Originally Posted by hunniebunnie I'm taking a 10 minute break from work to throw in my two cents on this subject and then I'm done. Since I'm only giving it 10 minutes. I'll apologize in advance for the straight forward bluntness. I don't have time to make it sound better with sugar-coating.
Kristy, I'm sorry but your posts following the questions posed to you about this entire situtation makes it seem like you're grateful for the help you've received, but also rude and spiteful torwards any questions or skepticism.
YT members are very giving. I have often seen that first hand. Even to people who are not asking for financial help. You may not have started posting your troubles, expecting a handout. But historical patterns of giving on YT must have given you some idea that you'll get some help even if you don't ask for it outright and directly. It is the loving nature of the many YT members. They are always there to help out another in the event of an emergency.
But having a crisis once in a blue moon, is an "emergency". Having a crisis every few months turns it into a problem, a pattern of neglect or irresponsibility. You have exhausted your network of personal family and friends able to help bail you out of situtations. You've come onto YT more than once and more than once YT members have helped you out financially. To me, it's starting to sound like a pattern, not a one time "emergency". I'm sorry if patterns results in skepticism on my part, but it does.
And really, you should get your priorities straight. That means rent before christmas presents, a steady job before what to do for nye or hubby's bday. Your energies right now should be put towards finding yourself a steady paying J-O-B. As I said in my post, 2 full time jobs paying minimum wage would cover your housepayments, insurance, taxes, food for the kids, and then some. Instead of spending time on YT, figuring out what to do for your husband's birthday, your priorities should be on finding employment with a steady income so that you can meet your financial obligations. You're an adult and a mother. You should start acting like one rather than a teenager who spitefully responds with a "FINE! be that way!" and attitude to match.
My parents were blue collar workers who raised 3 children with 2 full time jobs and 3 part time jobs between the both of them. I never knew a human being can work that much. I didn't know what day my parents birthdays were until I was nearly in jr high because they never celebrated it. They prioritized dinner on the table over a cake for themselves. I later found out they gave each other a card for their birthdays and the birthday person got to sleep in on their birthday weekend while the other took the kids out solo. That was their gift to each other. I'm not saying that's how you should prioritize. But I'm just illustrating how some people, like my parents have. And I love them for their sacrifices and self reliance.
I'm all for "Paying It Forward" but I don't want to wind up like "Matchstick Men" either. Personally, I work hard for my money. I give to causes to make myself feel good about making a postive impact on society, but I prefer to give to individuals who are truly victims of unforseen circumstances and not victims of their own irresponsibility.
Okay, so it took a little more than 10 mins. Admin is free to edit or delete my 2 cents as it is deemed appropriate. I just wanted to voice this opinion for myself, even if no one else cares for it.
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