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GORJESS 10-24-2007 09:14 PM
i'm a teenage single mother & let me tell u, it is definitely not easy!! i love my son 2 death, but i wish i would have had him later. i also think that if ur boyfriend really cares, he will wait till ur ready. it is way to hard to go 2 school/work/& have a baby. just work toward ur goals and don't let anything or anyone get in ur way.

yougetthesmiles 10-25-2007 06:21 AM
Sweetie, I know 1st hand how it is raising a child being a teen. I have not shared this on this site but I was 14 years old when I got pregant for my daughter Branda, she is now 17 and I'm 33. Having a baby so young took so much away from me. I missed out on so much.

Personally I feel 15 is way to young to even have a boyfriend, I did not let my daughter have a b/f till she was 16 and then she was not aloud to even date. I finally let her go out with him when she turned 17 and I was so paronoid! You have to slow down! Talking about the LOVE word, you are so young and how so much life ahead of you. You are going to have so many boys come in and out of your life.

This is what I have always told my daughter, If you break the egg there is no putting it back together, it's broken forever. So please becareful!


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Originally Posted by Chelsea15 (Post 1459225)
Today my boyfriend's best friend's gf had a baby. they're both 17. So is Nathan (my boyfriend).

I'm 15 and its just so hard, watching him enter adulthood without me. he's thinking about college and marriage and today, after seeing Avery (the new baby), even kids :eek: . I feel so lonely.

I'm just so scared b/c I've always told myself, we're only teenagers, this relationship isnt forever. but now I'm faced with that reality, that it might actually NOT last forever. I never realized I loved him like I just did.

I just feel like I cant (well, wont) give him the things he wants for a long time. and i'm scared he wont want to wait for me.

Sorry if you guys dont appreciate a teenager coming in and posting about things like this. just venting.

Mybabyboymax 10-25-2007 07:11 AM
I think the advice you have gotten so far is great! waiting to have sex is soooo important. I was pregnant at 16 and it was not easy, my daughters father fed me all the lines that i wanted to hear. He loved me, we were gong to be a family etc. My daughter turns 12 today and he is long gone. I met a great guy when she was 3 years old and that great guy is now my husband and her dad. when your a teenager you think so differently than when your an adult. You sound very mature and know what you want...follow your dreams you can so do it all! children are a blessing but they should come after you have had time to grow yourself and are done with school etc. They cant live on love alone they need soooo much. enjoy your teenage years, make some good memories :)
as far as your boyfriend being "the one" hey you never know it could happen but remember if he is "the one" he will wait until your ready.

Chelsea15 10-25-2007 12:02 PM
mybabyboymax that's exactly what happened to my mom. Except she didnt meet the man she's marrying until she was 30. I'm not going to let that happen to me.

this just scares me so much. ever since he saw that baby all he's said is "god i wish i could afford a kid". :eek: and I know he wants a big family and everything.

At this point I want MAYBE one kid and thats not until I'm AT LEAST 30. Sure I want to get married. I want to be a vet and I want to be rich with 2 beach houses, one in Florida and one in California :rolleyes: So my goals are petty high lol. Oh yes and I want yorkies galore :D

I'm just scared that if we do end up staying together it wont work b/c we dont want the same things. but i dont know. priorities change.

gutu28 10-25-2007 01:28 PM
Through the many heartaches Ive had, the hardest thing to hear was always.."If it's meant to be, it will be!" But, looking back now, it was always the most true! Hang in there!

Mybabyboymax 10-25-2007 02:04 PM
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Originally Posted by Chelsea15 (Post 1460897)
mybabyboymax that's exactly what happened to my mom. Except she didnt meet the man she's marrying until she was 30. I'm not going to let that happen to me.

this just scares me so much. ever since he saw that baby all he's said is "god i wish i could afford a kid". :eek: and I know he wants a big family and everything.

At this point I want MAYBE one kid and thats not until I'm AT LEAST 30. Sure I want to get married. I want to be a vet and I want to be rich with 2 beach houses, one in Florida and one in California :rolleyes: So my goals are petty high lol. Oh yes and I want yorkies galore :D

I'm just scared that if we do end up staying together it wont work b/c we dont want the same things. but i dont know. priorities change.
You can achieve all those goals, you can do everything you set your mind to skys the limit! Your right priorities change but please try not to change yours and let him be the one to change his (your on the right track!) I cant stress to you how hard it is being a teenage mother. I try to tell my daughter the same thing and all I can do is pray that she doesnt do what I did.

Yorkiekids 10-25-2007 02:13 PM
You have a good head on your shoulder now use it. You're very smart to know this relationship won't last forever, and the last thing you need right now are kids. It's hard enough to raise babies when your adults, but it's nearly impossible for kids to raise kids. If these are the things he's looking for tell him he'll have to look somewhere else. You have the best years of your life before you. Don't let them slip away from you.

