After 36 years I met my birth son
 

It's been an amazing few days. I haven't been but I sadly had to give up a baby in 1971 when I got pregnant at 17. Due to times and circumstances I made the hardest decision of my life and gave him up for adoption. As fate would have it the baby's father and I got back together and we had our daughter 14 years later. 5 years ago I contacted the adoption agency to provide contact info and pictures. They forwarded it to the adoptive parents but mybirth son never responded. Wednesday I got a call from the adoption agency telling me they had a letter and pitures of my birth son and contact information, I received it yesterday and it was a very heartfelt letter and pictures from ages 1 year to 2005 when he got married. I got the nerve up to call him last night and talked for 1/2 hour and felt very comfortable. He asked if we could get together today!! So my husband and dtr who are birth father and full blood sister to Chris, and his wife met tonight and it was so amazing. He looks a lot like me and almost identical to my youngest brother. He want's to have an ongoing relationship which is fine by us!!! I debated whether to post this as some may not understand giving a child up but then decided friends and family accept you for who you are regardless.
Attached are pics of him and me and myhusband, dtr and his wife.

one more!

I'm not sure which one is you, which one is your daughter and which one is your sons wife. Oh well. It's wonderful that there will be really great family gatherings and grandbabies to look forward to. :D

Aww Patti,

Your story just brought tears to my eyes. How absolutely wonderful to be reunited with your son after all these years. You made a selfless decision all those years ago that put the needs of your son first, and no one in the world could fault you for that :)--as that is true love. In 1988, one of my best friends gave up her baby girl for adoption, and I saw first-hand how much it pained her to do so. But she knew it was the best thing for her baby. What an exciting experience for you and your family.

I wish you all the best as you and your son become reacquainted and find a special relationship once again after all these years. :)

I think it's wonderful that you and your son have met, and I wish you all the best! Great story!!! You must be over the moon!:)

Patti, I am so happy for you, that is such wonderful news!! You must be so thrilled to finally see your son after 36 years!!
You guys look great together and I love the last picture where the dog tried getting in on the picture too, lol.

How wonderful that you could all be together <3

I think the last picture is probably your husband, you, your son and his wife. going from left to right. the first picture I feel is your son and daughter as to me they favor. hope i got this right.
I'm happy for you and glad your son wants a relationship with his true family. I've known people put in this position before and things turned out for the best for some, some not so great. God Bless your family and bless your sons adopted family for raising such a handsome guy. You're a lucky lady.

What an amazing story and you must be so happy to find him after all of these years. To me, that would feel like you just won the lottery, especially if meeting him was a good experience. Alot of times the sons and daughters only find their parents after the parents has passed so it is amazing that you found each other and have many years to catch up and start over. You guys are so blessed to have each other again.

Wonderful,wonderful,wonderful News.
 

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Great story! Thanks for sharing! So glad things worked out this way! You must be so happy!

Oh my gosh!!! This is the most wonderful news!!!! I'm so happy for you and your son! To have the strength to make a decision to give him a better life and to have the strength to pick up that phone is pure LOVE!

Love is an amazing thing.

Bless your Family!

Wow I can definetly see the resemblance. He looks like you a lot! What a nice family you have, I'm so happy that you got to meet him after all these years.

What a beautiful family you have! How blessed you must feel to be reunited with your son!

How wonderful for you all. That's an amazing story. Thanks for sharing it with us.

What a great story with a happy ending. You all look so happy ... what a great future this will be for you all. What courage is took to give him the best possible life. You are a very special person.

What a heart warming story, may God bless you all. There is absolutely nothing wrong with adoption, for all concerned. It would be a hard decision to make, but in many cases, it is the right decision. I have a sister, that my mother gave up for adoption, we have always known the truth, and she has always been a part of our family. So happy it has worked out for you, and that you were finally reunited, a beautiful family.

