I can understand your husbands feelings. You wouldn't send your own kid off to another house if it got sick, so why send the step-son. Personally, the kid would stay with me and I would do everything to keep him comfortable while re-couping. He wouldn't have come to your house or stay that long if he wasn't happier with you all. I feel sorry for him. He's torn between his mom and dad and seems to be giving each of them equal time.

No I wouldn't send my kid off to another house because they LIVE here. He does not. He chose to live with her, he could have spoken up to the judge when we were fighting her for custody but he did not, too scared of Momzilla. And the kid has been staying here and is comfortable and has gotten medical care and TLC too. I've never said to him that he should go home, I asked my husband privately about it. I certainly wouldn't want him to get the idea that I don't want him here, that would break my heart for him to feel unwanted. His mother does that to him enough:unlove:

I wish that he could live with us, she certainly doesn't deserve him or any of the kids:( I also wish that we were closer, she made damned sure to tell all three of them, growing up, that I was the enemy, cuz she was so jealous that they preferred me to her. I would always read to them, and we'd do crafts and fun things. Then they'd go home and tell her how much fun they had and how nice I was to them, and she'd be SO angry. She was always too busy "dating" and moving men in and out of her house to pay any mind to the boys.

Things are a lot deeper than this one incident. I have come to realize through everyone's input here that I was wrong to want him to go home, though I don't think it was very nice of her to send him over here like this. Our doctor said that he should have been seen 2 weeks ago, he's never seen tonsils look that bad:( My husband, however, is a complete ASS for making me feel like crap for wanting to try to keep the rest of us healthy. Too late now, everyone else is sick and I'm probably next:laugh:

Thanks for everyone's input I do appreciate it, you helped me more than you could possibly know:kiss:

I don't think you were wrong and I hope I didn't make you feel that way, like you said it is much deeper than this one thing. You can see (AND LIVE IT I MIGHT ADD) the whole picture,we can't. Sounds like you have been a wonderful Step-Mom to him.

Wow...I would like to have you to be my stepmom :D You really sound like a wonderful person with a big heart.:)

The boys mom is so typical, and usually it's attitudes and behaviors like hers that make kids go wild or out of control. He's lucky he has you and his dad to turn to when things are too much for him to handle. I raised 6 sons, I know boys all to well, and have a soft spot for them.

WOW, 6 boys:eek:?! I'd probably be in the nut house by now if i had two more boys to worry about:laugh: You're a strong woman!!!!!!:thumbup:

It's just sucky that she's the way she is. It's been real hard on them, so they get cut a lot of slack here. They're good boys, for the most part, too, despite her bad example:laugh:

I don't think your being a bitch at all. I'm sure the kid would've understood. I remember when I was living at home, if sister was sick my mom would make me go stay at a friends house (when I get sick, I usually end up in the hospital so she wanted to avoid that). I never took it personally, I don't think anyone really would take it personally though.