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Mardelin · 10-26-2007, 10:29 AM

Hypothetical question.

If you had someone contact you requesting a favor and you honored their request. This request required that you go shopping for something you didn't normally buy, and the item(s) needed to be boxed and mailed.....But, you did it, never requesting monetary reimbursement, however the originator never thanked you or acknowledged that they had received it. How would you handle it?

Yorkie3 · 10-26-2007, 10:36 AM

That is pretty rude of whoever did this. I would send them a bill and include shipping and handling. Sorry someone treated you this way.

bchgirl · 10-26-2007, 10:42 AM

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Originally Posted by Mardelin

Hypothetical question.

If you had someone contact you requesting a favor and you honored their request. This request required that you go shopping for something you didn't normally buy, and the item(s) needed to be boxed and mailed.....But, you did it, never requesting monetary reimbursement, however the originator never thanked you or acknowledged that they had received it. How would you handle it?

I think I'd chalk it up to I am nicer than some people.

BubblPopElectrc · 10-26-2007, 10:46 AM

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I think I'd chalk it up to I am nicer than some people.

I agree.

I also think so many factors play into this: how much was spent, what it was, if well you know the person, etc.

dexterandalana · 10-26-2007, 10:46 AM

what if they honestly didnt receive it? the postal system isnt always reliable. why not just ask them?

Stella's mom · 10-26-2007, 10:48 AM

Sad to say everyone doesn't appreciate the kindness of others. I wouldn't request payment because the person you helped out already knows they owe you but I would file this under "life experience" and never do another favor for the originator. I'm sorry this happened to you.

Mardelin · 10-26-2007, 10:54 AM

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Originally Posted by Stella's mom

Sad to say everyone doesn't appreciate the kindness of others. I wouldn't request payment because the person you helped out already knows they owe you but I would file this under "life experience" and never do another favor for the originator. I'm sorry this happened to you.

Monetary reimbursement was not mentioned or requested. Remember this question is hypothetical

Wylie's Mom · 10-26-2007, 10:56 AM

I would ask casually and lightly "hey, just want be sure you received your package - did it arrive okay, intact and everything? One just never knows with the shipping these days..."

NOTHING wrong with that. Mary, you of all people, one of my favorite "diplomats", would handle it beautifully - it's just your nature.

Sugar's Mom · 10-26-2007, 10:59 AM

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Originally Posted by Mardelin

Hypothetical question.

If you had someone contact you requesting a favor and you honored their request. This request required that you go shopping for something you didn't normally buy, and the item(s) needed to be boxed and mailed.....But, you did it, never requesting monetary reimbursement, however the originator never thanked you or acknowledged that they had received it. How would you handle it?

Being me, I would send a pm or an email and say," BTW, did you ever get the so and so i sent at your request? You have never replied so i wasn't sure"

i have had a couple of YT friends send me something and I have always thanked them. However one person did offer me a show lead (which I hadn't asked for) and once I sent my address, I never got it. I just let that drop. I mean, heck, she had offered it to me so i guess she could withdraw her offer. Today, I recieved some nice show bows to use my first show that is coming up and as soon as I opened the package, I jumped right on here to send a big thank you.

Sharonandtink · 10-26-2007, 11:07 AM

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Originally Posted by Sugar's Mom

Being me, I would send a pm or an email and say," BTW, did you ever get the so and so i sent at your request? You have never replied so i wasn't sure"

i have had a couple of YT friends send me something and I have always thanked them. However one person did offer me a show lead (which I hadn't asked for) and once I sent my address, I never got it. I just let that drop. I mean, heck, she had offered it to me so i guess she could withdraw her offer. Today, I recieved some nice show bows to use my first show that is coming up and as soon as I opened the package, I jumped right on here to send a big thank you.

I agree. I can't imagine not thanking someone who sent me something. I would ask them if they did recieve the package though. You just never know if it some how got lost.

BTW- Congrats on your upcoming show Sugar's Mom. You are going to do great.

Mardelin · 10-26-2007, 11:08 AM

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Originally Posted by Sugar's Mom

Being me, I would send a pm or an email and say," BTW, did you ever get the so and so i sent at your request? You have never replied so i wasn't sure"

i have had a couple of YT friends send me something and I have always thanked them. However one person did offer me a show lead (which I hadn't asked for) and once I sent my address, I never got it. I just let that drop. I mean, heck, she had offered it to me so i guess she could withdraw her offer. Today, I recieved some nice show bows to use my first show that is coming up and as soon as I opened the package, I jumped right on here to send a big thank you.

Gee! You opened up another question to add to my hypothetical situation.

