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yougetthesmiles · 09-01-2006, 06:25 PM

My daughter Branda has had a rough night, her boyfriend calls her up at work and told her his friend saw her and another boy in the lunch room at school making out.

My daughter would never do this and she and this boy that he is accusing her of making out with does not even have the same lunch shift.

So now she is crying and upset and just heart broken. I honestly think he wanted to break it off with her and was chicken s#^@ and didnt have the nerve to do it so he is using this excuse.

I have tried to talk to her and tell her he is not worth it, that she will have so many broken hearts and to learn from this. But right now she is just so hurt and I dont know what to do or say.

I just want to ring this kids neck, I'm so angry with him, he knows her better then this and he knows how much she liked him and she would never do this sort of thing to him.

I know she is only 16, and I told her she should be focusing on her schooling, what am I to do?

here is a pic of them together.

irishawk · 09-01-2006, 06:44 PM

Aww.. what an awful thing to go through. Tell her to always take the high road and not stoop to his level. She deserves better than a boy like that. My brother is also 16 (we're many moons apart) and his girlfriend recently dumped him and had a new boyfriend the next day. The girl has had the new b/f prank calling my brother and we suspect he even stole his bike right off my parent's front porch! And they live in a nice neighborhood where we dont even lock the doors at night, so a theft is very unusual! Anywho, I digress. My point is that kids can be downright mean and nasty. Fortunately for you, your daughter seems like a nice young lady. She has a beautiful smile!

Dragonfly · 09-01-2006, 06:56 PM

I had a 16 year old girl (now 20) she was the one who broke hearts and it would make me so mad, I told her what goes around comes around she is not the happy camper anymore and that makes me mad, why don't they listern to us. My son is the 16 year old he broke up with a beautiful girl last year get this because her cell phone battery when dead he got a good chewing out this girl cryed for days over him and I told him he was not worth crying over, BUT come to find out his football friends made fun of him because of her. I told him the same as I told my daughter what goes around comes around. YOUR DAUGHTER IS A BEAUTIFUL GIRL the jerk that said that will one day regert it.

yougetthesmiles · 09-01-2006, 07:08 PM

I'm wondering if that is not the reason he is doing this, my daughter is a freshman and he is a sophmore, and ever since school started, he has stopped coming over and not calling, he has only been over 2x since school and she was the one calling him. I think his friends were making fun of him.

Patti · 09-01-2006, 07:10 PM

Last July my dtrs boyfriend of 2 1/2 years broke up with her for another girl he had met at his part time job. We never saw it coming and I would have never guessed he would do that to her as he seemed to love her so much. She was 19 and I knew it was all part of loving and growing up but it tore me up inside. He practically lived at our house. It took my dtr a week or so to really believe it and I was over at my FIL apt taking hin dinner and she called me and said Mom, can you come home I need you and was crying and she is pretty stoic usually. I came home and she was on my bed and i walked in and she started sobbing and we both cried and I just held her. Unfortunately, all we can do is be there when they need us. She says she is way over him now but his pics are all up still. So just give her hugs and time will heal and she will have plenty more before she finds Mr. Right.

GeorgiesMomma · 09-02-2006, 06:11 AM

I am sorry that she is going through this. Tell her what I tell my nieces boys are like buses one comes every 5 minutes. I also tell them as much as it hurts now oneday they will look back and thank the guy for breaking it off.

txshopper73 · 09-02-2006, 06:13 AM

Be there for her (but I'm sure you already are). She needs to work through this herself. What a creep!

