LMAO...that was a dumb idea and NO i didnt

Whewww! LOLOL That's good! :D :thumbup:

What I memory I have, hugh? LOL :p

I am a christian and I feel marriage is forever, unless of course their is a scriptual reason for divorce. I feel if it was meant to be with the ex it would have been. I may be wrong but from what I have read, It obviously wasn't strong enough to fight for then as a long distance relationship. Me and my husband dated for 2 years before we were married and it was a long distance relationship. It was hard but we loved each other and wanted it to work. I often think and dream of my first love. We still live in the same town and have alot of history together, we even share the same best friends, so occassionally we run into each other. In fact my husband does work for him once or twice a year. I always get nervous and feel weird around him and the way he looks at me, I can see it is weird for him to. But life took us in different directions and I know that he is not what the Lord wanted for me. I have a great husband who loves me dearly, and I love him dearly except a week ago when he was the part of the cause of Gidget my yorkies death, but no matter what we made a promise to love each other forever. I went through alot with my parents fighting but they fought to stay together and I think that is awesome. First of all the devil loves divorce and so he is always going to tempt you where you are the weakiest. My prayers are with you, that you make the right choice. No one said marriage is easy.

Let me ask you something? Were you happy that your parents fought all the time?

Sorry, I can't get over this part: the cause of your Yorkie's death? :confused:

Not at the time but I also knew they loved each other and always wanted to work it out. Of course alcohol was part of the reason, but to see them fight to stay together shows that they really loved each other and is very rewarding. I can remember one of their fights and they were going to get a divorce and that devistated me. I was probably only 6 or 7 years old. Now they have been married 34 years and still love each other very much.

He didn't mean for her to die, but he was a little careless. It was very hard didnt speak to him much for a week. Still throw it in his face sometimes, but I know he didn't mean to and was sorry, he tried redeeming himself and bought be a 9wk old yorkie. Ritzie is keeping me busy.

Me too...:confused:

This question wasnt directed to me, but I'm going to give my personal experience. My parents faught all the time when I was little. They got divroced when I was 9 years old. I was happy when they did bc my dad always caused us so much pain. He used to hit my mom and cheat on her all the time. Now, if my dad wouldnt have been abusive, and they just had problems here and there(because every marriage does) I would have loved for them to go to some kind of counseling and work it out. I think its awesome when a couple that has problems puts in the effort to work throught the problems and makes it. Good luck to you.

PS: Children are not happy when their parents fight, but thet are very unhappy when their parents divorce as well, and if its because of a third person believe me, they suffer even more.

I can definetly see why you would have been happy. No one deserves to be beated or cheated on. My heart goes out to you. As well as your mother for keeping you safe and away from the voilence.

I want to make something clear..."my ex" may still be just that a "ex". You guys that know my past thread understand swhat i mean with my marriage. I want to know though...If you had children is it worth it for you to be really unhappy just to keep your marriage together even if one parent is bitchy and crabby all the time because they feel trapped? I have Kept my family together for the last 2 years DESPITE MY feelins or well being. I love my kids to no end and would die for them but really...shouldnt everybody have a chance of some type of happiness..even if they are alone just the there kids...If some had read one omy my latest post you would see that the ex may not be in the picture at all..he may stay right where hes at.

It is none of my business but that is something you are going to have to figure out on your own, it is worth it to you. What is it that is making you are feel trapped or unhappy???? We are all refering to the ex because that was what your original post questioned.

Personally, for me, I would do anything to keep my kids' family together. You have to worry about their happiness before yours (not to say you aren't). That for me, would mean, that I would stop being crabby and bitchy and make life easier on everyone. I would try harder and tell my husband how I feel so we can get counseling. Once the kids are grown, do what you want, but chances are by then, you will feel better that you stayed. Divorce is hard on people. Can you raise your kids by yourself, can you go through custody battles, legal proceedings, ect.? Just my opinion, but unless he's beating or cheating, I see no reason in not making it work, FOR ME THOUGH, not everyone feels this way. I would just try to be positive and more upbeat. We have control over our emotions and state of mind, not the other way around.

Honestly, what it all boils down to is what YOU want. We can just offer suggestions. Some of the suggestions on here seem to be based on religion, and that's okay too. I'm Catholic, but not really religious, but I believe that if you are unhappy and you've tried to make it work, that it's your choice to get out. Why be miserable for the rest of your life? There are so many children who are products of a divorce, and they survive.

I know..Im one of the survivers...thats why i have stayed...:(