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Doing Something Nice Hypothetical question. If you had someone contact you requesting a favor and you honored their request. This request required that you go shopping for something you didn't normally buy, and the item(s) needed to be boxed and mailed.....But, you did it, never requesting monetary reimbursement, however the originator never thanked you or acknowledged that they had received it. How would you handle it? |
That is pretty rude of whoever did this. I would send them a bill and include shipping and handling. Sorry someone treated you this way. |
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I think I'd chalk it up to I am nicer than some people. |
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I also think so many factors play into this: how much was spent, what it was, if well you know the person, etc. |
what if they honestly didnt receive it? the postal system isnt always reliable. why not just ask them? |
Sad to say everyone doesn't appreciate the kindness of others. I wouldn't request payment because the person you helped out already knows they owe you but I would file this under "life experience" and never do another favor for the originator. I'm sorry this happened to you. |
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I would ask casually and lightly "hey, just want be sure you received your package - did it arrive okay, intact and everything? One just never knows with the shipping these days..." NOTHING wrong with that. Mary, you of all people, one of my favorite "diplomats", would handle it beautifully - it's just your nature. |
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Being me, I would send a pm or an email and say," BTW, did you ever get the so and so i sent at your request? You have never replied so i wasn't sure" i have had a couple of YT friends send me something and I have always thanked them. However one person did offer me a show lead (which I hadn't asked for) and once I sent my address, I never got it. I just let that drop. I mean, heck, she had offered it to me so i guess she could withdraw her offer. Today, I recieved some nice show bows to use my first show that is coming up and as soon as I opened the package, I jumped right on here to send a big thank you. |
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BTW- Congrats on your upcoming show Sugar's Mom. You are going to do great. |
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What if a PM or e-mail had been sent and you know the person has been online and it isn't acknowledged. |
You could fire off an e-mail stating..... "Hey, I just wanted to give you a heads up to watch for your package you wanted me to send you, I put a surprise in it for you.".... "I already got it, there was nothing in it." "Really?.....What in the world happened to it?"..:rolleyes: |
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I'd say you are being ignored...hypothetically, of course. ;) |
Iam very grateful for anything i receive, weather it be a gift or a favor, my feeling would be hurt, anytime i order from here, i hope the other person can feel how much i appreciate it:) on another note, someone did offer me gift and i never did receive it, I shrugged that one off and found out later that person is no longer a member.but i would never have said anything about it. |
I recently had a situation happen some what like you discribe. I guess one would have to continue doing what is in your nature to do.....just being a nice guy and expecting nothing in return..... I know it's frustrating for someone not to receive acknowledgement or a thanks....but, then not everyone is known to do what is socially correct. A simple thank you goes a long way. |
I would be upset that I am being ignored. I would send the person a private email saying do not ask me for anything else. And I would tell my friends on here not to send the person anything if they are asked. I always say thank you for everything. If someone did do this they are very rude and shouldn't be on here. |
Well if you sent a PM already and it wasn't responded to, it sounds like that is an incredibly rude (hypothetical:p ) person. Have you checked to see if the PM was read? |
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Thank you. We have gone backwards with the lead training and tho her stack is to die for, if she won't walk, I might as well leave her home. Stubborn little thing. |
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Then they might be MAD at you....hypothetically. :rolleyes: I think in the OP's case...if she has sent an email or pm inquiring and still didn't receive a response....that's pretty much all she can do....or hypothetically we all beat the other person up. ;) I agree it's not nice and thank yous go a long way....too bad not everyone has learned that. |
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Well hypothetically speaking, I would call that person up and chat to them about other stuff then casually mention it. If you're HYPOTHETICALLY being ignored, I'd send a hypothetical email calling than an A-hole..j/k..lol..But I would be definitely sending an email saying, hey I've noticed you've been online, have you received my email/PM A-HOLE..lol |
I'd ask them if they got it. It could have been lost in the mail, or gone to the wrong house. I've been waiting for a box for my daughter for a long time, so if It's me I didn't get anything. |
Well hypothetically speaking, they should get the message with this thread that they have ZERO class, and even less manners…. If you have dropped them a note, not more you can do.. Shame on them……. |
Well, fortunately this is all hypothetical, cause if someone were hurtful to Mary...my wrath would fall upon them..hehe.. That's why she probably wouldn't tell me.. She's too nice! |
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Do you think they could hypothetically be in the So. Cal. fires that could have slowed things down. When I send here on YT, I never expect a thank you but always get one. I do let them know when it's mailed out and to watch for it. I don't know how long ago this hypothetical package was mailed but if it's only been a couple weeks you never know what may be going on in her life that may have made it slip her mind. I hope you hear but I wouldn't fret about it and just chalk it up to one more learning experience, hypothetically of course.:) |
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I would be extremely upset and my feelings would be hurt. To think that some one took advantage of my good nature. It obviously was very nice of you to do something like that, and get no thanks even. I guess if that person is ignoring you, you will have to chalk it up as a lesson learned. Obviously that person is also reading this thread on what is being said...dunno if it would leave a quilty feeling though...I would have to fix it, if for some reason it is just an accidental oversight. BUT it is people like that who make it hard for the honest and grateful people to be trusted..and this would make anyone upset. You are the better person on this one for sure.. pooh's mum |
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