

SANDYSAND · 04-14-2008, 06:45 AM

I'm sorry that you are going through this. Sending you prayers & hugs.

YorkieRose · 04-14-2008, 06:57 AM

Absolutely, the cut is deep and you need time to heal...the process of a healthy healing comes in many ways...

Mom to Hot Rod · 04-14-2008, 07:10 AM

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Originally Posted by YorkieRose

Absolutely, the cut is deep and you need time to heal...the process of a healthy healing comes in many ways...

and for me that healthy way is for me to go through it at my pace, my terms and my way. I am in this situation because I was constantly being pushed and I should have pushed back but that is in the past. Let me deal with this on my terms...in my own time.

abbey lee · 04-14-2008, 07:13 AM

I'm so sorry. In a way, I feel like I can really understand the pain you feel. You take your time and allow yourself time to be sad. Allowing yourself time to cry and be sad is just as important as eventually m oving on. My mother would always tell me that when I was depressed over a break up... "I'll give you 2 more days to cry and be depressed, then we move on." It really helped having that time to cry.

I would also say that you should try your hardest to get her back, bc you'll regret it later if you don't try. But you also have to understand the new owners feelings when doing this and not push too hard bc they have probably also formed bonds with the dog.

I do wish you the best of luck. And I'm here if you s hould need anything to lend support.

Just go love on your doggy you have now, they will bring you joy.

Mybabyboymax · 04-14-2008, 07:14 AM

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Originally Posted by YorkieRose

I am so sorry this has happened to you...but it is done and you will have to move on. We choose to be happy or depressed...we can not say, "when all is well in my life, THEN I will be happy"...because you know how life is...it may be fine for awhile, but something always hits the fan sooner or later...

Treasure your memories of your puppy...get up each morning and decide to be happy, make the life of someone else better...go to the shelter and volunteer to walk dogs, find a shut-in who would enjoy a visit from you and Hot Rod, get involved in animal welfare and do it for the love of Zoe...best wishes

PS...You may say I do not understand the pain in your heart and you have no control over it...BUT I do understand and when you take the focus off YOUR heartaches and concentrate on someone elses, your pain will lessen...

This is great advice

she asked if anyone knew how to help her heartache and you gave great suggestions. your words even helped me see things differently thanks

MeganJ · 04-14-2008, 07:14 AM

I am so sorry. Hopefully everything will work out in the end.

Little Bit · 04-14-2008, 07:16 AM

I am so sorry your are feeling so badly! Take care of yourself and let yourself heal.

Patti · 04-14-2008, 07:17 AM

I am so sorry for your pain. Maybe if you could tell the new owners that you will help find them another puppy they will give her back, How long have they had her?

Pinkluver · 04-14-2008, 07:17 AM

sorry you are having such a rough time, I hope everything works out and you get some peace with the situation.

chachi · 04-14-2008, 07:17 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by YorkieRose

I am so sorry this has happened to you...but it is done and you will have to move on. We choose to be happy or depressed...we can not say, "when all is well in my life, THEN I will be happy"...because you know how life is...it may be fine for awhile, but something always hits the fan sooner or later...

Treasure your memories of your puppy...get up each morning and decide to be happy, make the life of someone else better...go to the shelter and volunteer to walk dogs, find a shut-in who would enjoy a visit from you and Hot Rod, get involved in animal welfare and do it for the love of Zoe...best wishes

PS...You may say I do not understand the pain in your heart and you have no control over it...BUT I do understand and when you take the focus off YOUR heartaches and concentrate on someone elses, your pain will lessen...

That was great advice. I agree

Mom to Hot Rod · 04-14-2008, 07:37 AM

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Originally Posted by Patti

I am so sorry for your pain. Maybe if you could tell the new owners that you will help find them another puppy they will give her back, How long have they had her?

