I'm So Upset!!!! =[
 

OMG the I've had the worse day ever 2day!!! This might be a little long but I really need 2 vent, sorry.

Well 2day I was home all day because I was feeling sick. So my "best friend" calls me and told me that she planned on sleeping over her friends house for the weekend. Then she goes on to tell me that she wants 2 come 2 my house first and get picked up from here because she lives far and doesn't want him to go that far. So I'm assuming who the guy is and didn't bother 2 ask. So she gets to my house and right when she walks in she gets on the phone and tells the person on the other line "i'm here". And that kind of upset me because I felt like she was using me. But w/e I got over it. So then we're in my room for like 10 minutes and she gets on the phone again and was like "um are you on ur way yet?" And I felt like she was dying 2 get away from me! And since I got pregnant she stopped coming around as much. Well her ride gets here and I walk her to the door and come to find out it's my babies' father picking her up!!! So my "best friend" is spending the weekend over my babies' fathers house! OMG!!! i thought i was going 2 pass out!! I slammed the door in both of their faces like I've never slammed a door before. I have never felt so hurt in my life. And it's like when did they have the time to start talking? Me and her have been best friends for 4 yrs, and this is what was really going on? And I'm the one having his kids, and he wont even pick me up for a day and take me to eat! Yet he has the whole weekend for her!!! OMG i'm going crazy over here!! I know I really shouldn't let this stress me out but I cant help it. I cant stop crying!!! How could they do this 2 me?? And in my face!! They have no shame!

goodness i would be soo pissed they both would have heard my words right there.

Oh my gosh! :thumbdown :thumbdown You have every right to be mad. :mad: I'm so sorry this happened to you.

And then it's like she sees what I'm going through with him and she still wants 2 mess with him??? Why would she possibly want anything 2 do with him when he is obviously an a**hole??? Does she want 2 go through what I'm going through?? So he could get her pregnant and then leave her if she doesn't get an abortion??? :mad: :mad: :mad:

omg ~ that is sooo low and pathetic i totally despise people like that! it seems to me like she wanted for you to see her leaving with him and make you feel like crap! :( i'm sorry you had to go through this .. keep your head up <3

OMG they are BOTH disgusting:mad: I am SO sorry:cry: :cry: :cry:

You and your babies are better off without him, and with friends like her, who needs enemies?!! I cannot believe that she would do this to you, the only reason I can think of for her coming to your house and having him pick her up there, would be to make DAMNED sure that you knew about them.

Make sure that you file legal papers for child support if you haven't done so already. I have a feeling he's not going to be forthcoming with any financial help when the time comes:(

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I know you know this but you are better off without both of them in your lives, except for financial support. That is just plain mean of them. You have moved on to a different place on life and will meet more mature acting and kinder people. Try not to let them upset you too much their not worth it. I am sorry this happened to you.

What comes around, goes around!! You dont need a guy or a friend like that hanging around your babies. You dont want your babies end up acting like them.

Make sure you file for child support. Make him at lest help you out financially because I really don't think he is going to be there when you need help changing and feeding them.

I am sorry this happened but at lest you know there true colors.

What a jerk face.... (both of them) that is terrible. She is no friend at all to do that to you. Sounds like you are better off without either of them. I know that doesn't make it easier and you're still hurt and I'm sorry. But when you look into your babies faces when they are born...The whole world will stop and nothing but them will seem to matter. Hang in there.:)

I am so so sorry! :( Try not to let this stress you and the babies out too much. Bigs hugs to you! :love-hug1

Last night at 1:45AM she called me crying!!! She told me that he left her at the orange line and was like "i can't spend the weekend with you, you need 2 go home" And I'm sorry but I couldn't help but laugh. I knew he would do something 2 her! He's an ass! And I just couldn't believe she had the balls 2 call me and complain 2 me about him!! I was in shock! And then she even asked me if she could stay at my house because she had nowhere 2 go!! I said no. That might have been wrong of me but I'm not going 2 let her treat me like that! I can't even look at either one of them anymore!!

Good for you.:thumbup: You don't need friends like that and yes get the a$$ for child support don't let him byffalo you into thinking he will pay himself go down to the ORS office and have them take it out of his pay check thats the best way. Good luck sweety and just remember that you are having a baby and that is more special than anything don't let them ruin it for you.

