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05-15-2006, 05:17 AM | #1 |
BANNED FOR NOT MAILING PRODUCTS PURCHASED | Something to share I seen a thread about the mtv show and the sweet 16, well my daughter will be 16 in July and she is just boy crazy. It scares me so much and I just don't want to let her grow up. Friday after she got off of school her and her g/f asked if they could go to the movies, well I said I would think about it, I went a little bit later to get online and it did not dial up cause she was on the phone, so I pushed mute and picked up the phone and was listening, she was talking to a boy! They were planning to meet at the movies and I about flipped out. I'm not letting my daughter group date until she is 16 and she wont be going out on a date date till she is 18. I try to inforce school and how important it is for her to go to college, but her head has just been in the clouds lately. so I confronted her about the conversation I heard and I told her she was not going to the movies alone with a boy, I said if he wants to, he can come over and watch a movie at are house with me here, that way I can keep an eye on you 2. So thats what they did and they had a nice time, but the kid held my daughters hand!!!! OMG I'm not ready for this guys! I'm going to show you the letter my husband wrote her, she has not read it yet, and I wanted your opinion on it! hey Branda, I'm here at work still fuming about the marker thing. I know I'll forget most of what I want to say so I thought I'd email you. I dont like always using Nicole as an example of screwing your life up. But I dont know the right way to say it to let you know just how important it is that you make good decisions. It comes down to the question do you trust me? Do you think I would set you up to fail in life? Do you think I want you to slowly destroy yourself? Do you want to learn life the hard way, on your own? I hope your first response is "no". Your mother and I want the VERY BEST for you and all we can truly offer you is our guidance. Learn from our mistakes and dont repeat them. Take what we say to heart. You're moving more and more away from childhood and into adulthood. The things you're feeling and experiancing are new to you, but all the adults you know have wrestled with the same problems and dealt with the same issues. I know they all love you and want the best for you too. You have to show them and me what that means to you. Will you make the right choice? Ok, I'm calmed down now. I worry so much about you girls and now you've added one more for me to worry about. I hope you can guide Liz into seeing how much of the future depends on good choices. I just want you to know I love you and I trust you. Dont let me down cause I'm not going to let you down. Love you bunches, Sean The marker thing is, her friend wrote this boys name on her back to make it look like a tattoo! |
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05-15-2006, 10:31 AM | #2 |
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| Being honest and upfront with your children is good. It sounds as though Dad is speaking from the heart, so I think it's a good letter to your daughter. It's definitely not easy being a parent! |
05-15-2006, 10:53 AM | #3 |
Donating YT 10K Club Member | I am not looking forward to boys, but I tell you what is reinterated in our house...over every privilege. You earn privileges...just because you are a certain age does not automatically mean you will be allowed to do X. You are allowed to do things, because we know that you have been taught the proper behavior and you know what's right and what's wrong. Sometimes you will be tempted to do things...at those time....you will have to make the correct decisions because if we are unable to trust you....you will lose the privilege of doing things you'd like to do. Not to mention some decisions can be life altering....ya wanna throw school away cause you want to party or how 'bout an unplanned preganacy? Try to make good decisions about the things you can control. Make wise decisions about your friends. We love our kid to pieces, but unfortunately, there are times when their actions and decisions are out of our hands..... Good luck PS Your daughter's very pretty....you're gonna have to beat the boys off with a stick.
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05-15-2006, 10:54 AM | #4 |
Luvs Lulu Donating Member | Great and very touching!!! His letter was great. It simply states his love and wanting to protect her and let her see where he is coming from. It made me misty. I can surely understand where you are coming from not wanting them to grow up. I think you did great by having her supervised. I was at DH's family's house for a mother's day brunch yesterday and I saw how out of hand the teens there were...scared me something awful. Too bad we can't lock them up in a closet somewhere Good luck with working with her during those teen aching years. I have a few years yet to wait so I will say a prayer for you.
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05-15-2006, 11:02 AM | #5 | |
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You said it Deb! That's how it is around here too. Oh yea, she's very pretty, you better make that a big stick! Best of luck!
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05-16-2006, 10:50 AM | #6 |
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| Your daughter is very pretty! You must want to start looking for convents to send her too! I have a 13 year old and I know it's really hard to watch them grow up. I think you did the right thing by having the boy come over, that way you aren't making him "off limits" which would only make him that much more enticing! Too many parents today just don't want to be bothered, or they don't want to enforce rules because they want their kids to "like" them. That is BS. Our kids have friends, we need to be their parents. Good for you for being strong. Just keep telling yourself that before you know it this will all be over and she will be grown up and on her own. This is your only shot so stay tough.
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05-17-2006, 07:40 AM | #7 | |
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05-17-2006, 07:44 AM | #8 |
Stewie Rox the Sox Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Chicago
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| I was going on group dates and dating at 16. I think that if you allow your daugther to grow up at her own pace, you will be pleasantly surprised with the choices she makes with your gentle guidance. Sheltering and prohibiting will not do the trick IMO
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05-17-2006, 08:05 AM | #9 |
Donating YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: new york
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| I have a son ..but i did watch my baby sister and if ya ask me its all a balancing act .sprinkled with lots of love and patience .Good luck to you"
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