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baby03 · 08-09-2006, 07:31 PM

Don't feel bad!! When I got my second yorkie I cried so much I got a migraine!! It lasted a couple of days!! I was crying for no reason. First it was because I thought that my first yorkie felt hurt. Then I cried and cried and cried!! It will pass!! Good luck to you!!

patg · 08-10-2006, 02:44 PM

You not alone! When we brought Bear home I had to contend with our older dog, Beau, pouting all over the place

and Bear relieving himself all over the place.

It was almost like when our youngest child was born and her siblings whined all the time! Hang in there, things will get better.

Lucy Lu · 08-14-2006, 08:11 PM

When I got my first yorkie 3 years ago I felt the same way. I was a very young mother and I successfully raised twin human daughters who are 25 now and I felt like such a fool to be having trouble adjusting to just a puppy. About two weeks into having her I panicked because for one whole evening I just wanted to give her away for good, as I thought I had made a bad mistake. I kept her, thank god. I love her so much now I panic at the thought of something happening to her. I think maybe some of what you go through may be just part of the bonding experience even with pets. I have since added my second yorkie and she in her own little way has been a little bit of an adjustment, but I am so much more relaxed with any negative feelings knowing how much joy they bring....

pinky333_4 · 11-05-2008, 05:04 PM

I feel crazy. I have wanted this dog for so long. She is so cute and gets a long great with my boys. And I am in my bed crying thinking I made a mistake. I don't know what to do. My puppy deserves a better Mom then me.

Chelsey · 11-06-2008, 02:55 AM

Pinky, it is overwelming, a new baby in the house takes getting use to!
I promise you girl, in a few weeks time, you will feel a lot better.
Dont feel bad, and dont feel guilty, just remember to pick her up and love her, she feels your emotions, and you need to bond with her.
They grow up so fast, in a few months time you will be longing for those little puppy days again.
You are a good mom, it really isnt unusual or abnormal to have the blues.
Good luck to you, PM me if you want to chat, i'm here for you.

HUGS!!

Lucia · 11-06-2008, 03:33 AM

Aww bless u both, TamTam and Pinky! Twinkle is my first yorkie and she's still a puppy but I can back up what all the other more experienced posters have said: It does get easier I wish u both all the best! I'm sure you're great mums xx xxx xxx

pinky333_4 · 11-06-2008, 04:43 AM

Thank you both. I feel a lot better today. It helps thinking others felt the same way and that it will get better.

GrayC25 · 11-06-2008, 09:55 AM

Oh my lord, you are not weird or alone in this. The weekend we got our little baby Samson my husband was away, so I headed up to my mother-in-law's house (she's the one who picked him up from the breeder) with my sister-in-law. I feel in love at first site, but man did Samson cry those first few nights. Right away I knew it was going to be a lot of hard work and patience. However, after two nights up north, I came home on sunday. I was by myself with Samson for the first time and I just sat down and cried and cried. I called my husband up (he was on his way home but still hours away) and wailed to him "I Think we made a mistake!!!!!!!!!" I was so overwhelmed. I called a friend who has an older yorkie and she talked me off the ledge a little bit, but I was still totally freaked out.

Samson is now 8 months and we are still having trouble potty training him. Just two nights ago I sat on the floor and cried because he peed on the carpet AGAIN!!! It's so overwhelming and sometimes you think it's never going to happen. But a few months ago, he was doing great, so I know we can get there again.

pinky333_4 · 11-06-2008, 10:51 AM

lol You sound just like me. Are you sure you were not spying on my last night. lol But you are supposed to say by 8 months my puppy will be trained.

Good luck to you. I'm sure your pup will get it back.

gzarr · 11-06-2008, 12:27 PM

I wish I had joined yorkietalk when I got Isla 2 months ago. I went through the same thing right after I brought her home. I knew exactly what I was because I had post partum anxiety after my 2nd child. I have four kids under 5 years old but when I turned 30 in August I wanted a housedog. Apparently turning 30 doesn't make you any smarter!

I had a yorkie when I was a kid and loved him and have always wanted one for my family--and me. But when you have that many kids so young there isn't a whole lot of time for another 'baby.' Since the kids were starting to get older and more self-sufficient I thought I would be able to manage it. I put strict regulations on myself and her like she had to stay in the kitchen while getting used to the house so she wouldn't potty on the carpet, she had to sleep in her kennel at night and while we were away, taking her out every 20-30 min., etc. It instantly reminded me of feeling 'trapped' with a baby. I was like, 'what did I do to myself?' She was a very good puppy, but she was a puppy nonetheless.

Since it was my idea for the puppy I didn't feel like it was anyone else's responsibility but my own to care for her. Stupid, I know. Ultimately I had to go on anti-anxiety meds since that's what helped last time. I'm not saying you would have to, I just know my body and mind and that's what helped get me through.

But! Isla did get better and I only sat in the kitchen with her for a week or so and then I thought to myself-get a grip and bring her out in the house. I had her on a leash for the first 3-4 days just so I could watch her. But she got better fast. And at night it helped to have her kennel next to my bed on a chair so she could see me and smell me. I would stick my fingers in her kennel if she would whine and she'd stop. It also helped to walk her or have her play with neighbors dogs before bed (8-10ish).

Anyways, like others have said, it get better fast and you'll be loving your new family member. Be stong!!!

08-10-2006, 02:44 PM	#17
patg Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Washington Posts: 30	Baby Blues You not alone! When we brought Bear home I had to contend with our older dog, Beau, pouting all over the place and Bear relieving himself all over the place. It was almost like when our youngest child was born and her siblings whined all the time! Hang in there, things will get better.

