I have been in your shoes years ago. I wasn't married ,However I lived with another guy.The ex-boyfriend was the love of my life/soulmate. I was immature and let silly things push him away.
Only you know whats in your heart and how your marriage is.Follow your heart girl.
Even though I married now I still think about him often and wish things could have been different. In recent years he attended my Mom and Dad's funeral (my Dad's this last jan.) I miss our friendship more than anything.

For what its worth... I married young.... The father of my two children.... It was the easy route... we were together for 7 years... I loved him... but was never really "in love" with him.... It was just easy... And there was absolutely no real fire... I fell out of it early on... I knew it was not forever after a couple of years.. but like I said, it was easy...

It was not until I met the love of my life that I woke up and took it off of auto pilot.... I divorced and was single for a bit... then started dating that man.... Best thing I ever did....

Was there any guarantee that it would work out that way??? Nope! But did I need to let go of something that was holding me back from enjoying my life??? YES!

You are at a hell of a crossroad here.. And it sucks! But your here for a reason! Maybe its to wake you up and get you to live a better or different life... or maybe its to get you to wake up and start living the life you have now??? Only you can answer that! But like I said... you are here for a reason! There are no guarantees in life... But there is one thing you can count on... At the end of the day... you have to like the person inside you... You have to like the life you have created for yourself.... You have to like the example you are setting for your children.... They will pattern their life and relationships after yours....

Are you happy?? If not... make the necessary changes.... and that may mean staying right where you are, or it might mean shaking it up a bit... Only you know what it will take!

Your babies will love you for taking the wheel! No more auto pilot! Set an example they can be proud of!

Very well said Katherine!

:bravo: :clapsmile :goodpost:

Thank You all for your input. I really appreciate it.

shoot ... good post.... you know for what it's worth.. I too at times find myself in a should I leave him position... my hubby takes care of me financially and loves to spoil me BUT... he is not affectionate and has a horrible temper.... he speaks before thinking and says hurtful things at times and never says sorry.... He used to be physically abusive but has changed about that..... I too wonder if it is all worth it.. like people say if he did it once he will do it again.. but through all of it I still love him....the question is just how much..... good luck with your decusion...:)

Physically abusive? I don't like the sound of that. :( But I'm gonna keep my big trap shut.

yes... well I am also very much against that... but for some reason I still stayed.... things are different now but that is not a excuse.....I want him to go to counseling but he says we cannot afford that...... he has issues... his mom left him for a man when he was born so he was raised by his grandma....

Just read this. :(
http://www.yorkietalk.com/forums/sho...ghlight=chills

Katherine that is an awesome post and I couldn't agree with you more:thumbup:

There is NO excuse, no matter what the childhood was like, to ever abuse anyone. Sorry I care and I feel like this is a family. I would NOT put up with that no matter what the excuse. :(

yes I read that... I know many people would not stick this out... he was never that bad...thank god... he likes to push and shove.... but he never hit me ...I still consider this abuse.. the part that bothers me the most is the emotional abuse.... Regardless.... he is trying to change I just so wish he was not like this...:(

Awww I'm so sorry. It's a heartbreaking situation. :(

thanks guys.... I know to some of you I am making a HUGE mistake staying...but it is not as easy as it seems to leave... don't think I have not thought about it...... it's just a very hard decision to make...:(

My older sister had all your thoughts, just 2 years ago. She had split a couple years earlier from her husband, who was the guy she met after breaking up with her highschool boyfriend. Well, she called the old boyfriend, talked about the old feelings, how they still cared for each other, etc. They started dating, because his marriage was unhappy, and hers was virtually over. Well, both of their marriages are now officially over (them seeing each other not the main factor, but it was an issue), and they can be together. Except now, my sister remembers a lot of the reasons for splitting way back when, and the boyfriend just isn't willing to "compromise" just to make her happy. The upshot is that are now both alone, and looking elsewhere. Again. Good luck.

Alison

Do u have twin furbabies or twin children? ;)

twin furbabies.... no kids....