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ytsirk27 · 10-06-2006, 05:48 AM

My husbands cousin works on a pipline in Oklahoma. He said that he could get Jeff on probably as a welder or a welder inspector and the pay is 2000.00 a week.= 8,000 monthly....NOW my husband and I are very family oriented and love being around one another but you gotta admit that amount of money would be awesome. I am thinking "hey, we could pay off quite a bit of stuff with this amount of money." I would just go with him but we have our house were buying and Cheyanne is in school....I mean its only a bout a 4.5 hr drive.....What would you all do...would you urge him to go or stay here and struggle like we do!!

TatumsMom · 10-06-2006, 05:59 AM

Oh, that's a tough one! BUT in the financial situation that we're in at the moment, I would probably shove my husband out the door with a big kiss!

How often would he be home? My husband, years ago before we had kids, worked for Schlumberger (oil well testing). He was "on 6 days, off 3". The schedule was weird because occasionally he was actually gone for up to 6 days. Other times he just worked during the day during those "on" times and was on call during the night. The money was good (for us back in those times) and since we didn't have kids yet, it was no big deal.

Like I said, that's a tough decision but financially, it would put a huge dent in those bills. Would it be easy enough for him to return to his old job after a while or find a new one closer? Maybe you could set a time limit on it and everyone just buckle down and "sacrifice"??

Good luck!!

ytsirk27 · 10-06-2006, 06:03 AM

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Originally Posted by TatumsMom

Oh, that's a tough one! BUT in the financial situation that we're in at the moment, I would probably shove my husband out the door with a big kiss!

How often would he be home? My husband, years ago before we had kids, worked for Schlumberger (oil well testing). He was "on 6 days, off 3". The schedule was weird because occasionally he was actually gone for up to 6 days. Other times he just worked during the day during those "on" times and was on call during the night. The money was good (for us back in those times) and since we didn't have kids yet, it was no big deal.

Like I said, that's a tough decision but financially, it would put a huge dent in those bills. Would it be easy enough for him to return to his old job after a while or find a new one closer? Maybe you could set a time limit on it and everyone just buckle down and "sacrifice"??

Good luck!!

Hes a self employed welder....i got to thinking even at 1500 a week,,,thats 6000 monthly...in 3 months he would make 18,000.00. We could pay off a TON of stuff.....I dont know Im going to try to push alittle. IHes just very very very close to the family and cant stand to be away for like 2 days let alone 5 days a week. He could come home on the weekends or we can go up there....its only about 4-4.5 hours away. Its not like its in Montana..if that was the case id say no but this is soo close....I dont know.. Im tired of struggling and I see the big picture.....My husband is always talking about men that go on the road usually get divorced because their wives get tired of it...I wont divorce him...i see the good around this all. He knows I dont wantr him to do this because Im trying to get rid of him or i dont want to work...I told him Ill do exactly what im doing now.. I make enough to easily pay the house payment and utlities and stuff like that..your money would be paying everything else off and maybe paying this 365.00 a month truck payment all the way off and than wed just have out house and the few utlitly bills and stuff we have. I would quit getting calls from the damn creditors......I SOOO SEE IT....Why does he have to be so stubborn...lol

JeanieK · 10-06-2006, 06:13 AM

How long will the job last?

Never sacrifice happiness for money. Money is a poor substtitute for the warmth and comfort of frineds and family.

I'd rather be poor doing something I loved, than rich doing something I hated. But that's probably just me. I seem to be in the minority when ever this discussion comes up.

I'd also rather work 80 hoursdoing something I loved than 40 hours doing something I hated.

ytsirk27 · 10-06-2006, 06:30 AM

OHno..hell like whats hes doing...hes a welder......he works at home but we dont have the money for him to really get his stuff off the ground. He would either be a welder or a welder inspector....on this job. We have never thought about money this way, seriously. BUT we have alot of debt and alot of things can be paid off. if he works 3 months hell make 18,000.00..that will pay off all our stuff except the house of course and we can sock money away. I dont want him to leave anymore than the next person but to be honest. Im tired of struggling ALL the time and Christmas is coming up...3 months out of your life if its doing the best for your family is not a horrible thing. It's going to be hard but if he wants to get his stuff off the ground in his shop and the creditors to quit calling were going to have to do something..... I hope that didnt sound rude,.;..it wasnt meant to be at all.. Were not materialistic..I can barely bring myself to buy a pair of jeans for myself. I am looking at just getting this god forsaken debt paid offf......thats all...