GORJESS · 09-02-2006, 06:21 AM

there's nothing you could really tell her, just let her get over it herself. she'll realize he's not worth it and she can do better. if he left her for a stupid rumor he obviously doesn't care about her enough. i'm 17 and when my mom gives me advice i don't really like it because everything she says is so predictable, i rather just deal with it on my own and realize it myself. because its always the same "u dont deserve him", "what goes around comes around", "u can do better", "u'll get over him", "theres more guys", etc. and even though it's really true, u dont want 2 here that at the time. u just want 2 cry and be alone. how long was she with him?

carolina yorkie · 09-02-2006, 06:48 AM

Ring his neck for her!!! I am so sorry she is going through this. I remember having my own heart broken by a boy, very similar situation, and now I know that I am so much better off without him, and that has been over 15 years since it happened. It hurt like heck for the longest time, but hearts so men and Mr. Right will come along for her when the time is right.

suz · 09-02-2006, 07:29 AM

Maybe this will make her smile!!
Suz

Lola LaRue · 09-02-2006, 07:37 AM

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Originally Posted by suz

Maybe this will make her smile!!
Suz

Hilarious!

yougetthesmiles · 09-02-2006, 07:39 AM

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Originally Posted by suz

Maybe this will make her smile!!
Suz

Ohhh thats a good one!!!!!!

I brought her down here to see it and read everyones post and she laughed a little then said.. "ohhh that's not nice" LOL poor girl is still in puppy wuv!!

She will get over it, we all have!

Thanks, I got a kick out of it even if she didnt lolol

Zoey's Momma · 09-02-2006, 07:39 AM

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Originally Posted by suz

Maybe this will make her smile!!
Suz

peanut · 09-02-2006, 07:41 AM

Tell her she is just starting out and she will be breaking hearts like crazy, I know this doesn't help now but she has so much life ahead of her, I had two to deal with at this age and it does get better...they will have lots of loves in there life, my dtr & son are 22, 21 and they been through there share of heartbreak, its not easy but mom just give her extra hugs & kisses for awhile....Tell her if that little jerk believes everything people say she don't need him anyway...

marcerella02 · 09-02-2006, 07:43 AM

i feel her pain. I am 22 and just had my bf of 3 years break up with me this summer... the pain is the same... 16... or older... 3 year... or less.... but nothing you can say will help... and try not to tell her all the bad things about him because she still loves him... i now know.. that i deserve better.. and she will see that too.. give her lots of hugs.. and support her.. she will be glad she had you to help through this very hard time

09-01-2006, 06:44 PM	#2
irishawk YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Philadelphia, PA Posts: 695	Aww.. what an awful thing to go through. Tell her to always take the high road and not stoop to his level. She deserves better than a boy like that. My brother is also 16 (we're many moons apart) and his girlfriend recently dumped him and had a new boyfriend the next day. The girl has had the new b/f prank calling my brother and we suspect he even stole his bike right off my parent's front porch! And they live in a nice neighborhood where we dont even lock the doors at night, so a theft is very unusual! Anywho, I digress. My point is that kids can be downright mean and nasty. Fortunately for you, your daughter seems like a nice young lady. She has a beautiful smile! __________________ Howie & Sarah Check us out on dogster: http://www.dogster.com/?327817

09-01-2006, 06:56 PM	#3
Dragonfly My Sun Shine's bright Donating Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Georiga Posts: 2,353	I had a 16 year old girl (now 20) she was the one who broke hearts and it would make me so mad, I told her what goes around comes around she is not the happy camper anymore and that makes me mad, why don't they listern to us. My son is the 16 year old he broke up with a beautiful girl last year get this because her cell phone battery when dead he got a good chewing out this girl cryed for days over him and I told him he was not worth crying over, BUT come to find out his football friends made fun of him because of her. I told him the same as I told my daughter what goes around comes around. YOUR DAUGHTER IS A BEAUTIFUL GIRL the jerk that said that will one day regert it. __________________ My beautiful Sunshine Me & my Gang

