Your right she does. Good Eye.

good for you! I did that two years ago and haven't regretted it for a minute. I could sit on my hair and had a ton of it and it was long for about 20 years so it's quite a shock when it goes, but what a good cause. You are very pretty, hair long or short.
Put Nair in his shampoo if he doesn't snap out of it fast.

LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO ! GOOD ONE ....That is sooooooooooo cold ! :D

first off I think it looks very good on you. Locks of love is one of my favorite charities. I have sent in hair myself (still growing it back out now) I have always told people about this in the shops I worked in and a lot of people dont' know about it at least around here. We were sending in about 2 ponytails a month when I left last year and my friends kept it up and have gotten several more that I still need to send in.


I can't believe your husband said that. Not that I'm trying to husband bash but.... I would tell him that I was going to remember what he said to me when he went bald and it wasnt' coming back (depending on how mad/hurt I felt I may have told him that after I put the nair in his hair gel/ conditioner.) I know a lot of guys use the "my dad still has hair and I'm not going to go bald" when you say something t them about going bald but they dont' seen to think that medical treatments and things can do the same thing.

He'll get over or he won't and you can tell him about some poor little 3 or 4 year old girl who has hair now because you SHARED yours. Sounds like bad karma to me. Would he think it was a better idea if it was one of you who needed the wigs or God forbid your child? sometimes people just need to be reminded of how much they really do have and how little a haircut really is (that is little to be mad about butI know it means an awfully lot to the child who will get it)

hopping off my soapbox now.

It looks great Val! My husband is weird about hair as well. He never, ever wants me to cut my hair. I always tell him, "you don't have to wash it, dry it, style it...it's a pain!" He'll get over it!

I LOVE IT!!! You look more professional yet younger and fresher! Very Up-Town Chic! It totally suits you! And I bet you feel so much more confident!

My hair is as long as yours and I wish I could cut it like that. I usually end up in a ponytail or pin it up in a bun cuz it gets in the way or I get too hot so what's the point in having it long? I keep it long for Dan. He adores my long hair ~ sigh ~ the things we do for our love. There's something about men and long hair that I will NEVER understand!

I'm sure your husband was just shocked. Kind of like how we feel when we pick up our babies after the groomer accidently cuts off too much of our kids hair. But we don't love the kids any less. Your husband will get over it too, he loves you too much to stay mad. But he may tease you about it so be prepared!

You look lovely and your friends will think so too.

Here's a reminder of why long hair sucks:

1. It's gets HOT!
2. It get in the way when you sleep
3. Hate it when it get caught between your back & the chair or car seat!
4. It takes FOREVER to dry
5. Ponytails and buns!
6. Get in they way during private time with your husband - very unsexy having to stop to move it out of the way or suffering with your head twisted in unnatural position due to your hair!

[QUOTE=Dan & Corinne]Kind of like how we feel when we pick up our babies after the groomer accidently cuts off too much of our kids hair.[QUOTE]Ha. True that, now I understand a little better, LOL!

And I'm so glad to be relieved from heavy ponytails and buns for a while! Hopefully I won't get as many migraines. My hair is so heavy and thick.

Take him to the cancer ward and show him the look on the little girl's (or boy's) face who gets that gorgeous hair.

I think you look stunning.

I love the new hair cut! You look great! I have long hair too and I've been thinking about cutting mine because it is getting soooo horribly hot out.

I think you look JUST LIKE Claire Daines when she was 18 and on MTV. I thought she was so pretty and I wanted to have hair just like that. But it wouldn't look right with my dark complexion. It looks so cute on you!

I LOVE the new look! And I agree 100% with everyone else....what an absolute great cause and reason behind the cut. Your unselfish act will now bring joy into the life of some lucky girl or boy. Don't doubt your decision and don't let anyone else cause you to doubt it either.

