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hurt I had surgury on my wrist on Tuesday and my husband didn't even come home for it. I have to go back to the doctor today to get the bandages changed. I called my husband and he said he'd be home tonight but wasn't coming home to take me to the doctor. I am very hurt by his decision to work in this time of need. We have enough money to get by so it isn't like he needs to work for the money. I am trying to take care of 4 kids and the pain is so unbearable. I do have pain meds but I can't take them while the kids are up and about because they totally knock me out. I'm just really sad and depressed right now. Thanks for letting me voice it on here. |
I am so sorry. Sounds like to me you need to put him in his place!!! :mad: :mad: |
oh man - you can't drive with your wrist just operated on !! Doesn't he realize that ??? I had mine operated on about 6 years ago and it was really hard to drive.... Poor thing - I hope your husband realises that you NEED him right now - any surgery is risky - how would he have felt if something went wrong and he wasn't there ? Can you get a babysitter to help you for a few days ? |
aww you poor thing,,sorry your hurt sweetie,, looks like your hubby needs a swift kick in the ass.....i hope you feel better soon. |
All 4 of the kids are mine and my husband has never had kids before. He doesn't understand what it takes to deal with them everyday day in and day out. When I called and told him about the surgury he just said that I'd be fine because he wasn't raising those kids by himself. I told him he wouldn't have to my ex-husbands would come and get them. My sister was kind enough to take me to the hospital and pick me up from the hospital when I had the surgury but she has 5 kids and with my 4 that makes 9 and they are all out of school the rest of the week. She can't take me to the docotor since she doesn't have a vehicle with enough seat belts for everyone. I am going to attempt to drive today. I haven't taken any of the pain meds so I think I should be ok. |
:mad: Your husband is supposed to be there for you in your times of need. does he remember those vows he took at all? to be there "in sickness and in health" well now you are in a time of need that would be conisdered within those vows. I'd give him one good swift reality check. I'm sorry |
Is he out of town? |
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oh kitty...can you take a cab and get your sister to watch the kids ? I think you probably COULD drive (cause I would in a pinch too) ....but I would say don't do it ...it's too soon... You sure have your hands full - it's great your husband took on 4 of someone elses kids - but man - he can't just watch them for a few days to take all this pressure off you ?? That's sad for you - if I lived close by.... you can bet I'd be happy to drive you.....I'm the Taxi service for my whole family :) |
I'm so sorry you are not feeling well. Its sucks that your hubby is not there. Even though these are not his kids he should be able to help you out with them. He needs to understand that when he married you you weren't alone. I have 2 boys from a previous relationship and my fiancee now treats them like their his. He does everything with them. I was in a relationship before and this person gave me the impression that he wanted to be with me and not the kids....that was the last time I saw him. My kids are always going to be here...men can come and go. JMO - If no one can treat my kids like they treat me than they do not need to be in my life. I'm sorry to sound harsh but it is what it is. Please don't take this the wrong way and I hope you start feeling better soon. |
Yes, I understand about being a taxi service. lol I am running mom's taxi service. My oldest 2 boys have scouts, football, basketball, baseball in the summer. My youngest son has arts/crafts classes and my daughter has ballet, tap, arts/crafts, t-ball in the summer. Not to mention all their friends and school carnival (which was Tuesday night and we walked to since I couldn't drive.) The town I live in doesn't have a taxi service so I don't think that would work. |
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If you were closer id take ya to the dr and than take care of your kids!!!!:) :) |
I am so sorry your going through this. Men sometimes they just dont think. I think you should take a cab also to be on the safe side. Do you have anyone else that could help you with the kids? If I was there I would be right over to help you out. |
The only family I have near me is my sister. I don't have any friends since I've moved here. My sister would help me out but she has 5 kids of her own out of school and so 9 is a little much and she's trying to pack to move. There aren't any taxi here in this town. Thank you all for the kind words and offerings to help. I really appreciate all of you. |
i totally understand! i was so sick mon i couldn't stay up hardly and when i was well i'll spare the drtails but i was really sick felt like i had been poisoned or something! anyways i asked him to stay her and watch our little girl cause i was sick she's 3 needless to say he just blew me off so i did the best i could all day till he got home at 3 then i just went to bed it really hurts my feeling that he wasn't there for me! then yesterday i had to go have my porcelin crown that broke in half basically pryed off my back tooth it's sore and so on but he doesn't even ask how i am or anything he just starts arguing with me! wtf! if i had enough $$$ i would so live on my own and never associate with him sometimes! they just don't get it or just don't care it makes me so mad!!!!! my family's 2 hours away and i have no friends here ..just makes me realize how alone i really am in times of need! |
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Sorry to hear that you are going through. Hope all gets better. |
I'm so sorry you have to deal with this when you obviously need help at home, comforting and a big hug. Some men just don't get it!:mad: I hope you start feeling better and stronger soon. Take care, sweetie. |
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HUGS to you both - and I know how you feel - My husband is sick so I can't be ....but there's many days I feel alone too. I have friends... but they just don't want to hear about things, so I don't talk about them - Our ideas of friendship seem to differ .... There are times I just want to take off ...but the girls keep me centered. |
Bummer... i'm sorry. Make sure to let him know though in a nice way how you are feeling and that you would really appreciate his support and help. I'm betting if he has no clue about the kids and what it takes he has no clue how you are feeling and won't unless you tell him. I hope things get better for you. |
Well, bless your heart...I am sending good thoughts your way. I have 6 children so I know how hard it is to raise a bunch, even when you feel well. May I make one suggestion...If there is some way (this time or the next) that you can get your Doctor to tell your husband directly that you CANNOT do such and such and that you MUST have help for so many days or stay in bed for this long, it might help. Men often listen to Doctors when thry won't listen to anyone else. Husbands sometimes don't want to admit thier wife is seriously ill or injured...they sometimes just don't know how to deal with it all and so they hide (at work or somewhere else) rather than facing something that scares them or makes them uncomfortable, like pain and sickness. |
I'm sorry you gotta go through this. He needs to be there for you. |
I'm really sorry you are going thru this, HE NEEDS TO BE THERE WITH YOU. I'm not going to say what I thinking.but he needs a good kick in the butt. |
Sorry you are having a rough time! Men just don't seem to get it sometimes! I would gladly help if we were closer. Hope your week gets better. |
Well, I'm back from the doctor and now on an anti biotic since the incision is infected. :( Hubby is going to be home some time tonight but is leaving tomorrow for Gaurd. I go next week to get the stiches removed and a follow up with my regular doctor for my blood pressure which has been high for a while now. I will probably start blood pressure meds next week.:( I was just wondering when I got old and started falling apart. lol My 7 yr old told me I was really really old so I should start going to the doctor alot now. |
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I think you should have the exhusbands come get the kids and give yourself a chance to heal and pamper yourself a little bit.:) |
sorry kitty. hope things get better for you soon. |
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My ex-husbands haven't even talked or seen their kids in over 3yrs. I seriously doubt they would take them for the weekend. |
im so sorry you do not have anyone to help you i hope you get well soon if you lived near me id tell you to drop them off at my place i have 2 kids ages 2 and 9 mo id watch them and feed them we are having bbq chicken and fries and veggies any way i dont drive cause i only have a permit so but i would have watched your kids its to bad there are not more people out there to help others :( |
awwww I would be hurt as well! I think your husband should be by your side in time of need. Have you talked to him and expressed to him how you feel? I will say, when I was sick with the flu 2 weeks ago my husband was very good to me. I hope you get to feeling better. |
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