Arizona--I need help..

[Buster Brown]

I am praying you find a solution so you can keep your baby. Sending prayers for a positive outcome!

[Furbaby Friend]

Adding my prayers

[susan lynn]

Continued prayers that you can keep your baby with you.

[azkaty]

Thundershirt is on the way. I am also going to look in to anti anxiety meds.

I think one of my big problems will be changing my hubbys attitude towards Ralphie..he really does not like him at this point, and I think Ralphie is picking up on that. He keeps comparing him to the other 2 dogs, which is unfair.

I would apprecaiate any emails from others that have been dealing with anxiety issues, especially any one that has used meds, such as diazapam or alprazolam.

I know some are better than others, some have less complications than others.

Thanks for all the kind words.

Katy

[Nancy1999]

Hi, Ann just linked me this thread, and I'd be glad to help in any way I can. I'll send you an email.

[Buster Brown]

I have to agree with you about Ralphie picking up your husbands disliking him. I know Buster is really in tune with the moods of people around him. Is there a specific reason your husband does not like Ralphie? I looked to see what other kinds of dogs you have are they yorkies or bigger dogs? Would your husband consider changing his attitude toward Ralphie and see if that helps? That would be so much kinder than medicating your dog to ease his fears of not being liked if that is what is causing the issues. I am sorry that you have to deal with all the stress as I know you love both your men. I hope you can find a solution that works for all of you.

[azkaty]

The Bunny is sensitive to loud voices ..and my hubby has one..I know he gets aggravated at the fact that he misses his pee pads sometimes, an that I spend allot of time with him once I get home. It is something that has gotten worse
over the last year.I think But other issues complicated he matter. That a groomer must have been very rough about 3 years ago..that he has not been with many people.And my failures..not being able to train him.

Thats why this is so hard on me..I feel like I have failed him and myself. When I give in to the stress of the situation, it makes me ill.So it is a bad circle of events. And I am sure Ralphie picks up on this with me.As I have said this is a long story. I just want him to be happy. And I need to get well.

Again..here it is 5 in the morning, and I am in tears..Ralphi licking my face.
The pain is really bad ..

Katy

[SassyAnn101]

He is just precious! Is he related to Patti's little girls? He looks alot like them. I will pray for you both because I know that the thought of losing him has to be breaking your heart.

They are very sensitive little souls. My yorkies were really nervous and scared before I left my ex husband. Now they are fine, except for Chip and he still does not like loud noises or if someone comes at him trying to pick him up. He cannot go to the groomer. I groom him here at home.

I understand what your going through if your husband doesn't exactly like him. I have been there too. I wish you the best and hope it works out for you.

[Baby Teddy]

Katy,

I am so sorry you are going through such a difficult time. I pray that something works and you can keep your baby with you. I know that I am all the way in New York, but I would be glad to help in any way.

Hugs,

Nichole

[Buster Brown]

Originally Posted by azkaty

The Bunny is sensitive to loud voices ..and my hubby has one..I know he gets aggravated at the fact that he misses his pee pads sometimes, an that I spend allot of time with him once I get home. It is something that has gotten worse
over the last year.I think But other issues complicated he matter. That a groomer must have been very rough about 3 years ago..that he has not been with many people.And my failures..not being able to train him.

Thats why this is so hard on me..I feel like I have failed him and myself. When I give in to the stress of the situation, it makes me ill.So it is a bad circle of events. And I am sure Ralphie picks up on this with me.As I have said this is a long story. I just want him to be happy. And I need to get well.

Again..here it is 5 in the morning, and I am in tears..Ralphi licking my face.
The pain is really bad ..