Doesn't he have to sign the birth certificate or something before I can file for child support?

Jess, You don't need either one of these people in your life, and who is she to throw that in your face let alone your friend calling you crying, HELLO what about you, and what your going through.

I am sooo sorry, please don't let them take you down.

I don't think so, you may have to have a peternity test, so you have a case with that. My kids dad's never signed a birth certificate

If you can get him to sign it thats great but if not then go after him any way also the state can do a paternity test and if it is his by the test he has to pay the $500.00 for the test as well. I would get him to sign it if you can it would make things a lot easier but go talk to you ORS office and tell them the situation

This is an email he sent me this morning:

man boo.....im sorry.....i kno i hurt u but i didnt mean to im just so confused right now and dont kno what im doing with my life....r u mad?? i hope not.....tell me what ur feeling babe......

This is what I replied:
No. I have no reason to be mad at you. You're not important enough for me to get mad over or to stress my babies out over. Its just funny to me that all these girls are in love with you and they dont know how much ass you get. It's just funny. That's all im saying. I just hope you dont have aids or something. What I'm feeling? You're a jerk. I hate you. You never wanted a commitment and I was cool with it because I thought we had something. Now I see why. And now I'm pregnant and alone. How could I let it go this far? It's cool though, I don't need you around. I'm better off without you. You said we'd talk if we had problems about anything...? And now your interest is obviously not here. But now that I seen it with my own eyes, I can move on. I don't want to argue with you anymore. I'm not going 2 keep hoping that one day you'll care for me the way I care about you. I was always just a game to you. You hurt me and now I'm done. The next time you'll hear anything from me is when child support calls you. Bye.

Go girl!!! You are such a strong person, and I am sure you will be an excellent mother. Your best revenge would be to be as happy as you can be.

You go girl!!!! It is all a game to them i went through this crap with my hubby we are that rare case that actually makes it after all this crap. we were friends with benifits and then i fell for him and got preggo at 18 we fought all the time because he didn't want to be tied down he would go out with other girls and call me when he was drunk telling me he loved me and the next day it was like it never happened i cried alot because i felt abandoned. it was really hard but about 3 years after i had my baby he pulled his head out of his butt and reliezed what he had missed and we got back together and got married. Now this isn't the norm because the man usually doesn't get it ever but you do what's best for the baby.

YAY! WAY TO GO, Jessica!!!!! The best line is the last one......."the next time you'll hear from me is when child support calls." YOU GO GIRL!!!!!!!!!! :D :D :D

OMG that sounds just like me and him.

lol thanks :)

Yeah it's the typical baby boy syndrome that these retarted me go through i think a lot of it stems from their MOTHERS!!!!!!! Atleast that was a big factor with my hubby

Jessica you did the right thing...I am so proud of you, you don't need that kind of crap in your life...When you have the babies they will ask who the father is and you can put his name on it, and then go after child support, but if you never want anything to do with him ever, don't put his name on the birth cert. cause he sounds like the kind of man that will not want any part....Hang in there girl...your doing great....big hugs....:)

OMG how terrible :mad:
You don't need ANYONE like that in your life. Keep doing what your doing and be strong girl, it'll all get better

Good for you!!! You are a very strong mature sounding person. It is so good to see you putting the babies first!!

Aw sweety, I'm SO sorry this guy is being a jerk. It's hard enough when men are jerks and you're not preggers. You stay strong. Your girl sounds like a real swat. It's unreal she was planning on spending the weekend with him and then calls you cause she got hurt by him. Maybe, just maybe she can feel a fraction of what you are feeling. I'm so sad for you that this guy is being so horrible to you. I'm proud of you for being so bold and telling him what a jerk he is. Now, just go put your feet up and relax for your health and your babies health. Good luck.

I'm sorry that you were hurt! Kicking both of them out of your life is the best thing to do! In the end you will be better off!

What jerk's!!!Ain't it funny that you can be friend's with someone for so long and you think you really know them and they sh%t all over you.Keep your head up.Its better to get her out of your life sooner then latter.I got pregnant with my daughter when i was 19 and i had lot's of friend's,by the time i delivered her i did not have a single friend left.Hope everything work's out for you and don't let the dumb people stress you out,it's not worth it!

Girl, you sound like you are WAAAAAAAAAY too good for him!
Be strong and take care of yourself and your two little ones!
Hugs!