Im fairly new here but I just wanted to say that you are not being looked at in a bad way, but quite the opposite. you put macy and your family first and thats what counts. Maddie will never be replaced but one day you will feel ready and add that new baby to your family and a lucky baby she will be!

Denise, I think all of us understand what is it like to love a little furball more than anything in the world. I'm really sorry you have to go through this.

I have never lost a pet, but just reading of all that you went through has brought tears to my eyes many times.

I don't think anyone could look on you as a bad person for what you are doing. You're being so UN selfish, and only looking out for Macy, and that is true love right there.

You will know when you are ready to bring another baby into your life <3

OH Denise what kills me more than anything is your heart that is hurting so bad. I wish I could help - I am so sorry to hear you are so sad.:(

I know you and only you know what is best for you and your family. Sending hugs and love to you and your family.

You know I am here for you if you need to talk!! HUGS!!! :love-hug3

Denise are you crazy, no one on this forum thinks bad of you...It is so hard, Maddie was your baby and the shock and pain that your family suffered when she was gone takes time to get over, sometimes getting another one helps, but I truly believe that with Maddie was your heart & will take alot longer to heal, and also Macy looked so much like her that its hard not to think about Maddie all the time..My heart just breaks for your family and you...it took me 2 years to get another yorkie after Tucker passed, and God help me if anything happen to mine now, so anyone with a heart understands, you have to do what is best for you and your family and Macy...your a great person Denise, it takes a big person to do what you are doing, its hard, but you have the biggest heart and know its all about Macy and your family...God bless you and when the time is right you will know...:(

Denise you are doing the right thing. The day will come when you are ready. Hugs

Denise, my heart breaks in a million pieces when I think of what happened to little Maddie and your family following all of it. So, I can't even imagine what it does to you. I could barely even TELL my husband Maddie's story.

It takes tremendous courage and soul-searching and honesty and integrity to come to the place you've arrived at - it's a very loving place too! Please don't beat yourself up about this, you are truly doing what is best for you, your family, AND for Macy. Bless your heart!

My heart goes out to you, I can feel what a struggle this has been. Hugs.

Oh Denise, I am so so sorry you all are going through this :cry: First of all, let me just say - please do not ever feel like you have to "explain" yourself to anyone here. I mean I know you wanted to be honest and let everyone know what was going on....but please do not feel ashamed for feeling the way you feel, and don't ever feel like you have to "explain your feelings". You cannot help those feelings....they are what they are, and you can't "turn them off" so to speak.

It obviously really was just TOO SOON for you guys. And by getting a new baby, this is the only way that you were going to find out. You tried...I know you did. You all were so thrilled about bringing baby Macy home, it showed in every e-mail and PM I received from you, and every post you made.

And honestly Denise, I cannot imagine ANYONE here hating you for this. And if they do - you know what? It doesn't matter. You don't need ANYONE'S approval here to make decisions. You are a grown adult and you have to do what YOU know is best for you and your family.

So big hugs to you and the kiddos, and big hugs to Macy. You are only thinking of whats best for everyone, and that is exactly what you should be doing. You are a very brave and strong person for doing this girl, and we love ya.

Big hugs sweetie :hug:

I'm so sorry for the all the pain you're going through. My heart still breaks for you and Maddie everytime I see her picture and see your posts. She was so precious, and I know you loved her so much just as I love Lacy so much. And the thought of losing Lacy the way you lost Maddie breaks my heart and I just can't imagine how hard this has been on you. Everyone heals differently - some need a new pet right away to help them heal, some need to wait months to years before being ready for a new one, and some are never able to bring another pet into their home. If it's too early for you, it's too early. Macy is adorable and I'm sure she'll find a wonderful home. And if and when you are ready, you'll be able to bring another baby into your home. I'm just so sorry for all the sadness you and your family are feeling right now

I completely understand what you're going through. We had a yellow lab and she was the best dog in the world and of course a family member. She had cancer and died at the age of 7 (my husband still has her ashes and hasn't been able to do anything with them yet and it's been about 4 years since she's been gone). Anyway, we got another yellow lab just a couple months after she passed and boy what a mistake. We felt the exact same way, she wasn't Cheyenne, she looked like Cheyenne but didn't act like Cheyenne and I think our expectations were too high. We went through the same thing as you and realized it really wasn't fair to her to keep her, we didn't have the patience and love to give her that she deserved. We found her a good home with a nice family with kids and lots of property. It was one of the hardest decisions we've ever made and we felt horrible about it. But we knew it was for the best. Don't feel bad out what you're going through, you made the right decision. And don't worry, no one thinks poorly of you. The good news is about 2 years later we got Lucee (a black lab) and it was completely different this time. She is wonderful and we love her so much and this time we had all the love and patience that she needed and deserved. Just give your hearts time to heal and you'll know when you're ready. I'm so sorry for your loss. Take care.
Tammy

Thats a tough decision to make and Im sure that you thought this through very well before coming to that decision. You need to do whats best for you and for Macy.
What happened to Maddie was tragic and I can totally understand you needing more time to heal from that, we all know how loving a person you are. (((HUGS))) to you and take care of yourself! :)

oh Denise, I'm so sorry that you have to go through all this. We all know you got Macy with all the best intentions, but sometimes things do not go the way we wanted, specially when they are matters of the heart. I'm sure you'll be doing what's best for you, your family, and Macy.

we love you ....
 

Denise,
you have to do what's best for you and Macy ...
she deserves a lot and so do you. The right time will come ...

It took me almost 18 years to remarry after my I laid my first husband to rest ...
and now I cannot even think of remarrying after Bill passed away 5 years ago ... it all has to do with the heart and how you feel ...
You suffered a traumatic loss when Maddie left this Earth ... :love:

the time will come when you least expect it.
Right now, you have to do what is best for all concerned ...

