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So why did you marry your husband and have kids if you couldn't see a future with him? |
i have been married 9 years.. things can change in that time frame. i saw a future in the begiining. I have a bad feeling where this is going to go..I should have never said a word. |
all i can say is , i feel bad for your situation right now and if you need to talk, im your friend... your goona need some.... hugs to you |
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Pay no attention to negative comments. You came here for help not to be judged, you made that clear in your very first post. |
Kristy - do what's best for you. No offense intended, but no one on this forum knows how you feel. If you think you and your kids are better off w/o him, then get out. If you need help, contact social services in your area. If he is abusive, don't wait! |
Don't worry.. Don't worry no one is judging you..Life is ever changing. Your marriage now is probably not very stable..and if you can't see being with your current hubby for another 5 yrs..I say start getting out now before you really regret the yrs with this man..? Or really work at the relationship so you can stay married. Sorry but I just can't see being with someone that you are not happy with even if you have kids..For your kid's sake too you need to be happy. ( this is a total different topic- your kids and their well being) But thoroughly think things out with your first love because what if he has changed too..and maybe won't be very compatible?? Who knows...or just make sure that you are really not in love with your current hubby. Good luck |
weigh your pros and cons.... and maybe try counseling.. whatever you choose.. good luck.... you can count on us... one thing, if he is abusive,.. leave right now.... |
hes not abusive! |
I wasn't implying that he was. Sorry if I offended you, but I know so many people in my family who stayed in abusive relationships (including myself), so I wanted to throw that in there just in case so that you can feel strong :( sorry again. |
I don't know what I would do in your situation, I married my first true love. We,ve been together 36 years and not all of them have been great but no one' life is perfect. Would I marry him again knowing what I do now No. Only you can make the decision for you all we can do is be here for you no matter what decision you make. Just think it through carefully. I hope you find peace in your decision either way. |
I hopeI didnt sound like I was judging you. I also wanted to suggest talking to your husband and telling him you're having issues with your feelings and maybe you guys can go together to marriage counseling. Good luck:) |
thank god for that.. ok so you fell out of love with him.. thats ok, it happens.... just think real hard before you make any moves.... |
Were you unhappy with your hubby BEFORE your first love came back in the picture? If you were, that says something about your marriage. I wish you all the best -- this is a tough situation. :( |
I agree... do what is best for you... alot of times we do tend to the see the grass greener on the other side ..ESPECIALLY after fights,disagreements..etc... marriage can get boring sometimes and alot of times we take for granted what we have... To each his or her own....I think the best thing you can honestly do for yourself is try some counseling.... there might be another reason behind all of this that you just aren\'t seeing... Without knowing WHY you cannot see yourself with your hubby much longer it makes it harder to give you more accurate advice.... if you need to talk ... you can always pm or send a email to one of us.... good luck....:thumbup: |
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