Zoe left us this past Friday. They live about 3 1/2 hours away. We had been talking by email for about 2 weeks. They are aquaintances of friends. They were gracious to open the home and heart to Zoe and I know that they love her and I had offered to help her find another pup. she has 3 yorkies now and I think she may be considering showing Zoe, I am not sure. I wish I would have listened to my gut feeling.

04-14-2008, 06:32 AM	#16
chachi I Love My Yorkies Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Indianapolis, Indiana Posts: 37,147	I am sorry your going through this. I think the best thing you can do is just consider that you rehomed the pup to the best home possible at the time just like the breeders do when they place pups. Then when the timing is right for you maybe you can get another pup __________________ Chachi's & Jewels Mom Jewels http://www.dogster.com/?132431 Chachi http://www.dogster.com/?132427

04-14-2008, 06:37 AM	#17
saphire Lil' CoCo, Lotta Coffee. Donating Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: South Africa Posts: 3,115	I am sorry you are hurting. I hope you find a solution, and that your heart heals. Sheilagh __________________ Sheilagh CoffeeAbigail-Ceana. CoCoMurfee & Winston

04-14-2008, 06:45 AM	#20
SANDYSAND Mommy Loves Koda & Kacy! Donating Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Home of the NY Yankees Posts: 6,500	I'm sorry that you are going through this. Sending you prayers & hugs. __________________ http://www.onetruemedia.com/shared?p=3a2e8eedc3dc6290fbd72e&skin_id=1603&utm_s ource=otm&utm_medium=text_url Mommy Loves:Koda & Kacy. Smile Life is a GIFT First Lady of the SRC~ Koda Benji

04-14-2008, 06:57 AM	#21
YorkieRose No Longer a Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: South Florida Posts: 8,577	depressed Absolutely, the cut is deep and you need time to heal...the process of a healthy healing comes in many ways...

04-14-2008, 07:13 AM	#23
abbey lee Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: San Marcos, TX Posts: 843	I'm so sorry. In a way, I feel like I can really understand the pain you feel. You take your time and allow yourself time to be sad. Allowing yourself time to cry and be sad is just as important as eventually m oving on. My mother would always tell me that when I was depressed over a break up... "I'll give you 2 more days to cry and be depressed, then we move on." It really helped having that time to cry. I would also say that you should try your hardest to get her back, bc you'll regret it later if you don't try. But you also have to understand the new owners feelings when doing this and not push too hard bc they have probably also formed bonds with the dog. I do wish you the best of luck. And I'm here if you s hould need anything to lend support. Just go love on your doggy you have now, they will bring you joy. __________________ Chelsey & Abbey We love and miss you MINNIE. Never far from our thoughts, Rest In Peace

04-14-2008, 06:45 AM	#19
Breezeaway No Longer a Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Wildcat Country(KY) Posts: 2,114 Blog Entries: 26	So sorry for your pain, it brings tears to my eyes. I think I would go to her doorstep and cry. I hope it all works out for you. BIG HUGS!!!

04-14-2008, 07:14 AM	#25
MeganJ Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Philadelphia Posts: 378	I am so sorry. Hopefully everything will work out in the end. __________________ Megan, Mommy to.....Carly ,& Cindy Yorkies are Angels with Paws!

04-14-2008, 07:16 AM	#26
Little Bit Tiny Dog Big Heart Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Texas Posts: 6,205	I am so sorry your are feeling so badly! Take care of yourself and let yourself heal. __________________ Little Bit

04-14-2008, 07:17 AM	#27
Patti Donating YT 30K Club Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Illinois Posts: 35,509 Blog Entries: 6	I am so sorry for your pain. Maybe if you could tell the new owners that you will help find them another puppy they will give her back, How long have they had her? __________________ Cali Pixie Roxie : RIP Nikki; RIP Maya;RIP my sweet Dixie girl 1/17/08 http://callipuppyscastle.bravehost.com/index.html

04-14-2008, 07:17 AM	#28
Pinkluver Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: texas Posts: 381	sorry you are having such a rough time, I hope everything works out and you get some peace with the situation. __________________ Momma to Ava