My dad works nights so my mom falls asleep on the couch, she says she gets lost in the bed without him. Sometimes she doesn't sleep well, due to health problems, so my dad just lets her sleep there so she gets rest and he goes on to their bed.

I think that it would bother me if DH and I slept in separate rooms. I feel it leads to a lack of connection with each other once that starts happening.

Every once in a while, I get on a weird schedule and dont sleep until 4 or 5 am, and he goes to bed around 11 or 12. I feel a big disconnect when this happens because I feel "bed time", LOL is kind of a bonding time with each other.

But it's whatever works for you two, and I don't think it's a "sign" that anything is necessarily wrong in the relationship. I just feel if it was to be an everynight thing, that it would personally hurt my feelings if it were me.

My mom and step dad have separate bedrooms. They have been like this for over 25 years...And their marriage is as strong as ever. Yes the hall carpet is worn down...lol....My mom goes to bed early and my step dad likes to watch tv and read til late...I would think as long as you two are happy and you get visitation rights...lol...Don't put too much stock in it....

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I do not think there are any "set in stone" rules for what constitutes a normal marriage and what is not..it is whatever works for you and your husband.

My husband complained for a couple years that I never laid still for more then 10 mins..me bouncing around, was like sleeping on a trampoline..and at one time we had a full wave water bed, but thought a King would solve the problem...it did not..so we bought two 3/4 beds and put them together. I use a King spread and it looks like one big bed.....no more problems. I could do cartwheels and never wake him up...! LOL

I would love my own room!:D . My husband snores:mad: and im a lite sleeper. The babies sleep with us ( all 3 yorkies and the 2 cats). I always get pushed to the corner by all of them. Ive been with my husband 7 years and married 3, he falls aleep alot watching tv( super load) in the living room and im in the room with ear plugs and a night mask with a pillow over my head. we have a 1 bedroom apartment but i would just love my own pretty room:rolleyes:. were a young couple but we know that sleeping together at time can be " restless".

I love yorkierose's idea or separate beds in the same room.

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Although this is a subject rarely brought up for discussion online and even less frequently in person, I have found that as couples age and start to confront more health problems, the number of those sleeping in separate beds or bedrooms increases. In all the cases I know of, the reason for sleeping separately had to do with various health problems keeping one of the spouses awake and the activity of the one then disturbed the quality of sleep for the other. Of the six couples I know who do this, NONE did it because their pets were disturbing them.
If you and your husband require separate rooms in which to sleep, for whatever reason, that is your own personal business and there should be NO concern about what others may think of it! As long as this is something the two of you discussed openly and honestly together, stop stressing about it! Absolutely encourage your husband to "move into" the "guest room" and stop sleeping on the sofa! That must be so uncomfortable for him! Why not offer to help him decorate "his" special space to help assure him that you're concerned about his sleep needs, that you want to support him and that you're not resentful or hurt by his need to change the marital sleeping arrangement?
Just in case there might be some lingering concerns about this issue, why not plan on a surprise for him when his room is completed? You could pack a picnic basket with champagne, candles, "mood music", and a bottle of massage oil and have an AFTERNOON "picnic" in the privacy of the new room, to "christen" his new bed! A little "afternoon delight" should take away any concerns either of you have regarding this issue!!
Go for it and stop worrying!!

I don't see anything wrong with it - in my last house Chanel and I had the bedroom all to ourselves - I did my work in there - watched what I wanted to watch on tv ...and in general - feet just fine not hearing the snoring in my ears everynight - Now with nim much sicker and me with really BAD restless leg hardly anyone wants to sleep near my feel ...so the girls stay up near my head. Our bedroom in this house stays wicked hot so no one sleeps in it during the summer

I sleep on the couch quite frequently. I am a very light sleeper and the hubby snores many times, plus with all my yoga & pilates teaching sometimes I am very sore and/or restless. So, whenever that happens I'm either on the couch or in the spare bedroom. If my back is bothering me, the couch is wonderful to lean against and if I'm restless, well I can't toss and turn so for whatever reason I am actually able to go to sleep. I do this quite frequently!!!!!

