My Friend hurt my feelings!
 

I have a close friend. We have her and her hubby over for dinner at least once a week and they have us over. Well, she always puts up her nice decoration so my 2 year old doesnt break anything. Which makes it a lot easier over there. (She doesnt have any kids)
Well we went over there to eat sloppy joe's. And next thing I know Bryson knocks over this HUGE decorative vase that is sitting on the carpet. I mean, this thing was huge! I guess she never thought of putting that up. It is very heavy.
Well, he knocks it over on the carpet and the long skinny part at the top of the vase break off. My friend put her hands over her face for about five min.
I said I was SO sorry and she wouldnt even look up.
Now this is a really close friend of mine so that hurt my feelings pretty bad. I immediately told her we would pay for it. I kept asking how much it cost and she was very rude and said she didnt remember that she bought it from Kirklands when they built the house about a year ago. Well I had just cashed a Mary Kay check and had cash in the car so I went and got $75 out and gave it to her. She didnt hesitate to take it.
When we left I was so upset becuase I work very hard for that money. And $75 is a lot to me. Atleast it was a lot of money for a Sloppy Joe dinner!!! =)
I dont think we will be going over there until Bryson gets a little older! Well sorry this is so long, I just trhough I would tell you about it!

Oh that is so sad. A vase is not worth the loss of a long term friendship. I hope you are both able to put this behind you.

I'm sorry that happened. If the situation was reversed I know you would not have accpeted the money, I know I wouldn't ,accident's happen. Hopefully when she calms down she will return it then I would probably get her 25.00 Gift certificate to Kirklands as a good will gesture.

Im Sorry That Happened, Im Sure She Was Just A Little Shocked And Upset And She Will Get Over It Very Soon..materials Things Mean Nothing Next To A Good Friend...i Probably Would Have Been Upset For A Minute Too..but I Would Never Lose A Friend Over Something Like That..
I Have A Little One, So I Know How You Feel On That Too..

HMMM.. I don't think it was so bad she had to take a minute to compose herself. I know if even MY OWN child broke something of my oWN I treasured I would have to take a minute and compose myself o keep from screaming.

I also think that if you are mad she took she money ... you shouldn't have offered it. It seems by saying you are upset she took it it means you weren't sincere in offering it to her:confused:

Oh I'm so sorry to hear this. I can understand how you feel but I can also understand your friend, who does not have kids.....like me, I don't have kids and I don't have the patience or understanding for those who do, I mean I do have patience and understanding but nothing close to how it is to be a mom. Gosh, when money comes into the story it really can tear friendships apart, and that is just so sad and heartbreaking. Friends, good ones, are hard to come by and are worth much more than a vase....which doesn't excuse the fact that it was broken but still, what's done is done and material posessions, whatever they may be, are never worth more than a friendship. I hope you guys are able to resolve this when everything calms down.

OMG KRISTI
what kind of friend is that...
idk I don't think that's a very good friend
of course she should be a little upset
but with all the times I've had kids break stuff at my house
I'd never take money,even from someone I barely knew.
that's so rude!

People can be so strange.
It's not like you went over and told him to do it.

(also, if something breaks, the FIRST thing your friend should be concerned about...
the safety of your son... that could've REALLY hurt him)

I was very sincere in offering the money. Maybe you just had to be there. I hope this doesnt turn into a judgemental thread like many others day. Just telling you about a day I had. =)

BTW, we are both totally over it. Something like that wouldnt come between our friendship! =) Just thought I had a little story to tell you guys! =)

Friendships can be a lot like marriages! :rolleyes: Say! I love your avatar!

That's good to hear. I will admit, when stuff happens to me that I can't "handle" at the moment I get upset/pissed/whatever you wanna call it. :p But, people need time to recoup, and then things usually get back to normal. That's what friendships are all about...putting up with each other! LOL :D

I am so glad you guys are friends again:)

Awww...Girl - Stuff can be GLUED back together and maybe you can go on a shopping trip together and find her something with her 75 $ and put it behind you -

Your son is a baby - stuff happens. Friendships don't....they require work and it sounds like your friendship is worth keeping vase or no vase. Glad things are ok....and I love your avatar too ! hehe :)

Your friendship shouldnt be ruined BUT she shouldnt have to move or arrange her stuff because of your child. I have two of my own 3 and 7 and would never expect anybody to move their stuff. The child should know better than to mess with it!! JMHO!

Oh, good!!! I'm so very glad to hear that!

Please don't let this cause a problem in your friendship. Good friends are so hard to find. I suggest that maybe for a while you just have them come over to your house and wait until your son is a little older to go over to hers. Or maybe meet at a restaurant or park for a picnic. Let her know how sorry you are and maybe have your son draw or write a note for her. Just get this put behind you and move on.

