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ARCHIE · 08-12-2009, 06:15 AM

I would say go with your gut feeling. There should never be eye rolling towards a patient's owner, afterall his service is not cheap and your there for advice, not his attitude. Any vet who does not give you the time to express
your concerns and take those concerns seriously is not a vet I would
go to. I liked both of Buddy's previous vet's but after time one did not
make him better so off to a second vet, the second vet made him better
however made him sick giving him all his shots at once. Not doing it
any other way I found yet another vet who thinks like I do.
Sometimes you just have to experience different vet's until you find
the one you feel comfortable with.
Good luck and I hope your baby get's better soon.

Wylie's Mom · 08-12-2009, 06:34 AM

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Originally Posted by Sweet Apple

My feelings, exactly...The first Vet I took Apple too, gave me a good dressing down for expressing my thoughts and wishes for MY pet...I like to gather as much information, as I can, and make informed decisions based on what feels right for myself and that of my pet...Needless to say, I found another vet, who gives me all the information I need, and, together, we decide on what's best for Apple...Bottom line, I'd just move on, 'till you are comfortable w/your health care provider for your little one...

Wow, that's terrible you were treated that way

. But it's so great that you felt empowered to just move along. It can take a few vets before you find the right one...it certainly did for me after we moved to AZ. It took me 4 vets to finally find a good one.

Symph2001 · 08-12-2009, 06:59 AM

We went to a different vet than the one we used for years because this one was closer. Yeah I know stupid reason. He gave me that you're stupid look and I picked up my baby walked to the reception desk and asked for a phone book and proceeded to call my original vet and was able to get an immediate appointment. I gave the phone book back to the receptionist, thanked her and informed her that he obviously doesn't need my business since he doesn't have to time to answer my concerns and left.

I don't have patience for either condescension or stupidity. Why in the world would anyone want to pay for it?

Sunny Alex · 08-12-2009, 11:20 AM

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Originally Posted by Symph2001

We went to a different vet than the one we used for years because this one was closer. Yeah I know stupid reason. He gave me that you're stupid look and I picked up my baby walked to the reception desk and asked for a phone book and proceeded to call my original vet and was able to get an immediate appointment. I gave the phone book back to the receptionist, thanked her and informed her that he obviously doesn't need my business since he doesn't have to time to answer my concerns and left.

I don't have patience for either condescension or stupidity. Why in the world would anyone want to pay for it?

Wow, am I impressed. I would love to have the nerve to do this.

cynsir · 08-12-2009, 11:27 AM

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Originally Posted by Symph2001

We went to a different vet than the one we used for years because this one was closer. Yeah I know stupid reason. He gave me that you're stupid look and I picked up my baby walked to the reception desk and asked for a phone book and proceeded to call my original vet and was able to get an immediate appointment. I gave the phone book back to the receptionist, thanked her and informed her that he obviously doesn't need my business since he doesn't have to time to answer my concerns and left.

I don't have patience for either condescension or stupidity. Why in the world would anyone want to pay for it?

Good for you! I wish I had done that back in December when Max broke his legs.

Sweet Apple · 08-12-2009, 07:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Symph2001

We went to a different vet than the one we used for years because this one was closer. Yeah I know stupid reason. He gave me that you're stupid look and I picked up my baby walked to the reception desk and asked for a phone book and proceeded to call my original vet and was able to get an immediate appointment. I gave the phone book back to the receptionist, thanked her and informed her that he obviously doesn't need my business since he doesn't have to time to answer my concerns and left.

I don't have patience for either condescension or stupidity. Why in the world would anyone want to pay for it?

Kudos for you!!! I have to admit your post made me grin, because as another senior yorkie person, I delight in having been on the planet long enough to realize I don't have to put up w/pompous people w/inflated egos that feel they are cut above the people who put the bread and butter on their tables....

Symph2001 · 08-13-2009, 03:55 AM

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Originally Posted by Sunny Alex

Wow, am I impressed. I would love to have the nerve to do this.

I used to not. I'd just nod and accept the crap thrown in my direction. I finally came to the conclusion that some people's opinions don't matter to me. They don't effect my life one way or another except as a kind of speed bump. they slow us down but don't stop us.

Symph2001 · 08-13-2009, 03:58 AM

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Originally Posted by Sweet Apple

Kudos for you!!! I have to admit your post made me grin, because as another senior yorkie person, I delight in having been on the planet long enough to realize I don't have to put up w/pompous people w/inflated egos that feel they are cut above the people who put the bread and butter on their tables....

:thum bup:

littlepixie12 · 08-14-2009, 08:56 AM

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Originally Posted by Gina Hamblin

We took Finn to the vet and I was loaded with questions but our vet just shot me down. I don't do research for nothing. Some of you have allready been through exactly what we are dealing with and I believe your suggestions are worth hearing. I even got the feeling that he didn't care for us very much. I do understand (no matter how hard it is) that it takes 12 full weeks to determine the results from our Food Trial but...........my baby is miserable and their are a lot of medicines out there that can give him some relief. We did get a shot and it helped for 3 days only. He put Finn on Zyrtec, well as I tried to tell him we have done that allready but he just rolled his eyes.