We all love you ....
hugs to the girls (the skin kids) ....

My heart goes out to you girl. Nope, you are not crazy, and you dont have to explain yourself to anyone. You can not help feeling this way, people all deal with a loss in a different way. You did all you could, and i dont doubt she had all the love you could give. You doing whats best for you, and Macy.
One day when you are ready, you will have another baby.

Best wishes to you!

You have to do what is best for you, and no one can fault you for that. Don't feel guilty, it's just not the right time. You need some time to let your heart heal.....and it will.

Denise, do not feel bad. No one is mad at you at all. You did the right thing for Macy and for you guys. If you guys are not ready then you just simply aren't. Maddie was a precious little girl and i still get so sad cause she comes up in my mind often. I know you guys loved her soo much! Macy will get a family that will love her the same way, i know it because i know that Jill will do her best to place her in a great home. My prayers go out to you. :love:

Denise, I fully understand you and your daughters feelings and decision.

When my beloved Maltese, Jack (RIP), died I was sure that my world ended. I also knew that I would never love another dog like I loved him. Two months later my sister's friend gave us Maggie. She became Chuck's dog, I just could not let myself love another animal. A year later Maggie had Rocky & we kept him because he was a cute little black dog. Rock was almost 2 before I allowed myself to truly love him. He was missing & I was frantic to find him. Maggie found him in the woods and led him back home. I mourned Jack almost 3 years and could not allow myself to open up to the feelings of love (& not being hurt) again until Rocky was lost. Jack's urn (my Jack-in-the-Box) is by my bed and I tell him goodnight every night. Then I cuddle up with my Rock & go to sleep.

My prayers for you and your family. Jeanie

First of all I would just like to say that though the decision you made was a hard one it just proves how much you really care for Macy. I am sure that you have weighed the decisions and this is what is best for you and your family and Macy. I wish you the best of luck and hope that although your heart will never fully heal that it will begin to mend.

Denise, please don't feel bad...everyone has their own time frame for getting over the love of a lost one, especially our fur babies.......you will know when your time is right.....it took me 7 years to finally decided to get another dog after I lost my Sheltie "Fussie" and I still think of herand miss her daily after 7 years...I have even found myself calling out to my lil one using her name and then catching myself....But now after having Izzie for the past 6 mths I wonder why I waited sooooooo long...she is the best thing that has happen to my life since Fussie, and although I will never forget the love and good memories Fussie and I shared.......she is now my new love and I cherish every moment I have with her...Sending prayers for you.

Macy is here with me for a little while
 

Well guys, Macy is here. Denise cried, I cried, Macy licked. Macy is doing great, Denise is very heart broken and having a hard time understanding her feelings. I explained to her that everyone grieves differently and it was too soon for her to get another one.
The flood of PM's I have gotten about Macy is amazing!! Everyone is concerned and several want her. I have pm'd with several of you and want to say thank you for asking and wanting her. My policy is that I talk with the first person that contacts me to see how I feel about them and if I have a good gut instinct and it all seems to match up, then that is who I will go with.
A YT member "myboymax" or Jeanette out of Queens NY has went out of her way to make arrangements for Macy. She will actually be living with Jeanettes sister who lives 3 blocks from Jeannette and will be home with her all but about 3 hours a day. She is single and Macy will be her child. Max and Macy will be able to play on a regualr basis as well.
Thank you all and remember to keep Denise and her family in your prayers as this was very hard for her.
Thanks again!
Jill

Jill you are a super person for helping out Denise. I am so glad that Macy is going to get a great home. I'm sure Denise was great mommie for Macy but we all understand her pain and have no problems with her decision to give Macy back. Its just great that it ends up in a happy ending.

Glad to hear everything went well for Denise and that Macy will be getting a wonderful new home.

Denise,

I am so very sorry for your loss- I feel so bad that you had to make this decision. You did the right thing and I think you are a wonderful person for doing what is best for little Macy. I have thought about the day when I no longer have Lex and I just cry thinking about it. Anyone that has truly loved a pet can understand your deep grief. Please know my thoughts and prayers are with you!!!

Denise, I just ready your post. I am so sorry you are still hurting! Hopefully soon, you will begin to heal. Yes, you are doing the right thing in giving her back if your heart is not ready for a replacement. In time you will be able to accept another baby. In the meantime take care of yourself and know that Maddie is running and playing at the Rainbow Bridge with all of the other wonderful furbabies, she is now in perfect health. Good luck sweetie with your journey to healing a broken heart.

I feel for you, having to make this decision, but only you can make that choice.... you have to follow your heart.....
good luck and I am sure you will know when the time is right to love another furbaby...
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Denise I'm so very sorry it didn't work out with Macy, take time to grieve the loss of Maddie...it's difficult to love again when your heart is still broken. Just know that I understand your decision and agree that it is the right choice for all involved. Hugs to you, please take care...

Ohh I am so sorry Denise. My heart just sank when I read your post because in everyword I read, I can feel your pain and agony over this decision. I am so sad for you and it is so painful. I know I have been there too. Nobody could be mad at you for doing the right thing and hopefully time will bring some healing for you all. BIg hugz

Denise, I understand completely. It was 3 full years after Shelby died before we brought Ginger home...my heart was too broken. Please know that you've got a lot of support here, and I applaud you for doing what is right...

Thanks for the wonderful updated! It is really great to hear :) I am so glad that everyone is so concerned about little Macy, and of course Denise as well. We just love her! I know how hard this all has been on her, and it just breaks my heart to watch her go through it :cry:

God Bless you ALL though, for thinking of little Macy - she truly is an angel!

thanks for the update, Jill. I hope everything works for the best.