As for your hubby, I don't know what to say except I've been there before, but not as bad as what he's putting you through. My hubby didn't like my hair the first time (several years ago) I cut it short (or at least short for me). He whined and whined about how he liked the longer hair, wished I hadn't cut it, on and on and on!!! I finally told him that I liked it, it was easier on me, and besides, last time I checked, HE wasn't the one dealing with my hair each day - shampooing, drying, brushing, etc. I told him if he liked long hair, grow his out or get a wig to wear - then he'd see! Now he just rolls with the flow when I get a "wild hair" and cut my hair in a different style. Friends will ask what he thinks and his response now is, "It's her hair, if she likes it, I like it and besides, as she tells me, I'm not the one dealing with it." Best of luck to you with hubby - I'm sure he'll calm down and come to see how truly beautiful your new cut is:)

Suzi

My Mom passed away of cancer when I was a teenager so I applaud you for doing what you did. I think your husband has lost sight of the reason behind you cutting your hair and that's to help people who at no fault of their own don't have any hair. I like the idea of taking him to the cancer ward to see young people who are sick. My Mom would never show us her bald head she always wore wigs because she was embarrassed, because of your generosity and caring you will help someone not be embarassed. I think you are great for doing that!

I agree! Great post!

I think your hair looks really cute. I am sorry your husband Isnt taking the change well. I am sure he will come around

I think it's a wonderful cause and agree you look smashing. Sorry, hubby is being an a$$ regardless of why. It's time to point out the obvious...all the pouting, and door slamming is NOT going to bring the hair back.

Btw, do you catch yourself stopping at your reflection in a mirror...just who is the woman?

Val, you did a wonderful thing. Too bad you are married to a man that has "lapsed" back into a temper tantrum childhood...LOL He will get over it. My hair was down to my butt and my hubby WANTED me to get it cut. So I agreed to do it and cut half of it off. Locks of Love would not return my email asking about color treated hair so we threw it all away. That bothered me more than anything that they never answered me either way and the hair was wasted. Even if they could not use it, I felt they should have let me know...anyways...you look great, I love the new "do" and it WILL grow back...and then you can send your hubby into orbit and DO IT AGAIN!!! You are a beautiful girl and did a beautiful thing for another beautiful child in the world who is not as fortunate as yourself. You made a sacrifice that benefits another...YOU ROCK!!! Eli will come around...they always do!

Val, I absolutely LOVE the new haircut. And it was for a GREAT cause. I think Eli needs to go to the cancer unit to see the kids you have helped with your generosity and then maybe he'd feel differently. Or ask him how he would feel if that hair was helping his own child, would he be so emotionally wrecked then? Locks of Love is such a wonderful organization that would not be around if it were not for folks like you, who unselfishly, give of themselves!!:thumbup: :thumbup: :thumbup: to you Val!!

You know Val, it sounds like Eli is just a little over the top on this one...you sure there is not something else going on with him...hair is just hair...it will grow back. It sure is not something that should mean enough to him that he would totally disregard your feelings and keep treating you this way. I think you should do a little digging on this one. Just a thought...:confused:

Agree...he is blaming the haircut, but I don't think the haircut is the problem.

I agree with everyone that he has really over reacted to this haircut and might be harboring other issues. What would he do if Heaven forbid you became ill and lost all your hair....through a tantrum and leave you???? Enough is enough and he really needs to grow up. You look great and very sexy with your haircut....you are a beautiful girl and your haircut does not change that. For goodness sakes it is not even that short....most would consider it midlength. Eli is being a big jerk and you do not deserve this kind of treatment. :mad:

You did nothing wrong! It'd be one thing if you cut your hair to spite your husband, but you did it out of the kindness of your heart for some sick children! He really should see it as a sign of your goodness rather than a sign of you stabbing him in the back.

I would guess he's more upset you didn't tell him you were going to do it first (so it might be a trust issue in his eyes) and while he might be mad about it for a little bit, the length of time he is upset at you and his actions so far are rather extreme. I hope that he doesn't have more deep-seated control issues and that you guys can work it out. I don't think you did anything wrong at all and you don't need to apologize, but if you were to try to make peace with him (just to smooth things over), you may want to apologize for not telling him before you did it.

But he is totally overreacting. I would say the sooner you guys camn talk about it the better, as anger may build up on both sides. It's great that you are keeping your cool about it, things could get ugly in cases real fast such as this. I definitely agree with others, perhaps you can take him to see children that this charitable organization has helped.