I am going back to our country doc, he atleast lets me voice my concerns!

Have any of you had problem with vet thinking we are totally stupid? I was only trying to suggest a different kind of food, that didn't go over at all! Gina From Kentucky!

I know exactly how you feel! I took my baby to the vet the woman I got him from recommended and I was on YT and had done all this research and I swear he got so defensive and plain nasty, like I was questioning his authority.. look this is my baby, and I not going to let you do whatever you want to him just because you are the vet. Well instead of answering my questions, he made me more skeptical about him as a vet. Needless to say that was the first and last time I saw him, plus he had awful bedside manner, which is very important to me. I found a vet that I am really happy about now and she lets me ask her a million questions and even called me after Maxi got his shot to make sure he was okay.

miabellaamoure · 08-14-2009, 01:04 PM

First, I'm sorry that you had to put up with that kind of crap from that Vet...and pay him after all of that...sheesh!

Last year, I had a foster who was in dire need of bladder surgery to remove an obstructed stone and I received the most uncaring attitude from the Vet I normally would bring my girls to.

I had never seen him or his office act this way...I could only attribute his callous attitude with his knowing he wouldn't get to charge an exorbitant price for the surgery since he knew a rescue group would be funding this procedure.

My rescue director located a lovely Vet nearly an hour away who offered to do what Vet (A) wouldn't do for half the cost and was even willing to wait after hours on New Years Eve.

In the end, Vet (A)'s practice lost five patients that day...my three girls, my son's Beagle & our lil' foster boy...not to mention any future referrals. In the mean time, we will continue to make the drive to Vet (B) for all our babies needs.

My suggestion to you...if it feels like you're being slighted by a Vet, immediately point it out and if the response is not to your liking...move on as fast as you can.

I hope you find a good resolution to your babies problems soon!

Peters · 08-14-2009, 03:17 PM

no thats totally rude they should listen and you have every right to say something if they roll them eyes at you your a person and so is a vet!! say something like hey i can see you!! i know you went to school and i know there are different meds and different ways to treat things you dont have to treat me like a generic case i want something that will help and this isnt helping if you wont do it or are irritated by this i will go elsewhere dont waste your time and my money just tell them like it is!!! i work at a vet they have no right at all to act that way its uncalled for. the shot is depo it should last for a month if it helps not a week the food would be science diet zd which is extremlely expensive maybe you can find something else? i would go elsewhere if they treated you badly and didnt listen! all people have bad days but its not you or your pets fault and shouldnt be taken out towards you !! some drs can be rude know it alls though

Peters · 08-14-2009, 03:22 PM

i like you symph i just read you post above

Princes mom · 08-14-2009, 07:15 PM

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Originally Posted by Arzel36

Go to another vet, theres plenty of vet's out there.

Ditto!!

yorkiepaws · 08-14-2009, 07:46 PM

Ugh, I know exactly how you feel. I am having trouble finding a good vet too. I went to a new vet last year and she was horrible. Always in a hurry, no time for anything. So then I went back to my old vet and he isn't much better. I took Laya there a few days ago for a consult on a tooth extraction and asked what kind of anesthesia he uses and he says to me. I have all sorts of anesthesia what would you like. Hello, I am the client!!! First of all I don't know what you have and second of all I don't know what all of them are. Then I asked if he gives IV fluids during procedure and he sort of rolled his eyes and said no. But if you insist on it I can. Needless to say I booked my appt. with a dental specialist that will probably cost 3x as much, but I feel better going to them. So still looking for a new vet...

dwerten · 08-16-2009, 06:53 AM

without reading whole thread -- I think a vet who gets defensive about info on internet as well as asking questions is insecure in their own ability and afraid you will figure out he does not know much sadly. If they are confident in their ability they do not have a problem with people who educate themselves as the specialists i see welcome this information and respect pet owners who educate themselves. It should make their job easier as you can work as a team to help your dog have the best health. I have learned alot since having sick dogs and you need to educate yourself and be informed as you are with the dog 24/7 and 15 min in a room is not always going to get to the bottom of it if dog has health issues. Also if a dog has more going on than the basics get to a specialist as they have further education in teeth, orthopedics, eyes, brain, skin and internal organs. It saves alot of money in diagnostics in the long run.

Trust your gut if it does not feel right and you question vet get another one. It is not cheap for vet care so make sure you are investing your money in the best care you can get with someone that will work with you as a team within your comfort zone.

