I'm back from the hospital.....
 

Well, last Wednesday (March 7) I had my hysterectomy done. I was released from the hopsital at which point my husband saw fit to take me to Texas. After that very painful trip, he drug me around Amarillo to look at houses. On Sunday I finally convinced him to bring me home so I could get kids to school the next day. My grandma was suppose to come and help me but she has decided not to come. I'm here now trying to do it all on my own. This has been the worst experience in my whole life. I can't believe my family has desereted me in a time like this. My husband didn't even stay at the hospital while I was in surgery. He came home and took a nap then went out to eat for lunch before coming back to the hospital. I'm very disappointed in the whole lot of them!
Sorry about my venting. I just wanted to let everyone know I was back. I've got alot of reading to do to get caught up!

Wishing you a speedy recovery!
 

OMG -- I cannot believe you went house-hunting immediately after discharge from a hysterectomy -- you poor lady! Not sure which type you have but I think with any hysterectomy the recuperation time is at least 4-6 weeks! I got back to regular activities fairly soon, but did not have 100% of energy and stamina for months after mine.

Time for a family meeting! Tell them you are not Superwoman and you need to heal -- either that or you will wind up back in the hospital and they can do it all! You need help and they need to realize you just had major surgery. I think families sort of think mom's are never sick and can do anything. They need their attention gotten when they forget you, too, need help at times. Push too hard now and it will be forever til you get back to normal. Take care of yourself so you can take care of them.
:getwellso :big_hug: Welcome back!

I'm happy to hear you are home and all went well - at least with the surgery. I'm sorry you aren't getting the support you really need right now, both physically and mentally. I wish there was something I could do. You really need time to recouperate or you could injure yourself. A friend of mine had one and her Dr. told her she wasn't allowed to lift anything heavier than a martini with 1 olive for 8 weeks. You be careful and someone should explain to your family that you just had MAJOR SURGERY and need help. Hugs to you and prayers that you get some much needed help.

I am so sorry you have been treated so badly. I think sometimes others don't realize that a hysterectomy is a MAJOR procedure, even if done vaginally. Time to give everyone a wake-up call!!!! Please take care of yourself.

I am very glad you are back and feeling good enough to go thru all these posts!! Will be sending prayers your way for a speedy recovery :) You need to let your family know that you are going to need time to heal well before you continue day-to-day activities on your own - no need to house hunt or anything like that for a good month at least :eek: :big_hug:

The doctor couldn't even do a vaginal hysterectomy because of my 4 c-sections. My family's idea of helping me is shipping me all over the countryside. My step mom wants to come and get me and take me to Kansas next week so we can go house shopping there. On top of all the pain/discomfort I had riding to Texas, the trip to Kansas is even longer. When I arrived home on Sunday from Texas all of the baby hamsters had escaped their cage and I'm still missing 2. Most of my fish were dead too. I'm not happy with my family.

My husband even went as far as to tell me to start packing and moving things out of our other house since he's finally sold it! I can't beleive the nerve of him! I did vacume yesterday and am doing some laundry today but I am taking everything really slowly. I have been running a fever too. (101.3)

You really need to be careful.. You could do damage to yourself and your surgery. Put yourself first and tell them you need to take care of you first for a few weeks. Its ok to tell them NO. lol You poor soul, I can't believe he didnt even stay there at the hospital with you. I hope your family will be more understanding, but you may have to step up and tell them you can't do it. I sure hope you feel better soon!!!

Sweetie you have to put your foot down. Your health is more important
that anything else. Let your husband hire someone to help him.
You stay put! I think he needs a good talking too and if that does
not help I won't say what I'm thinking. You take care of yourself,
there is only one you.

I agree with what others have said - YOU have to put YOU first and put your foot down with your family!!! All kinds of things can happen if you don't do what you need to do to allow your body time to heal! First of all, you aren't supposed to be lifting anything heavy - nada, nothing. And you aren't supposed to be pushing and pulling on a vacuum, broom, or mop!! I don't mean to be "gross" but - if you don't get the rest you need and continue, things inside could not heal like they are supposed to and then things could start falling (i.e. bladder, etc). Before you know it, you are back in for more surgery. As for the temp - you may be trying to start with a post-op infection. Please call your doctor on this.

Vent all you want to!! That's what we are here for - each other. I'm glad the surgery, for the most part, went okay. Now you just have to have the time to heal and recover and it takes time. It literally took me 4 months to get back to feeling "normal" after mine.

Sending you lots of hugs and prayers!! Please keep us posted.

Didn't they do the same thing when you hurt your wrist? I'd ship the whole lot of 'em off and send myself to a spa for some much needed R&R and pampering.:D

Stacy I am sorry you are having a hard time! Geez your family needs to help you and let you rest!! I hope you feel better SOON! Get some rest!

I had a hysterectomy, so I say this from experience and LOVE. GET THE F away from the vacuum, step away from the washer and dryer, and sit yer ass down! Your husband should be SHOT, wtf is he doing, trying to kill you? I'm sorry to be so blunt, but OMG you could really hurt yourself badly and then have to have MORE surgery and possibly die. Your family obviously thinks that they know better than the surgeon:rolleyes:

Please take care of yourself:cry:

Oh, and P.S. If that were my husband, he wouldn't be having sex with me for at least a year after this, if I even kept his sorry butt around:mad: I am SO angry at your family FOR you, don't they have any compassion?:(

OMG I am shaking right now:(

I am at a loss for words. Pick up the phone, grab his credit card and higher someone to do the work for you.