JeanieK · 10-06-2006, 06:34 AM

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OHno..hell like whats hes doing...hes a welder......he works at home but we dont have the money for him to really get his stuff off the ground. He would either be a welder or a welder inspector....on this job. We have never thought about money this way, seriously. BUT we have alot of debt and alot of things can be paid off. if he works 3 months hell make 18,000.00..that will pay off all our stuff except the house of course and we can sock money away. I dont want him to leave anymore than the next person but to be honest. Im tired of struggling ALL the time and Christmas is coming up...3 months out of your life if its doing the best for your family is not a horrible thing. It's going to be hard but if he wants to get his stuff off the ground in his shop and the creditors to quit calling were going to have to do something..... I hope that didnt sound rude,.;..it wasnt meant to be at all.. Were not materialistic..I can barely bring myself to buy a pair of jeans for myself. I am looking at just getting this god forsaken debt paid offf......thats all...

I totally understand, I've been there. Most of the others probably have too.

When I said doing something I hate, I meant the whole big picture, location, co workers, family etc.

RowdysMom · 10-06-2006, 06:51 AM

I certainly would go for it - it's not like you are making a permanent life change, you are just doing something temporarily to help your financial situation. Some people have to do things like that just to have a job, and they do it on a permanent basis, so in that respect you are lucky that he can do it for a period of time and then going back to his self employment. I think it is a win win situation. Many years ago, my husband had to relocate 3 months before my daughter and I joined him. It was about 6 hours away. We managed to see each other every other week or so and it was just fine. In fact, those "reunions" were pretty special

ytsirk27 · 10-06-2006, 07:01 AM

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Originally Posted by RowdysMom

I certainly would go for it - it's not like you are making a permanent life change, you are just doing something temporarily to help your financial situation. Some people have to do things like that just to have a job, and they do it on a permanent basis, so in that respect you are lucky that he can do it for a period of time and then going back to his self employment. I think it is a win win situation. Many years ago, my husband had to relocate 3 months before my daughter and I joined him. It was about 6 hours away. We managed to see each other every other week or so and it was just fine. In fact, those "reunions" were pretty special

Thats what I thought to.....its only about 4 hrs away.. HEs a VERY DEVOTED husband and dad... He gets worried when I go to CHanute (20 miles away) and im just alone with the girls......I see his point but the outcome of this situation is fabulous! I was starting to think Maybe I was being selfish!

magnolia · 10-06-2006, 07:07 AM

I would say go for it! It's an opportunity, as you said, to pay off some things. He could work only as long as it took to pay bills off AND put some in savings so when he does return to his own job, he's got "start-up" money to get things he would need to help his job (equipment, advertising, etc.). I totally understand the loyalty to family though. Best of luck to you both as you make this decision together.

kitty · 10-06-2006, 08:31 AM

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My husbands cousin works on a pipline in Oklahoma. He said that he could get Jeff on probably as a welder or a welder inspector and the pay is 2000.00 a week.= 8,000 monthly....NOW my husband and I are very family oriented and love being around one another but you gotta admit that amount of money would be awesome. I am thinking "hey, we could pay off quite a bit of stuff with this amount of money." I would just go with him but we have our house were buying and Cheyanne is in school....I mean its only a bout a 4.5 hr drive.....What would you all do...would you urge him to go or stay here and struggle like we do!!

My husband and I just went through something very simialr to this situation. My husband has decided to take a job in Texas making alot more money then he was making. I don't want to move since we are buying this house and haven't sold our other house yet. My 4 kids are in school and in extra activities. My husband left yesterday morning for Texas. I haven't heard from him yet either. I don't know when we will see each other again. It was the best decision he's made in a long time. His old job was wearing on him and this new job will be better for his health. It is going to be hard on us as a family but in the long run I think this is for the better. Good luck in your decision.

ytsirk27 · 10-06-2006, 08:52 AM

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My husband and I just went through something very simialr to this situation. My husband has decided to take a job in Texas making alot more money then he was making. I don't want to move since we are buying this house and haven't sold our other house yet. My 4 kids are in school and in extra activities. My husband left yesterday morning for Texas. I haven't heard from him yet either. I don't know when we will see each other again. It was the best decision he's made in a long time. His old job was wearing on him and this new job will be better for his health. It is going to be hard on us as a family but in the long run I think this is for the better. Good luck in your decision.

It wont be for along time...maybe 3 or 4 months just to baebale to pay off some bills and sock away money. I really really hope hell really think about it. He was thinking about it last night becasue he kept bringing it up! The good thing is IF I wanted to go there with him than im only about 4 hrs away from here...I can still pay for the house and such but it would just be alot easier for him to go and than us see eachother on the weekends and what not. Where are you at in Oklahoma again? Hed be working in stewart.

kitty · 10-06-2006, 08:55 AM

I'm about 2hrs west of OKC in Cordell
I don't know where Stewart is.....I'm from Kansas.

Rockster's Mom · 10-06-2006, 08:59 AM

I am firm believe you have do want to gotta do to support you family even if it means working out of town. My husband works out of town 2-3 weeks at a time, but he loves his job and the money is great. I don't like it when he leaves, but we love our daughter and she has alot of extra things she likes to do, our dog and cat, and our home. Not to mention the bill collects are not calling as much as they use to. Good luck making your desicion. I know what you decide will be what is best for you and your family.