11-06-2008, 02:55 AM	#20
Chelsey My2Pearls Chelsey & Chanel YT Donator Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: N Posts: 4,097	Pinky, it is overwelming, a new baby in the house takes getting use to! I promise you girl, in a few weeks time, you will feel a lot better. Dont feel bad, and dont feel guilty, just remember to pick her up and love her, she feels your emotions, and you need to bond with her. They grow up so fast, in a few months time you will be longing for those little puppy days again. You are a good mom, it really isnt unusual or abnormal to have the blues. Good luck to you, PM me if you want to chat, i'm here for you. HUGS!! __________________ Proud member of the crazy club

11-06-2008, 03:33 AM	#21
Lucia Twinkle & Wicket's Mum Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Kent, England Posts: 2,197	Aww bless u both, TamTam and Pinky! Twinkle is my first yorkie and she's still a puppy but I can back up what all the other more experienced posters have said: It does get easier I wish u both all the best! I'm sure you're great mums xx xxx xxx __________________ Love from Claire (Me!) mummy to skindaughters Mia and Lucia, furdaughter Twinkleand fursons Wicket and Ozzy 'Treat stressful situations like a dog; pee on them then walk away.'

08-09-2006, 07:31 PM	#16
baby03 Donating YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: us Posts: 2,255	Don't feel bad!! When I got my second yorkie I cried so much I got a migraine!! It lasted a couple of days!! I was crying for no reason. First it was because I thought that my first yorkie felt hurt. Then I cried and cried and cried!! It will pass!! Good luck to you!!

08-14-2006, 08:11 PM	#18
Lucy Lu Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Montana Posts: 102	When I got my first yorkie 3 years ago I felt the same way. I was a very young mother and I successfully raised twin human daughters who are 25 now and I felt like such a fool to be having trouble adjusting to just a puppy. About two weeks into having her I panicked because for one whole evening I just wanted to give her away for good, as I thought I had made a bad mistake. I kept her, thank god. I love her so much now I panic at the thought of something happening to her. I think maybe some of what you go through may be just part of the bonding experience even with pets. I have since added my second yorkie and she in her own little way has been a little bit of an adjustment, but I am so much more relaxed with any negative feelings knowing how much joy they bring....

11-05-2008, 05:04 PM	#19
pinky333_4 Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Michigan Posts: 68	I feel crazy. I have wanted this dog for so long. She is so cute and gets a long great with my boys. And I am in my bed crying thinking I made a mistake. I don't know what to do. My puppy deserves a better Mom then me.

11-06-2008, 04:43 AM	#22
pinky333_4 Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Michigan Posts: 68	Thank you both. I feel a lot better today. It helps thinking others felt the same way and that it will get better.

11-06-2008, 09:55 AM	#23
GrayC25 Yorkie Yakker Join Date: May 2008 Location: Metro Detroit Posts: 57	Oh my lord, you are not weird or alone in this. The weekend we got our little baby Samson my husband was away, so I headed up to my mother-in-law's house (she's the one who picked him up from the breeder) with my sister-in-law. I feel in love at first site, but man did Samson cry those first few nights. Right away I knew it was going to be a lot of hard work and patience. However, after two nights up north, I came home on sunday. I was by myself with Samson for the first time and I just sat down and cried and cried. I called my husband up (he was on his way home but still hours away) and wailed to him "I Think we made a mistake!!!!!!!!!" I was so overwhelmed. I called a friend who has an older yorkie and she talked me off the ledge a little bit, but I was still totally freaked out. Samson is now 8 months and we are still having trouble potty training him. Just two nights ago I sat on the floor and cried because he peed on the carpet AGAIN!!! It's so overwhelming and sometimes you think it's never going to happen. But a few months ago, he was doing great, so I know we can get there again.

11-06-2008, 10:51 AM	#24
pinky333_4 Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Michigan Posts: 68	lol You sound just like me. Are you sure you were not spying on my last night. lol But you are supposed to say by 8 months my puppy will be trained. Good luck to you. I'm sure your pup will get it back.

11-06-2008, 12:27 PM	#25
gzarr Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Minot, ND Posts: 194	I wish I had joined yorkietalk when I got Isla 2 months ago. I went through the same thing right after I brought her home. I knew exactly what I was because I had post partum anxiety after my 2nd child. I have four kids under 5 years old but when I turned 30 in August I wanted a housedog. Apparently turning 30 doesn't make you any smarter! I had a yorkie when I was a kid and loved him and have always wanted one for my family--and me. But when you have that many kids so young there isn't a whole lot of time for another 'baby.' Since the kids were starting to get older and more self-sufficient I thought I would be able to manage it. I put strict regulations on myself and her like she had to stay in the kitchen while getting used to the house so she wouldn't potty on the carpet, she had to sleep in her kennel at night and while we were away, taking her out every 20-30 min., etc. It instantly reminded me of feeling 'trapped' with a baby. I was like, 'what did I do to myself?' She was a very good puppy, but she was a puppy nonetheless. Since it was my idea for the puppy I didn't feel like it was anyone else's responsibility but my own to care for her. Stupid, I know. Ultimately I had to go on anti-anxiety meds since that's what helped last time. I'm not saying you would have to, I just know my body and mind and that's what helped get me through. But! Isla did get better and I only sat in the kitchen with her for a week or so and then I thought to myself-get a grip and bring her out in the house. I had her on a leash for the first 3-4 days just so I could watch her. But she got better fast. And at night it helped to have her kennel next to my bed on a chair so she could see me and smell me. I would stick my fingers in her kennel if she would whine and she'd stop. It also helped to walk her or have her play with neighbors dogs before bed (8-10ish). Anyways, like others have said, it get better fast and you'll be loving your new family member. Be stong!!!