I wanted to let everyone know that I went back to my doctor today. He has put me on an antibiotic in case I'm trying to get an infection. He said everything looked good though.
Thanks for all the compasion and kind words from you all. You guys are GREAT!

I hope those antibiotics help you to feel better. :) Take it easy and put yourself lst, they can fend for themselves while you take the necessary time to heal. Best Wishes to you for a full recovery. :getwell: Keep us posted.

I agree with the other women, stay off your feet. Take your antibodics and rest as much as you can. Let your family cater to you for a change. How can your step mom or anyone expect you to go out and about looking for a house. That is insane... Take care of yourself.

The problem is I'm all alone with 4 kids right now. I can't let them fend for themselves. My husband, step-mom, and dad are in Texas and the rest of my family is in Kansas. My step mom is planning on coming and getting the kids for the weekend so that may help. I can't stay off my feet. Some one has to wash the kids laundry and cook their dinners. I also have to give the little 2 their baths and get them ready for school.
Bummer the pharmacy didn't have my antibiotic in so they had to order it in. If I feel better tomorrow afternoon, I'll get back out and pick it up. Otherwise I'm not sure when I'll get it. I feel like crap right now.:(

How old are your children? Even the youngest of them can help you with things, and the older kids can help bathe the youngest, while you supervise everything and instruct them. Things may not get done exactly how they should, but it'll be good enough for now;) PLEASE don't hurt yourself any further:( And see if the pharmacy can deliver your meds, a lot of them will.

Who will take care of the kids if you have to go back into surgery? Let the house go for now, just make sure everyone is fed and reasonably clean. your health is top priority right now and your children would be so proud to help take care of mommy. I know, I've been there with 4 young boys when I had my daughter by c-section:laugh: My stepson's mother thoughtfully dropped off DH's three boys as soon as I got home from the hospital and my DH had to work the next day. I already had my 7 yo son with me. They were from 6 - 9 years old at that time and were the biggest helpers! YES, the house was a wreck, but it wasn't disgustingly filthy, and we all helped each other through it. Sandwiches and soups are easy and not too messy to clean up after. Paper and plastic EVERYTHING is your friend.

I'm so worried about you and I wish I was closer, I'd be there in a heartbeat to help you out:love:

Oh yea, BABY WIPES! Little kids don't need a full-on bath every single day, it's okay to skip a day and have them just wash up with a warm cloth or baby wipes and brush their teeth. It's not forever and there'll be no permanent damage, I promise.

I hope you don't think I'm like preaching to you or anything, just trying to help you get through this:girl_hug:

You're so kind. I know I need to slow down and will try to do my best. I live in a tiny town and the pharmacy won't deliver my meds so I will have to go pick them up. This is alot of work and to top things off I have a litter of cocker pups that are 3 wks old. I didn't do much today other than start the washer 2 times and the dryer 1 time then I let the kids take it from there.

Forget about putting your foot down... you need to put it up.... up his BUTT!!! I feel for you!

i have been in your situation. I had 2 small children and my EX was no help at all. I got in horrible shape. was bleeding internally. do not get in this shape. but like you said I had small children that could not do for them selves. I think mine were younger than yours (you said yours went to school) get a neighbor to help you out. I sure wish I had asked even a strange to help me out. I was 24 yrs old when I had my hysty.

OMG! I'm so sorry that happened to you. My kids are 12,11,7, and 6yrs old. The 12 and 11 yr olds have attitudes and all they do is disobey me and hurt me and their younger siblings. My 7 yr old has behavior problems and doesn't do well with change. I'm trying to keep everything as normal as possiable. My neighbor called me last night and promised to help me today then she went out shopping and then said she had a migraine and couldn't help me. I don't associate with my other neighbors due to them being drug addicts.

Kitty I'm so sorry you're having to go thru this. I had my surgery while my ex was out of the country just for that reason. As hard as it was, it was easier without him. You have to try to take care of yourself hun, so many problems can arrise. Wish I had more to offer, I will keep you in my prayers. I will say my health AND my sanity improved greatly after I shed that ugly 250 lbs. and said the words SEE YA! ;)

Kitty - how are you feeling today? Have been thinking about you since I read your post yesterday. Adjust the attitudes of the older ones!!! They are old enough to help you out. Let them "fend" for themselves - if they want to eat, let them fix it, if they want clean clothes, they'll have to wash them. If YOU don't do it, then they have to......at least it's worth a try. I am really worried about you and your health. Hysterectomy, no matter the surgical procedure, is a major surgery and it takes time to heal from it. As others have said, let the big stuff go, just do the small things and if that's not enough for the kids, then they'll just have to pitch in. I sure wish I lived closer to you - I'd be there in a heartbeat to help you out!! Take care and let us know how you are doing!

I feel GREAT today! I don't have any pain or anything!!!!! The fever has been gone since about 10 pm last night and hasn't returned!!!!!! I feel so wonderful today!!!!!!!!!! I feel like a million bucks! LOL! Thanks for all the well wishes and prayers for me.

That is GREAT news!!! But....and there's always a "but" somewhere...lol...you still don't need to push things. Continue to take things slow, do the little things that just have to be done - the rest can get taken care of in time. You may feel lots better but your body is still healing. And the best part is that your fever is gone - woohoo!! Prayers will continue for you and keep us posted:)

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Girl... You've always had your hands SO full!

I'm so happy to hear your health is doing better, now here comes my but, but you need a break! You would think that MAGOR SURGERY would qualify you for some serious pampering and down time! :rolleyes: What is wrong with that husband of yours?


I'm just glad your feeling better now... I hope it keeps up! Try as best you can to take it easy... I know how silly that sounds with everything you have on your plate!;)