I wish we had room for a king bed, cause our queen is quite small. Our mattress was new only 3 years ago and I HATE it!!!!!!!!

Yes, Rocky sleeps with me!

When I wake up at 6am I put the kids in there beds and gate it off so they won't potty on the floor, then I take hubby to work and come home and take them potty.

So far it's working real well.

It is good to read other people have bed problems too. In our trailer there was two small bedrooms, one for junk and one for us. Hubby would go to bed early to watch tv and I stay up to watch tv. When I went to bed I had to crawl over him to my side. I would lay in bed for hours having to pee not get up and wake him up, also he is veitnam vet and someimes comes awake quit violently. One year he went hunting and I tore the dividing wall out made it one LARGE room and put bed in the middle. Now he had his side and I had mine. He must clean his room ( or not) as mine is nice a tidy. Recently we got twin ajustable vibrator beds and pushed them together and life is fine. He had this habit of coming back to bed and just flopping in bed and sending me flying and he compained I woke him if I got up, now we dont even know who gets up and down and at our age those nightly trips can really steal your sleep. As long as you are secure in you marrage sleeping apart should not even be a problem. Good luck but if you are unsure there sure is alot of suggestins here. Also walmart has these memory foam mattress
pads for bad backs. They are 6" thick and I have one hubby dont. I do love my twin beds. Good luck!

Hubby and I were married 45 years in July. We have always slept together unless he had to be out of town or some other reason he or I wouldnt be home that night like when one of our kids was in the hospital or something like that. I can't hardly go to sleep unless I can feel him some where close to me. I tell him all time, I hope I die before him because I dont want to live without him plus, I would never get any sleep and I'm also scared to be alone at night. Hes always been with me and made me feel secure. He is a big guy and he makes me feel safe no matter whats going on. But if he needed to sleep in another bed he would probably have to lay down with me till I went to sleep and get up and go to his bed. lol. Now maggie sleeps with us but he and I are still touching each other if only our feet or a hand on the others butt (lol) or just touching. I snore too, but he doesnt much. He has to be up at 5:30 for work so he goes to bed without me and I stay up late and he gets up and goes to work and leaves me and maggie asleep unless I wake up when he kisses me bye. I am a very sound sleeper so I rarely know when he is up and If I am awake when he leaves i'm back to sleep before he gets to the garage to his truck and most times never even hear him close the back door and lock it. But I've known lots of couples that slept separately way before they were near our age and it didnt mean anything was wrong cause their still together. Sometimes its just hard for certain people to sleep for different reasons. So if you feel your marriage is strong, which it sounds like, dont worry about it. Just do what ya have to do to make each other happy and have a long life together. When you're alseep what difference does it make really as long as your asleep you shouldnt know whats going on, LOL <<<<<<<<<<< I DON"T. Hubby says I can sleep thru a tornado and I've slept thru storms lots of times and never know it stormed. Maggie takes after me, she dont get up with him either except on weekends. wonder how she knows the difference but she does.
Good luck to you in whatever you do and wishes for a long happy marriage.

I've been married for almost 6 years. We started sleeping in different bedrooms about 2 years ago. The reason? well, he snores and I move too much. We talked about the situation and agreed that to have sex you don't necessarily have to do it on the bed or at nigh time, and if we feel like being naughty one of those nights, well, we have 2 bedrooms to choose from:p

Sleeping in separate beds is a well kept secret in many marriages. Last year, over 1/4 of married couples in the US admitted that they had separate beds and a trend among couples building a new home is to request two master bedrooms or two adjoining bedrooms be built.

There are a variety of reasons why a couple choses separate sleeping arrangements. The fact is that whether sleeping in separate bedrooms is right or wrong depends on the couple and their relationship.

If one person is unclear on why they are sleeping in separate beds, unhappy with the arrangement, or if the intimacy level in the marriage decreases, then its an issue that should be discussed and worked through. Otherwise, its a perfectly normal arrangement that can actually create a happier marriage.