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09-27-2007, 10:57 PM | #1 |
Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: West Covina
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| Giving back a gift, how should you feel? How should you feel if someone asks for a gift they gave you, back? My aunt (moms oldest sis by 12 yrs. I think she's around 65 yrs old) has been here on a visit for the last three weeks. We rarely see her because she lives in another country. Anyways, the night she came she gave my mom a crystal bracelet, worth a few hundred i bet. they realized it was too small for my mom so my aunt gave it to me. anyways, just a few hours ago my mom pulled me aside and told me not to feel bad but my aunt asked for the bracelet back. immediately i was like, ok sure thats no problem! i mean, honestly, i put the bracelet away and havent even looked at it since! my mom was the one that felt bad and felt horrible for telling me. she even told me at the end of the convo that she didnt even know how to ask me cuz she was worried shed hurt my feelings! (hehe i have a great mom). so yea, i told my mom to give it to my aunt. i didnt want to do it. haha, i think it'd be awkward! now im a little worried about facing my aunt tomorrow morning?? she leaves on sunday, i cant avoid her these next few days! i mean, i didnt care for the bracelet, yet i feel sorta weird that i was put into this situation...yet im also worried about what to say if my aunt talks to me about why she wanted it back! im not sure how to explain it. hopefully its just an unspoken thing for the next few days! any comments?? |
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09-28-2007, 03:49 AM | #2 |
Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: May 2006 Location: West Virginia
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| I would never ask for a gift back and if I did I would have asked you myself. Your aunt will be feeling awkward also I imagine, but I would not avoid each other. Get it out in the open right away, so there are no future family rifts or anything. Family is too precious. Just my opinion, though.
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09-28-2007, 04:00 AM | #3 |
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| She must have had a reason to have asked for it back that your not aware of, I wouldn't jump to any conclusions at this point... You didn't do anything wrong, it was awkward to say the least, but I wouldn't let this incident ruin or overshadow her whole visit, it's done now so move on....Just force a smile, say "Good morning!", and continue as if it didn't happen..after the first few awkward minutes have passed then you all can continue enjoying her visit... If she feels she needs to explain I guess she will, but if she doesn't just forget about it....
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09-28-2007, 04:27 AM | #4 |
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| I would give the gift back and then go out and buy myself something that would cheer me up, a replacement gift for a positive feeling. People can be weird and I don't know how old she is but sometimes you give something away and then miss it. It's hard to explain. For instance, I gave my sil all my kids baby clothes. Not long after I missed them so I asked for one pair of bib overalls back. She thought I was wacky but I was sad and who knew that old clothes would hold any memories for me? She just told me that she's giving away some baby clothes now(it's been years) and she's keeping a few things to remember by. Now she doesn't find what I did years ago so weird Please don't be hurt by the gesture of your Aunt asking for it back. Probably she feels really awkward herself but definitely go out and get yourself a little something.
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09-28-2007, 05:05 AM | #5 |
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| I'd defiently give it back right away and get it over with. Who knows why people do the things they do. You don't need a shadow hanging over you, so pass it on, and let her deal with it.
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09-28-2007, 05:22 AM | #6 |
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| I agree, give it back ... and don't look back ... strange thing to do but you never know what people are thinking ... I bet she is more embarrassed than you think .....
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09-28-2007, 08:23 AM | #8 |
Little Bit & Buttons Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: US
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| It is a very awkward situation on all sides. Could she have possibly have felt like she had to give it to you when it didn't fit your mom? or maybe she sensed that you didn't really care for it?? It doesn't sound like she had originally intended to give it to you so maybe she decided that she could return it and get something that would fit your mom. In either case, you wouldn't really want a gift that wasn't given with a willing heart. I would just try to be as gracious as possible and not take it personally. Since she will be returning to another country soon, hopefully that won't be too difficult for you. |
09-29-2007, 12:01 AM | #9 |
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| Maybe she realized it wasn't the right gift for either of you since you haven't worn it while she was visiting, and figured it may be better suited for someone else. I agree its a weird position to be in and IMO impolite to ask for a gift back, but what can you do she wants it back. |
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