Men can be such jerks. Please be careful... You dont want to do too much and make it worse. How about when he comes home you break his wrist then he will know how you feel. LOL LOL just jokin... I hope he come to the realization that you need him. Have you told him how you are hurt by his actions and how are you to take care of 4 kids when you are in pain???

Yes, I've told him how I feel. He told me to suck it up. He told me if I couldn't handle having 4 kids then to give them away. :( :confused: I don't know why he is being so mean to me. He is coming home tonight and then leaving for gaurd tomorrow evening. He told me it's not his responsibility to take care of the kids, he didn't make them. He also said that when he gets home the house better be clean or the kids are gonna get in trouble. (Not the kids responsibility.) He also said he needs his hair cut. (I usually cut his hair before gaurd drill.) I will not be cutting his hair this time. He seems to think that I had minor surgery (which I did) and that I should be healed by now. I guess that it is good that my mother raised me to be independent. My kids have been great (other than they seem to think that I'm a push over right now). My daughter (she's 6) helped me take a bath last night and my oldest son (he's 11) helped bandage my wrist back up. My other 2 sons (10 and 7 yrs) have been bringing me the phone, the paper, doing the dishes and other minor chores. Of course the ones who are suffering the most is the dogs and birds. I'm not able to deal with them. The birds try to tear my bandages off and the dogs are just not still enough and bump my wrist to much. It is good the kids have been holding the birds and playing with the dogs more right now.

Are you serious!!:eek: I don't mean to be rude, I know you don't know me and I don't know, but what a butthole. I think I'd kick his hole to the curb and tell him suck it up and pack it up. Good riddance. Good grief, that's just absurd.

Oh uh uh..you are living my life girl. Run while you can, there is always a way. My ex resented my children and even had the guts to tell me so. I went what you are going thru with my hysterectomy years ago. Run like the wind, I wanted my kids childhood to be remembered with a happy home. I loaded all three kids in my van along with all three labs and drove off leaving him sitting on the front porch of that big ol' house saying "You aren't going to leave this checkbook!" Watch this mother f!!!!! As we hit the highway back to Texas we simultaneously screeched with joy. Aw, it was great! Life has been a lot slimmer since but my children had a happy life...all worth it.;) I will pray for you. Please take care of yourself, your are worth much more than this.

Did I really just type all that out loud? Oh my.:p