09-01-2006, 07:10 PM	#5
Patti Donating YT 30K Club Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Illinois Posts: 35,509 Blog Entries: 6	Last July my dtrs boyfriend of 2 1/2 years broke up with her for another girl he had met at his part time job. We never saw it coming and I would have never guessed he would do that to her as he seemed to love her so much. She was 19 and I knew it was all part of loving and growing up but it tore me up inside. He practically lived at our house. It took my dtr a week or so to really believe it and I was over at my FIL apt taking hin dinner and she called me and said Mom, can you come home I need you and was crying and she is pretty stoic usually. I came home and she was on my bed and i walked in and she started sobbing and we both cried and I just held her. Unfortunately, all we can do is be there when they need us. She says she is way over him now but his pics are all up still. So just give her hugs and time will heal and she will have plenty more before she finds Mr. Right. __________________ Cali Pixie Roxie : RIP Nikki; RIP Maya;RIP my sweet Dixie girl 1/17/08 http://callipuppyscastle.bravehost.com/index.html

09-02-2006, 06:11 AM	#6
GeorgiesMomma I love TBCG! Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: MD Posts: 7,227	I am sorry that she is going through this. Tell her what I tell my nieces boys are like buses one comes every 5 minutes. I also tell them as much as it hurts now oneday they will look back and thank the guy for breaking it off. __________________ Morgan Mommy toGeorgie boy & Isaiah RIP sweet Coco 10/12/99-8/1/12 Read About Georgie's Experience with Atlantoaxial Instability (AAI) Here!

09-02-2006, 06:13 AM	#7
txshopper73 Donating YT 14K Club Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Texas Posts: 14,226 Blog Entries: 1	Be there for her (but I'm sure you already are). She needs to work through this herself. What a creep! __________________ As always...JMO (Just My Opinion) Kimberley

09-01-2006, 07:08 PM	#4
yougetthesmiles BANNED FOR NOT MAILING PRODUCTS PURCHASED Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Indiana Posts: 9,295 Blog Entries: 3	I'm wondering if that is not the reason he is doing this, my daughter is a freshman and he is a sophmore, and ever since school started, he has stopped coming over and not calling, he has only been over 2x since school and she was the one calling him. I think his friends were making fun of him.

09-02-2006, 06:21 AM	#8
GORJESS Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Chicago, Illinois Posts: 829	there's nothing you could really tell her, just let her get over it herself. she'll realize he's not worth it and she can do better. if he left her for a stupid rumor he obviously doesn't care about her enough. i'm 17 and when my mom gives me advice i don't really like it because everything she says is so predictable, i rather just deal with it on my own and realize it myself. because its always the same "u dont deserve him", "what goes around comes around", "u can do better", "u'll get over him", "theres more guys", etc. and even though it's really true, u dont want 2 here that at the time. u just want 2 cry and be alone. how long was she with him?

09-02-2006, 06:48 AM	#9
carolina yorkie YT Addict Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Greenville, NC Posts: 445	Ring his neck for her!!! I am so sorry she is going through this. I remember having my own heart broken by a boy, very similar situation, and now I know that I am so much better off without him, and that has been over 15 years since it happened. It hurt like heck for the longest time, but hearts so men and Mr. Right will come along for her when the time is right. __________________ Say no to puppymills!

09-02-2006, 07:41 AM	#14
peanut Dogs Rule Cats Drool! Donating Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Tennessee Posts: 7,895	Tell her she is just starting out and she will be breaking hearts like crazy, I know this doesn't help now but she has so much life ahead of her, I had two to deal with at this age and it does get better...they will have lots of loves in there life, my dtr & son are 22, 21 and they been through there share of heartbreak, its not easy but mom just give her extra hugs & kisses for awhile....Tell her if that little jerk believes everything people say she don't need him anyway... __________________ KIM

09-02-2006, 07:43 AM	#15
marcerella02 Loved by Layla Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Canada Posts: 11,257	i feel her pain. I am 22 and just had my bf of 3 years break up with me this summer... the pain is the same... 16... or older... 3 year... or less.... but nothing you can say will help... and try not to tell her all the bad things about him because she still loves him... i now know.. that i deserve better.. and she will see that too.. give her lots of hugs.. and support her.. she will be glad she had you to help through this very hard time