10-06-2006, 05:48 AM	#1
ytsirk27 BANNED FOR SCAMMING MEMBERS! Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Kansas Posts: 2,811	What would you guys do..... My husbands cousin works on a pipline in Oklahoma. He said that he could get Jeff on probably as a welder or a welder inspector and the pay is 2000.00 a week.= 8,000 monthly....NOW my husband and I are very family oriented and love being around one another but you gotta admit that amount of money would be awesome. I am thinking "hey, we could pay off quite a bit of stuff with this amount of money." I would just go with him but we have our house were buying and Cheyanne is in school....I mean its only a bout a 4.5 hr drive.....What would you all do...would you urge him to go or stay here and struggle like we do!!

10-06-2006, 05:59 AM	#2
TatumsMom Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: TX Posts: 2,799	Oh, that's a tough one! BUT in the financial situation that we're in at the moment, I would probably shove my husband out the door with a big kiss! How often would he be home? My husband, years ago before we had kids, worked for Schlumberger (oil well testing). He was "on 6 days, off 3". The schedule was weird because occasionally he was actually gone for up to 6 days. Other times he just worked during the day during those "on" times and was on call during the night. The money was good (for us back in those times) and since we didn't have kids yet, it was no big deal. Like I said, that's a tough decision but financially, it would put a huge dent in those bills. Would it be easy enough for him to return to his old job after a while or find a new one closer? Maybe you could set a time limit on it and everyone just buckle down and "sacrifice"?? Good luck!! __________________ ~ Angie

10-06-2006, 06:51 AM	#7
RowdysMom Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: Central Texas Posts: 2,624	I certainly would go for it - it's not like you are making a permanent life change, you are just doing something temporarily to help your financial situation. Some people have to do things like that just to have a job, and they do it on a permanent basis, so in that respect you are lucky that he can do it for a period of time and then going back to his self employment. I think it is a win win situation. Many years ago, my husband had to relocate 3 months before my daughter and I joined him. It was about 6 hours away. We managed to see each other every other week or so and it was just fine. In fact, those "reunions" were pretty special __________________ Rex & Rowdy's Mom

10-06-2006, 07:07 AM	#9
magnolia YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Mississippi Posts: 1,459	I would say go for it! It's an opportunity, as you said, to pay off some things. He could work only as long as it took to pay bills off AND put some in savings so when he does return to his own job, he's got "start-up" money to get things he would need to help his job (equipment, advertising, etc.). I totally understand the loyalty to family though. Best of luck to you both as you make this decision together. __________________ Suzi - mom to Gabby and Gage For Mickey

10-06-2006, 08:55 AM	#12
kitty My Best Friend Donating Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: oklahoma Posts: 2,258	I'm about 2hrs west of OKC in Cordell I don't know where Stewart is.....I'm from Kansas. __________________ Support our Troops :

10-06-2006, 06:13 AM	#4
JeanieK Donating YT 12K Club Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Council Bluffs Iowa Posts: 12,552	How long will the job last? Never sacrifice happiness for money. Money is a poor substtitute for the warmth and comfort of frineds and family. I'd rather be poor doing something I loved, than rich doing something I hated. But that's probably just me. I seem to be in the minority when ever this discussion comes up. I'd also rather work 80 hoursdoing something I loved than 40 hours doing something I hated.

10-06-2006, 06:30 AM	#5
ytsirk27 BANNED FOR SCAMMING MEMBERS! Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Kansas Posts: 2,811	OHno..hell like whats hes doing...hes a welder......he works at home but we dont have the money for him to really get his stuff off the ground. He would either be a welder or a welder inspector....on this job. We have never thought about money this way, seriously. BUT we have alot of debt and alot of things can be paid off. if he works 3 months hell make 18,000.00..that will pay off all our stuff except the house of course and we can sock money away. I dont want him to leave anymore than the next person but to be honest. Im tired of struggling ALL the time and Christmas is coming up...3 months out of your life if its doing the best for your family is not a horrible thing. It's going to be hard but if he wants to get his stuff off the ground in his shop and the creditors to quit calling were going to have to do something..... I hope that didnt sound rude,.;..it wasnt meant to be at all.. Were not materialistic..I can barely bring myself to buy a pair of jeans for myself. I am looking at just getting this god forsaken debt paid offf......thats all...

10-06-2006, 08:59 AM	#13
Rockster's Mom Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Fort Worth, Texas Posts: 1,279	I am firm believe you have do want to gotta do to support you family even if it means working out of town. My husband works out of town 2-3 weeks at a time, but he loves his job and the money is great. I don't like it when he leaves, but we love our daughter and she has alot of extra things she likes to do, our dog and cat, and our home. Not to mention the bill collects are not calling as much as they use to. Good luck making your desicion. I know what you decide will be what is best for you and your family.