08-14-2009, 01:04 PM	#25
miabellaamoure ♥YORKIERESCUE.com♥ Donating Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Menifee, CA Posts: 8,708	First, I'm sorry that you had to put up with that kind of crap from that Vet...and pay him after all of that...sheesh! Last year, I had a foster who was in dire need of bladder surgery to remove an obstructed stone and I received the most uncaring attitude from the Vet I normally would bring my girls to. I had never seen him or his office act this way...I could only attribute his callous attitude with his knowing he wouldn't get to charge an exorbitant price for the surgery since he knew a rescue group would be funding this procedure. My rescue director located a lovely Vet nearly an hour away who offered to do what Vet (A) wouldn't do for half the cost and was even willing to wait after hours on New Years Eve. In the end, Vet (A)'s practice lost five patients that day...my three girls, my son's Beagle & our lil' foster boy...not to mention any future referrals. In the mean time, we will continue to make the drive to Vet (B) for all our babies needs. My suggestion to you...if it feels like you're being slighted by a Vet, immediately point it out and if the response is not to your liking...move on as fast as you can. I hope you find a good resolution to your babies problems soon! __________________ Jo Ann Abby, Bella , Phoebe & Violette....

08-14-2009, 03:17 PM	#26
Peters YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: May 2006 Location: Alabama Posts: 2,225	no thats totally rude they should listen and you have every right to say something if they roll them eyes at you your a person and so is a vet!! say something like hey i can see you!! i know you went to school and i know there are different meds and different ways to treat things you dont have to treat me like a generic case i want something that will help and this isnt helping if you wont do it or are irritated by this i will go elsewhere dont waste your time and my money just tell them like it is!!! i work at a vet they have no right at all to act that way its uncalled for. the shot is depo it should last for a month if it helps not a week the food would be science diet zd which is extremlely expensive maybe you can find something else? i would go elsewhere if they treated you badly and didnt listen! all people have bad days but its not you or your pets fault and shouldnt be taken out towards you !! some drs can be rude know it alls though __________________ A pet's love is true right from the start, through good times and bad, like sharing one heart. Last edited by Peters; 08-14-2009 at 03:19 PM. Reason: spelling

08-14-2009, 03:22 PM	#27
Peters YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: May 2006 Location: Alabama Posts: 2,225	i like you symph i just read you post above __________________ A pet's love is true right from the start, through good times and bad, like sharing one heart.

08-14-2009, 07:46 PM	#29
yorkiepaws Owned by "Lil Rat" Donating Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Maryland Posts: 1,067	Ugh, I know exactly how you feel. I am having trouble finding a good vet too. I went to a new vet last year and she was horrible. Always in a hurry, no time for anything. So then I went back to my old vet and he isn't much better. I took Laya there a few days ago for a consult on a tooth extraction and asked what kind of anesthesia he uses and he says to me. I have all sorts of anesthesia what would you like. Hello, I am the client!!! First of all I don't know what you have and second of all I don't know what all of them are. Then I asked if he gives IV fluids during procedure and he sort of rolled his eyes and said no. But if you insist on it I can. Needless to say I booked my appt. with a dental specialist that will probably cost 3x as much, but I feel better going to them. So still looking for a new vet... __________________ Mommy to Himalaya and Kitty

08-12-2009, 06:15 AM	#16
ARCHIE No Longer A Member Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: NEW YORK Posts: 16,218	I would say go with your gut feeling. There should never be eye rolling towards a patient's owner, afterall his service is not cheap and your there for advice, not his attitude. Any vet who does not give you the time to express your concerns and take those concerns seriously is not a vet I would go to. I liked both of Buddy's previous vet's but after time one did not make him better so off to a second vet, the second vet made him better however made him sick giving him all his shots at once. Not doing it any other way I found yet another vet who thinks like I do. Sometimes you just have to experience different vet's until you find the one you feel comfortable with. Good luck and I hope your baby get's better soon.

08-12-2009, 06:59 AM	#18
Symph2001 YT Addict Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: somewhere,in, us Posts: 258	We went to a different vet than the one we used for years because this one was closer. Yeah I know stupid reason. He gave me that you're stupid look and I picked up my baby walked to the reception desk and asked for a phone book and proceeded to call my original vet and was able to get an immediate appointment. I gave the phone book back to the receptionist, thanked her and informed her that he obviously doesn't need my business since he doesn't have to time to answer my concerns and left. I don't have patience for either condescension or stupidity. Why in the world would anyone want to pay for it?

08-16-2009, 06:53 AM	#30
dwerten BANNED! Join Date: May 2007 Location: USA Posts: 11,073	without reading whole thread -- I think a vet who gets defensive about info on internet as well as asking questions is insecure in their own ability and afraid you will figure out he does not know much sadly. If they are confident in their ability they do not have a problem with people who educate themselves as the specialists i see welcome this information and respect pet owners who educate themselves. It should make their job easier as you can work as a team to help your dog have the best health. I have learned alot since having sick dogs and you need to educate yourself and be informed as you are with the dog 24/7 and 15 min in a room is not always going to get to the bottom of it if dog has health issues. Also if a dog has more going on than the basics get to a specialist as they have further education in teeth, orthopedics, eyes, brain, skin and internal organs. It saves alot of money in diagnostics in the long run. Trust your gut if it does not feel right and you question vet get another one. It is not cheap for vet care so make sure you are investing your money in the best care you can get with someone that will work with you as a team within your comfort zone.