Katy

Oh Katy please do not be so hard on yourself. You sound so kind and loving and you are trying to do your best for everyone. You are not a failure for not being able to train poor Bunny. He obviously has many issues due to prior abuse and you should not feel a failure as I have seen many posts about how long it takes to rehab issues. My parents dog also has issues with loud booming voices and black boots as he was chased and abused as a puppy by mean boys. He has never fully recovered. My sweet Buster does not always hit the mark either but I am more forgiving of him and myself. It sounds like you set very high standards and I think you should be more compassionate to yourself. Your husband sounds a little jealous of the time you spend with Bunny. Sometimes people do not understand how much we love to nurture these little babies and the joy this interaction brings us. Bunny sounds very in tune to you and he kisses your face to ease the sadness. I wish I could give you a big hug and that I had a good solution for you. All I can do is send my love and to say you are a good person, you are trying, we are not perfect in life and to set such a high standard to live up too puts on too much pressure. My heart goes out to you and Bunny and I hope things get better for you both.

[Nancy1999]

Just a brief update, Ralphie met Joey this past weekend and he’s been staying with us for a while. I think he’s doing remarkably well, since he’d never met me or Joey before, and he reminds me of the type of dog, that just doesn’t want to do the wrong thing. So it’s more about building his confidence than correcting him. Carolyn has done a wonderful job on him, and I think because of her illness, the stress has just gotten to be too much. Sometimes, things can be so overwhelming when we don’t feel well. Anyway, Ralphie is safe and fairly happy, he loves his walks, and his food, he’s still warming up to me, and leaped on me last night during a Thunderstorm, but settled down pretty fast. Joey’s not doing too bad, but I think he is a little jealous, and I’ve never noticed that before when my sons’ dogs come to stay for a while. Right now they aren’t really playing much, but aren’t aggressive towards each other either. Carolyn is looking into different trainers, who may be able to help her with certain issues, but the goal is get them back together and this be Ralphie’s home away from home. I wish everyone loved their dogs as much as Carolyn loves Ralphie, she only wants what’s best for him, but she also has to take care of herself first.

[Furbaby Friend]

Originally Posted by Nancy1999

Just a brief update, Ralphie met Joey this past weekend and he’s been staying with us for a while. I think he’s doing remarkably well, since he’d never met me or Joey before, and he reminds me of the type of dog, that just doesn’t want to do the wrong thing. So it’s more about building his confidence than correcting him. Carolyn has done a wonderful job on him, and I think because of her illness, the stress has just gotten to be too much. Sometimes, things can be so overwhelming when we don’t feel well. Anyway, Ralphie is safe and fairly happy, he loves his walks, and his food, he’s still warming up to me, and leaped on me last night during a Thunderstorm, but settled down pretty fast. Joey’s not doing too bad, but I think he is a little jealous, and I’ve never noticed that before when my sons’ dogs come to stay for a while. Right now they aren’t really playing much, but aren’t aggressive towards each other either. Carolyn is looking into different trainers, who may be able to help her with certain issues, but the goal is get them back together and this be Ralphie’s home away from home. I wish everyone loved their dogs as much as Carolyn loves Ralphie, she only wants what’s best for him, but she also has to take care of herself first.

Good news! Thanks for posting an update Praying that everything works out.

[Buster Brown]

I am so happy to hear that Ralphie has a home away from home and new loving friends to help him get a more positive outlook on life. It sounds like everyone was trying their best to be perfect. Thank you so much Nancy for being so kind and generous to open your home and heart to Ralphie. I hope this gives both Ralphie and Carolyn some time to mend and feel better. Best wishes to all. Thanks to Joey for being such a good boy and I hope you become fast friends!

[azkaty]

You guys are making me cry now!!

Like I just told Nancy.. you are no Bunny till some Bunny loves you.

I know my Bunny loves me, and it is so good that he is at Nancy's right now.

I had felt so hopeless..and now I think I see the way to go..

I think my worry over him has really made me stress out and get ill. To know that Ralphie is resilient has helped me get a little stronger as well . But I need some time to heal a bit. I take great comfort knowing he is over at Nancy's.
And Ann I owe you more than I can say for telling Nancy about me.
My love to all your guys..don't know what else I can say right now..

[miabellaamoure]

What can I say...Katy, Nancy & Ralphie...you rock!

Katy, I hope you feel better and BIG thank you's to Nancy for stepping up to help a fellow Yorkie-Lover!