I'm 52 now and had a complete hysterectomy at 44 due to a non-cancerous tumor the size of a small watermelon. I take hormone replacement to keep the hot flashes away and I'm doing great. YEAH!!!! NO MORE PERIODS OR PAIN!!!!

Awww hun. I'm so sorry you are having to go through this. Please go to the HysterSisters site as well as getting support here. I learned so much about the process, questions to ask, what to expect, etc... Your feelings are very normal,

I know what you mean about wanting a little girl. I have two boys and no girls. I have decided that when I think I'm ready, I might adopt a little girl who needs a good home. There are so many children in foster care that it saddens me. I know it can never replace holding and nursing that baby, but it can be inspiring. I also spoil my little niece to death! LOL Her mom loves me for that!! (Sarcastic here :D )

I think you'll be amazed by how much you are missing in your life. It almost sounds like a medical emergency. Is it? If it must be done... consider this...your two boys! They really need you.

Yes, I've gained some weight, but I believe that's mostly my fault. My metabolism is slowing down with age, and I need to get up and move more often (and NOT to the fridge!):D

Speaking of divorce...that wasn't a problem for me!! :D With my hormones back on track (with meds)...my interest in bedroom matters, well, let's just say "bring it on!" :thumbup:

I'm so sorry you have to go through this but everything happens for a reason. Maybe there is a little girl out there somewhere that just waits for you to take care of her. It is hard to let go of a dream but there are two little boys there that need their mommy happy and healthy. I'll pray for you that you will be able to accept the fact and make the best of a bad situation.

So sorry you are having such a hard time. I've not had one, just wanted to send you good vibes!

Maybe your little girl will have four legs and fur!:) That's what Ozzie has been for me. He has been the surrogate for the child I know I will never have. ;)

So sorry you are having such a hard time & decision to make, i had mine very young, at 21 due to eptopic pregnancy, i had 3 in a row and they can be life threatning, I was also very dissapointed like you, wanting to have another baby & all, but not having painful periods for you will be great, i wish you the best and will keep you in my thoughts & prayers:)

the positive is i am in so much pain and have been having such bad infections.

but im scared to go on hormones. Im scared to gain weight, I just lost 20 lbs. And the fact of the finality of it all.

im just not dealing with this well at all.

I was in my mid 30's, when I had mine and it was the best thing I ever did! The relief was almost immediate. There was very little pain from the surgery and all the bad symptoms I had were gone. My daughter is going thru what you are going thru but is in so much pain that she has decided the surgery would be best. As someone else said, adoption is always an option. It's not the same as carrying it yourself but it is pretty darn good. I have several friends that went that route and it has been amazing. Good luck honey, Patty

you and i posted at the same time so i did not see this. i am so very sorry. i did not mean to be insensitive. my family is full of adopted babies. they are as if they had them themselves. i know adoption doesn't appear to be the answer but it is something to look into. if you and your husband is having marital problems, then i would consentrat on the marriage then a child. children do place a strain on the marriage. also, your health is #1. you need to take care of yourself first. if your pain is so bad, how can you have a happy life? i hope you can overcome this soon.

i also wanted another baby but when i had my last, there was no choice. i had to have it done or it was my life. it took about two years to get over the fact that i would not have another child. i am fine with it now. it takes time.
again, i am so sorry

I weigh less now than I did when I had my hyst and my sister has not gained any weight either. If you work with your doctor you should be able to find a good replacement that will not cause this effect, but it does take some time to get you balanced. I am on Ogen and my sister is on Premarin.:aimeeyork

i need one done due to my cervical cancer and it wont go away but since i was only 20 at thetime the doctor didnt want to do it and now going on 22 he still doesnt want to do it, there are times i have month long perios with the cramping and blleding and bloating and then there are times like now i havent had a period for 6 7 months and nope im not perganant, but i still get monthly cramping, and blaoting but no bleeding, so its all ages and many reasons us women have to go through what we go through

but i hope you feel better and ask anything you need on her and feel comfy casue most likely someone on here has been through it

I NEVER wanted a hysterectomy but had one 4 yrs ago at age 42. It was the BEST thing I could have ever done. My uterus had grown into my bladder and bowel. The pain was horrible. Now, wonderful relief. I don't take any hormones due to having had kidney cancer. I'm doing better now than I did with everything intact. I can understand why you feel as you do about wanting another baby. Even tho I had 5 children and was already 42, I still wanted the "control" of making a yes or no choice. Good Luck!!

You don't need to apologize, everyone deals with it in her own way. I can relate to your feelings of wanting another child, I did also at the time and we had just gotten to the place financially when it would be possible. It wasn't easy decision but I had a 4 year old who deserved to have a mom who would be an active part of her life, and lying in bed feeling like I was dying wasn't getting it. I don't regret the decision because it has enabled me to live an active life. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

I had mine done when I was 29 and they just took my uterus...I really wish they had taken it all but the Dr. would not do it due to my age. I was bleeding 3 weeks out of every month and in extreme pain. I am now 47 and have not had any more problems. I don't take hormones and I am pretty sure my ovaries are not working 100% of the time and haven't worked right for a long time. I suffered a near nervous breakdown after the surgery I think due to pain...I had the bikini incision and it took a couple of weeks for me to be able to walk upright plus my body was so very depleted having suffered for over a year with horrible periods. I hope things turn around for you both personally and health wise.

I had mine five years ago. The only thing that I remember about the hospital experience was that I slept nearly the entire time. They gave me one of those pumps for the pain medication, and no pain to speak of. I was sent home with a prescription but never filled it. I feel good, and no problems other than hot flashes and night sweats, but I had them before due to early menopause from chemotherapy three years earlier. I was 52 at the time. Good luck. I hope that you do well.:thumbup:

Did you have a C-section with either of your boys? I did with my second one, and the recovery for the complete hysterectomy was far less.