OM Gosh! What a beautiful, heartwarming story! I sat here getting shivers up and down my back (the good kind) while reading your post. I am so happy for you, Patti! I'm sure not a day went by that you didn't think of him and now he is back in your life! Big hugs and congrats to you! You needed a lift and wow, what a lift you got!!! Loved seeing the pics...you all look so happy!

How wonderful!!! Patti, I can only imagine how happy you all are to finally have your family complete! ;)

What a wonderful story. I can't being to imagine what a moving experience that is for you. Congratulations.

That is a wonderful story. What a happy reunion you and your family are going to have wth your Son

OMG !!!! MY dream is to meet my birth mother and what a HUGE event in your life ! He looks just like you - you can see it in his eyes and I'm sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo happy for you both !! Whatever the reasons behind the adoption I think in this day and age those that are adopted DO understand much better than years ago...and I think it's just fantastic you got to meet him after all these years !!

This is such a wonderful event for you & your family...your life must feel so complete now...it's so great your son has been so understanding & forgiving...the resemblance is definitely there.....enjoy the good times to come....

I was glad to read your story!! I was put up for adoption in 1972 when my birth mother was 17 also. I found my birth mother with the help of a P.I. about 10 years ago when I was in my early 20's. We instantly had a realationship and spent every weekend together. I then got pregnant with my daughter and when my daughter was a year old my birth mother decided she didnt want anything to do with me anymore..

I had a nervous breakdown because of it and it broke my heart in two. I had become a part of her family and she asked me not to see them anymore so I didnt. Last summer she contacted me and wanted me to come see her...when I called to make arrangements because we were going to be in her area she didnt answer my phone calls. I ran into her parents a few months ago in a grocery store and they told me she was living in my area now and where she worked. I took Phil my common law to her place of employment to meet her (she works in a second hand store) when she saw me she backed away and said "no one here knows about you" and was very uncomfortable so I left. She recently emailed me that she is telling people about me now...

My parents are worried about me and getting in touch with her again. But I have learned from the past and wont let myself get close again like I did...plus im 10 years old and alot wiser.

Sorry to highjack your thread lol...I am just happy to hear of a GOOD reunion story. I hope you have a strong bond with your son and the rest of your years with him are joyful and happy...adoption is NOTHING to be ashamed of..its a nobel thing to do..I am sure he had a wonderful life because you let a family who was unable to have children adopt this wonderful boy...NEVER feel embarrassed or ashamed of that fact. You and him are so lucky to have found each other....take it slow is my only recommendation...:)

Dawn

Congratulations Patti! A new relationship is GREAT! It is not a bad thing at all..... and or those that don't understand.... I guess that is not your problem!! :)
We met my husbands daughter (21 years old) about 4 years ago. It really is an emotional experience.
:goodluck: with your new found relationship!

Congratulations to you Patti!! How wonderful for all of you to be able to connect. I think the first photo is your son and daughter and the fourth photo is your children, you and your hubby. You are correct - your son does look just like you. What a wonderful way to spend the Memorial Holiday weekend, but by reliving memories and creating new ones (okay all, I know this isn't the reason we celebrate, but it fits).

Thanks for the great support!!! The first picture is my dtr and birth son, the next one is me and my birth son and the 4th is my husband, dtr, birth son and me. In person he looks sooo much more like me. Looking in his eyes was like looking into a mirror.

What a beautiful happy ending to a sad situation for you.
It is amazing how much your daughter and son look alike.
No one has the right to judge you. Your the one who carried
the burden and pain all these years. I am so very happy this
worked for all of you.
We had a similar situation in my family as well and it had the same
results. All good things ahead is my wish for you.
Thanks for sharing.

Patti,

What a wonderful turnout to such a moving story. It's great to hear that ya'll will have a continued relationship. :)

Man, I have the chills reading this and seeing the pictures. What a wonderful happening for you and your family.
He looks just like you Patti! I bet you have a different peace in your heart now.