Here are my thoughts I don't blame you for being upset by your friends reaction. It was a vase from Kirklands not imported from Thailand. I understand that everything means something to someone, but to me friendship means more than anything. My best friends son is now 8 and has broke things at my house (never intentionally) and I just clean it up and keep moving. In fact I actually just broke one of my wine glasses that I brought back from the Bellagio in Vegas. That meant something to me but whats the use of being upset about it it broke and I told my fiance' we need to go back to Vegas so I can get a new wine glass LOL! Kids can be clumsy bump into things or be curious. Now if your son delberatly gets into things constantly as your friend we would have to talk about that. However this scenario doesn't sound like it and if it were me I would have said oh well now I can get a new vase that I like better, and I would not have accepted your money accidents happen. JMO

I am so happy to hear that both of you have gotten over it. It was jsut an accident, and well sometimes things happen to test our friendships.

I'm sure that you don't let your child run wild through her house, she puts thing up so you can enjoy the visit and not have to worry. The only way to know what a 2 year old is doing at all time is to hold him on your lap at all times, And that would not make for a pleasant visit.

I don't care how old your kids are, or how well behaved they are, occasionally they do the upredictable for only God knows what reason. Kids are kids.

I don't care how old your kids are, or how well behaved they are, occasionally they do the upredictable for only God knows what reason. Kids are kids.[/QUOTE]


My sentiments exactly:thumbup:

Im happy to hear that you guys are okay again.... :thumbup: :D

Glad to hear everything between you two is better now. I would have done exactly what you did. Apologized until my throat was sore and offered what I could. I think you did the right thing. And IMHO, no one can blame a kid for being a kid.

Kids will be kids. With the size and weight of the vase, she didn't think it could be broken but as kids do, they'll prove you wrong whenever they can.

glad that you two worked it out. I'm sure she was just shocked and upset at the time.

Wow I'm really stunned that she took money from you. I have had friends come over with their kids/twins and they've broken stuff but I just laugh it off. I have a 4 year old nephew who has always been clumsy. He's never gotten into anything but he's just a cluts and trips over things. With that said, I'm sure you don't let him run wild in the house but maybe keep a better eye on him. I know it's probably annoying and makes for a unrelaxing visit but it's obvious that she gets very upset over those kinds of things.
Maybe take a playpen for your son to play in while you are there, so you know where he is at all times, and so she doesn't have to rearrange her house for your visit. Just a suggestion. It is hard though when you are the friend with no husband or kids, to be as understanding every time. Sometimes you just have a bad day and the last thing you want is a rambunctious child at your house. Just a different perspective :)

I'm sorry, I never believe people who claim their children never touch anything. This child was a 2 year old. That is what 2 year olds do. When my son was 2 he was the first baby in the familly and I was a nervous wreck everywhere we went to visit because no ones house was baby proofed. To expect a 2 year old to "know better" is insane.

kikipie, I'm glad your friendship is still in tact. Just be glad it wasn't something irreplaceable!

I kind of disagree. I know kids will be kids but discipline starts at a young age. People's stuff shouldn't be victim to anyone's child. I think that when parents teach their kids at a young age what they can and can't do at someone elses house, it prevents more accidents. Kids are more than smart enough by 2 to understand. That is what we did with my nephew anyway. He was allowed to play but he knew what he could and could not go near. As a parent you (not you but general) have to also respect the friends house too, especially if they don't have kids. Just my opinion though, no one has to agree.

well...yes they do touch stuff..My whole point to this is maybe she should be watching him better....my kids no what to touch and not to touch and if they do touch something there not suppose to i correct them. My friend SHOULD NOT have to rearrange her whole house just because i have a kid. Parent s need to take responsibilty for their children instead of saying..oh hes 2..its ok. Its not ok...I run a daycare so i know what alot of parents do./ I have a 17 month old that tried ONCE to pull wallpaper... I said no moved her away and OH MY GOSH..she doesnt mess with it. You have your opinion and I have mine but usually how a child acts is the fault the parent! JMHO

:thumbup: :thumbup: :thumbup: and you dont have kids....hmmm...wierd how some ppl WITHOUT kids see my point! :thumbup:

I completely agree!:D I think sometimes parents are so tired that it's easier to just let the kids do what they want. But the result is sometimes having a kid that thinks its ok to abuse the pets or play with things they shouldn't.

:D :D :thumbup: :thumbup: WOW...did we actually agree on something! haha:D :D

By two my daughter had been taught that she couldnt touch things and we could go to others houses without her touching breakables