Problem With A Friend

[JeanieK]

Originally Posted by Potter

i think..just me opinion...if she had been a good friend for the past few years, you might want to keep a friend..give her the benefit of the doubt..she might really be having a hard time financially and is too embarrased to ask. hope everything works out at the end.

If she were having a hard time, she shouldn't be ordering plants, she should have given the discount to her friend and said her you use this because I just can't afford to be buying plants right now.

Instead she said here let me order the plants for you using my discount and then you can pay me full price for them.

[FlDebra]

I would not care how down and out I was I would not do that to a friend, or even an acquaintence. In fact, if I was that down and out, I don't think I would be ordering roses. But... I would just tell her, look the discount was given on the whole order. but if you would like to charge me more than the company did for my part of the order, fine -- it is not worth it to me to argue with a friend over it. But, that would leave a serious dent in the friendship.

[sharong]

I would hate to see anyone end a long term friendship over anything like this but it is rather petty. I can't imagine doing that to any one of my friends; I would take the loss first. I don't think I would want to lose a friend over this but I would want to pay my own way on everything from now on.

Don't most good friends share just about everything with one another??

[jenbermu]

Originally Posted by JeanieK

So let me make sure I understand this, she wants to have 20% off of her share and you have nothing off of yours? Were all the items included in the 10% discount?

If so then she is trying to make a profit off of you by taking the discount on both her plants and your plants for herself. Because if you hadn't ordered with her, then she would only have gotten a discount on hers

I can't see why a friend would do that. and personally I wouldn't consider her not to be much of a friend. Sorry if that sounds harsh, but she really is asking a lot by expecting you to pay her full price for something that she received a discount on.

I totally agree...Why would a so call friend put there friendship in the
line over 10% or even think that its ok to ask you to pay her what
the company took out of both of your purchase...If she had a money
problem what would 10% help her in???

[my2boyz]

Do you think it's fair that I should pay her for what I would save with the discount?

Absolutely not and a 'true' good friend wouldn't ask you to do such a thing.

[karen171]

Originally Posted by JeanieK

So let me make sure I understand this, she wants to have 20% off of her share and you have nothing off of yours? Were all the items included in the 10% discount?

If so then she is trying to make a profit off of you by taking the discount on both her plants and your plants for herself. Because if you hadn't ordered with her, then she would only have gotten a discount on hers

I can't see why a friend would do that. and personally I wouldn't consider her not to be much of a friend. Sorry if that sounds harsh, but she really is asking a lot by expecting you to pay her full price for something that she received a discount on.

Yes, it was 10% off a $140 order for 4 antique rose plants each, so it would amount to only a savings of $7 for each of us. A pretty high price for a friendship. Everything is all right now. We both apologized and now she insists we both share in the discount. I told her I was so upset that I asked my friends at YT and that I agreed with you all..it wasn't worth the price of a friendship. She also agreed it wasn't worth it. I was just so surprised since we've always shared things...we're as close as sisters. Anyway, thank you all for you're excellent thoughts and advice. I haven't been able to post much lately because of computer problems but I know I can always rely on you all for help with a problem.

Karen

[doortego]

I'm so happy you worked it out between yourselves. Sometimes we just aren't thinking clearly. Will you still enjoy the roses??

[Breeze]

Originally Posted by yorkieusa

There are no friends where $ are concerned.

Or family as I've found out

[karen171]

Originally Posted by doortego

I'm so happy you worked it out between yourselves. Sometimes we just aren't thinking clearly. Will you still enjoy the roses??

Thanks, Doortego. Yes, we'll still enjoy the roses. We're kind of rosaholics...always wanting to collect more.

[Rae Rae]

Originally Posted by karen171

Yes, it was 10% off a $140 order for 4 antique rose plants each, so it would amount to only a savings of $7 for each of us. A pretty high price for a friendship. Everything is all right now. We both apologized and now she insists we both share in the discount. I told her I was so upset that I asked my friends at YT and that I agreed with you all..it wasn't worth the price of a friendship. She also agreed it wasn't worth it. I was just so surprised since we've always shared things...we're as close as sisters. Anyway, thank you all for you're excellent thoughts and advice. I haven't been able to post much lately because of computer problems but I know I can always rely on you all for help with a problem.

Karen

Now you definitly know she's a good friend if you guys can talk it out like that Maybe she was just having a bad day or something. I'm glad you guys made up!

[doortego]

Originally Posted by karen171

Thanks, Doortego. Yes, we'll still enjoy the roses. We're kind of rosaholics...always wanting to collect more.

I've kind of got that disease myself. I try to go to the Antique Rose Emporiium in Brenham at least once a year. If you haven't been there, ya'll need to take a road trip in the spring.