What if a PM or e-mail had been sent and you know the person has been online and it isn't acknowledged.

jp4m2 · 10-26-2007, 11:08 AM

You could fire off an e-mail stating..... "Hey, I just wanted to give you a heads up to watch for your package you wanted me to send you, I put a surprise in it for you."....

"I already got it, there was nothing in it."

"Really?.....What in the world happened to it?"..

bchgirl · 10-26-2007, 11:15 AM

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Originally Posted by Mardelin

Gee! You opened up another question to add to my hypothetical situation.

What if a PM or e-mail had been sent and you know the person has been online and it isn't acknowledged.

I'd say you are being ignored...hypothetically, of course.

littlewhip · 10-26-2007, 11:26 AM

Iam very grateful for anything i receive, weather it be a gift or a favor, my feeling would be hurt, anytime i order from here, i hope the other person can feel how much i appreciate it

on another note, someone did offer me gift and i never did receive it, I shrugged that one off and found out later that person is no longer a member.but i would never have said anything about it.

feminvstr · 10-26-2007, 11:28 AM

I recently had a situation happen some what like you discribe. I guess one would have to continue doing what is in your nature to do.....just being a nice guy and expecting nothing in return.....

I know it's frustrating for someone not to receive acknowledgement or a thanks....but, then not everyone is known to do what is socially correct.

A simple thank you goes a long way.

10-26-2007, 10:29 AM	#1
Mardelin Mardelin Yorkshire Terriers Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: California Posts: 14,776	Doing Something Nice Hypothetical question. If you had someone contact you requesting a favor and you honored their request. This request required that you go shopping for something you didn't normally buy, and the item(s) needed to be boxed and mailed.....But, you did it, never requesting monetary reimbursement, however the originator never thanked you or acknowledged that they had received it. How would you handle it? __________________ Mardelin *Yorkshire* *Terriers*

10-26-2007, 10:36 AM	#2
Yorkie3 Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Indiana Posts: 4,686	That is pretty rude of whoever did this. I would send them a bill and include shipping and handling. Sorry someone treated you this way. __________________ Janet

10-26-2007, 10:56 AM	#8
Wylie's Mom Furbutts = LOVE Donating Member Moderator Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Phoenix, AZ Posts: 35,889 Blog Entries: 2	I would ask casually and lightly "hey, just want be sure you received your package - did it arrive okay, intact and everything? One just never knows with the shipping these days..." NOTHING wrong with that. Mary, you of all people, one of my favorite "diplomats", would handle it beautifully - it's just your nature. __________________ ~ A friend told me I was delusional. I nearly fell off my unicorn. ~ °¨¨¨°ºOº°¨¨¨° Ann \| Pfeiffer \| Marcel Verdel Purcell \| Wylie \| Artie °¨¨¨°ºOº°¨¨¨°

10-26-2007, 11:08 AM	#12
jp4m2 Love my Boys Donating Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: w/ my boys Posts: 5,056	You could fire off an e-mail stating..... "Hey, I just wanted to give you a heads up to watch for your package you wanted me to send you, I put a surprise in it for you.".... "I already got it, there was nothing in it." "Really?.....What in the world happened to it?".. __________________ B.J.mom to : Jake J.J. Jack & Joey, momma misses you..... The joy found in the companionship of a pet is a blessing not given to everyone. The two most powerful words when we’re in struggle: me too..

10-26-2007, 11:26 AM	#14
littlewhip Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: wiith my furbabys Posts: 8,874	Iam very grateful for anything i receive, weather it be a gift or a favor, my feeling would be hurt, anytime i order from here, i hope the other person can feel how much i appreciate it on another note, someone did offer me gift and i never did receive it, I shrugged that one off and found out later that person is no longer a member.but i would never have said anything about it. __________________

10-26-2007, 10:46 AM	#5
dexterandalana Dreamin' of Dexter Donating YT Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: toronto, Canada Posts: 1,612	what if they honestly didnt receive it? the postal system isnt always reliable. why not just ask them?

10-26-2007, 10:48 AM	#6
Stella's mom YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: North Carolina Posts: 1,090	Sad to say everyone doesn't appreciate the kindness of others. I wouldn't request payment because the person you helped out already knows they owe you but I would file this under "life experience" and never do another favor for the originator. I'm sorry this happened to you.

10-26-2007, 11:28 AM	#15
feminvstr Donating YT 4000 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Portland Oregon Posts: 4,405	I recently had a situation happen some what like you discribe. I guess one would have to continue doing what is in your nature to do.....just being a nice guy and expecting nothing in return..... I know it's frustrating for someone not to receive acknowledgement or a thanks....but, then not everyone is known to do what is socially correct. A simple thank you goes a long way. __________________ Kimberly