Roxanne_mi 10-26-2007 08:39 PM
I am 27 and I had been in relationships that I really thought would last and I wanted a baby and all that. It was to the point my ex even bought me maternity clothes ( turns out he never really planned on us having a baby, it was just a game to him :rolleyes: ) Now I thank god we didn't have any childern. I am trying to start my life over after I let myself get dependent on him. I know it would be ALOT harder if I had a child as well. I couldn't imagine being a teen with a child and having to start over.

I am now where as much as I love childern, I am not sure I want any. Kinda think I perfer my furry four legged babies.

Don't rush anything for this boy, its easy for a boy to walk away when it gets rough and then you are stuck with a child to raise on your own. Don't lose your teen years for some boy.

Chelsea15 10-27-2007 10:35 AM
thank you everyone for the advice. I have said this at least ten million times, but I will say it again: I dont know what I ever did without YT.:iheartu:

Anyway yesterday we were talking and he wants to go to a college that will only take him one year to graduate. that means he'll be ready to start his life when I'm starting 12th grade. I feel like he's going to be starting a new stage of his life and I'm going to be left behind as some high school kid. :cry8: :cry8: :cry8:

sweetr72 10-27-2007 10:49 AM
I totally understand where you are coming from..it dosent feel like that long ago I was in your shoes. I made the wrong decision and started having sex with my bf to "keep" him...3 kids later (the loves of my life!!) and 11 years in a hellish marriage I wish I had been strong enough to say "if Im not worth waiting for then move on" keep that in mind hun..if he isnt willing to wait for you to be ready then is it really love??

Dawn

labrown 10-27-2007 11:12 AM
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Originally Posted by Chelsea15 (Post 1465989)
thank you everyone for the advice. I have said this at least ten million times, but I will say it again: I dont know what I ever did without YT.:iheartu:

Anyway yesterday we were talking and he wants to go to a college that will only take him one year to graduate. that means he'll be ready to start his life when I'm starting 12th grade. I feel like he's going to be starting a new stage of his life and I'm going to be left behind as some high school kid. :cry8: :cry8: :cry8:
One day at a time, girl, one foot in front of the other. If it happens that way, then it will, there is no sense fretting about the future. All you need to think about is passing your classes, getting good grades, and graduating highschool. Everything else will fall into place. Remember, there are the same amount of minutes in every hour, and you can't make them go by faster or skip the 20 that you don't want to wait through. So think not of tomorrow, but the blessings of today, and that you know you are capable of loving this guy, and that is good enough for now.

AND USE LOTS OF PROTECTION!!!:thumbup: :thumbup:

mustangbee 10-27-2007 11:29 AM
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Originally Posted by labrown (Post 1466056)
One day at a time, girl, one foot in front of the other. If it happens that way, then it will, there is no sense fretting about the future. All you need to think about is passing your classes, getting good grades, and graduating highschool. Everything else will fall into place. Remember, there are the same amount of minutes in every hour, and you can't make them go by faster or skip the 20 that you don't want to wait through. So think not of tomorrow, but the blessings of today, and that you know you are capable of loving this guy, and that is good enough for now.

AND USE LOTS OF PROTECTION!!!:thumbup: :thumbup:
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One day at a time is right!:thumbup:
Oh my kids are growing up way too fast.:eek:
At 15 years old, I was playing with Barbie's,;)

FL Tink 10-27-2007 02:52 PM
I remember being in love at 15. I thought I would spend the rest of my life with this guy. Boy, was I wrong. Although we did date 4yrs, as soon as we went to college we grew into different people and you know what? we were ok with that. We like our lives and who we had become. NOW after almost 30 yrs later we are still email buddies. He has a great life and so do I ... And believe you me. There were many more frogs before I found my prince!
Seems like you have your head on straight. Keep your eyes on your goals!!
chin up!;)

labrown 10-27-2007 02:58 PM
Yep, I dated my 15 yr old sweetheart for about 3 years, and we parted well, but when I see who he is married to now, I always tell myself, "better her than me." So who knows what will happen once you are in college?

JuicyGirl 10-27-2007 03:01 PM
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Originally Posted by Tillys_mom (Post 1459274)
I have to agree with TxGurl06. You are only 15. He should understand that. You don't want to be tied down with a baby at that age. Enjoy your teenage years, you'll never get them back. If he isn't willing to wait for you then he must not care for the relationship. If he cares then he will wait for ya. :)
I agree, You have so much time ahead of you...Don't rush into things before you're ready. I'm 21 now and at 15 I was a totally different person... Have fun going to prom and being able to live a normal teenage life without all the responsibilities of a wife and a mother.


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