[Dr. FE hat off now]

Oh yeah, and you look great with the new hair! :)

Val, Im so sorry that your husband have taken your haircut so bad. You honestly look very pretty and you didn't do it out of spite it was for charity. I really hope that he will snap out of it soon. And I agreed I think his anger comes from something more than just the haircut. Hugs to you.

aaawww, Vally! I am so sorry you are going thru this:( Eli is the opposite of my Big Daddy...he's always telling me to cut my hair into a bob:eek:

This does sound like it's something else and not just the haircut. Do you make a lot of decisions or plans without him? Maybe he is just reacting to being left out on some level? I kinda agree with Jenn on this...maybe you should just pop over to a friend's or your parents' house and spend the night. A little space may do you some good?

Good luck and you really do look great. It really isn't a bunch of people "just saying" it. It's true:p

Thanks. You're so sweet. As to your question, yes, we make almost every decision together. I've only had my hair cut once before and he went with me, and I sometimes go with him to get his cut too. I did mention I wanted to donate my hair again but he wouldn't listen and got upset every time I brought it up.... So he can't say I didn't tell him at all, but no I didn't call him the morning OF and tell him I was about to go do so (which is what he said I was WRONG for not doing). But do I have to call him at work to ask him before doing everything? :thumbdown "Ok, honey, I'm going to the bathroom to do a #2 now, is that ok?" :mad:

I share my life with him and I'm very open and honest, but I can't be "controlled"......I want to be myself, be spontaneous sometimes, make my own decisions. I'm married, not dead.

Val I WISH he could see what you just said here ! :bravo: :bravo: :bravo:

Something else must be going on with him :( everyone knows it's ONLY hair & will grow back

now if you had it PLUCKED out strand by strand I could understand his anger :p

I have a feeling you both will be having one of those little 'talk' soon - and hopefully you can get to the REAL reason he's being such a butthead. I'm sorry he took the fun out of what you did - but there is 200+ people RIGHT HERE THAT ARE APPLAUDING YOU and think you look HOT !

I agree with you..... well my two cents are the same as everyone else's.... hubby and I do everything together it's nuts...but I still cannot see him getting mad at me for cutting my hair...maybe laughing at me for a silly cut but that is about it..... he might be going through his male menopausal stage.... don't laugh I'm serious..... I am going on 4 years being married this June21st and when we were on 2 yrs... hubby went into this doubting stage... weird huh.... he doubted his marriage, job choice and life decisions in general..... but he got over it... no soon enough but that's something else...... hmmmmmm..... what does he do for a living????

He's a software analyst/account coordinator for a software company that manages corporate health insurance info. for a major health insurance company. http://benefitfocus.com It's really growing and he should be so lucky as to be a part of such a revolutionary-run company that's going places, for sure. He's only had this job since January.

it's gotta be stress... or maybe it's a early mid life crisis..... you guys just gotta talk it out.... good luck... and kuddos to you for keeping your cool!;)

Locks of love should have returned your email. They are very slow in answering anything thru mail so maybe they dont' answer emails at all but any way they DO accept color treated har and grey hair too. any hair that isn't useable for the childrens wigs they make adult ones to sell to offset the cost of the ones hey make and give away.



I agree with the others too it sounds to me like your husband has something else entirely bothering him. If it were me I woudl be very suspicious of what it was. and I would make him sleep somewhere else. Tell him that his recent attitude is making you sick you're breaking out in the urge to kick his a$$.

that sounds like an idea to me. call and say honey I'm thirsty what should I drink? then call back honey which glass should I use? then Ice or not?
tell him when he says something about it well I didnt' think they were they important either but I dont' know what your going to be throwing a fit over next.
I used to do things like that to my hubby but he takes a hint pretty well and figured out what to try to argue about and what to just get ove.

Hmm, early mid-life crisis? He just turned 25 last week. Could that have something to do with it?

And yes I would like to sleep over at my parents' for a night or make him sleep on the couch, etc......but I want to be careful as to not lash out and have anything to apologise for, in his eyes, I mean. I want the guilt to remain on his shoulders b/c so far I've done nothing wrong and remained nice etc. He knows it, too. I'm upset and want him to know what he's doing is hurtful....but I don't want to provoke him or give him any reason to think I also have ANYTHING to apologise for.

My mom is leaving for Africa on a trip for 3 weeks in the morning so I will go over to her house to "hang out" for a while this evening anyway so that will be good. Maybe he'll come with me and my dad can talk some sense into him, lol.