nightmare at a night club
 

this weekend, the weekend of hell...was with my bf at a club we all hang
out in and his x wife just happen to grab me while i was in the ladies room
and started talking bad about him. she told me her 12 yr old daugher also
named gina that she has mixed feelings about me. and was telling me that
my bf abused her and his family is no good and finally told me that his x
girlfriend still calls him and he hangs out with her... i was so upset.. my girlfriend tried to get me out of there, but i just stood there listening to her.
she ran and got my bf and he immediatley ran into the ladies room and dragged me out and the bouncers were all over the place... he screamed out to her while pulling me out.. she turned to him and just smiled at him thinking that she had just broke us up.... i was crying, i was so upset, didnt know what to think.... he had called her on the cell phone when we left and told
her to leave us alone and that he loves me very much..he also yelled at me cause i just stood there and listened... i was a lady about it and would never
fight over a man.. i told her, if you still want him, take him... she hates him, he hates her , but im in the middle , im not the cause of their divorce, he has been with other girls before me and they has lashed back at his x.. i would not do it, i wasnt ready yet... i must say, im very happy with him, he is a great guy and i know he loves me, its only been 3 1/2 months..
what do i do the next time she approaches me and talks down to my b/f to me? should i just walk away? I dont want his daugher to hate me, i think she does like me..

I'd walk away. She has no business talking to you that way nor anyone else for that matter. She's an Ex for a reason. Could it possibly be because she's a Biotch? Could likely be from how she was bad talking him. and Maybe she was simply trying to give you a forewarning about him and he was afraid of what she knew and what she could reveal. What does your gut say about what she said and how he reacted? But for her to say that about her daughter hating you I'd take that up with the daughter and not the mom. Hearsay is just that hearsay it's not fact till you hear it from the horses mouth. Has he ever laid a rough hand on you? Yelled at you and made you feel unappreciated, degraded you in any way? How does his family feel towards you? I'd take all these things into consideration and if you you can answer negatively towards any of the questions I'd think twice about dating him. (sorry learned from experience)

Is this the same guy that you were trying to dump? Or is this another guy? or am i just confused!! :rolleyes: :D :D

Oh Gina, I think she's a NUT! She must be very unhappy Sounds to me she's going to go after anyone who dates him. I bet she's telling everyone she hates him, but really is not over him yet. Mix that with drinking, and well, from what I hear some people who drink have no idea what they said to people when they were drinking. :eek: In her eyes if she puts him down enough, no one will want him. I would just walk away from her. I'm sure she has nothing to say you want to hear anyway. Hope you have a better weekend next weekend! Hang in there!
:2hearts2:

yes this was the same guy i was trying to dump a little while back cause
i wasnt sure if i likeed him .. well guess what, im now i love with him.
i cant believe it.. im so so happy its just no real to me.. his family just
adores me to death. they are wonderful people...my parents really like him too. he has all the potential to be the one for me.. his x is older than him.
she 50 and he is 42 and im 43 so the age might be making her jealous..i really dont know what her problem is...i will not let her stand in my way of our
happiness anymore

Could it be that maybe she is jealous that he is dating someone beautiful, smart and younger and she isn't???
My advice, don't let her see you cry, don't let her see you squirm, that's what she wants...just hold your head high and walk away and if you feel the need to say something then choose your words, a good line... "For Gina's sake I think we should at least try to get along", if he is "the one" then you will be their child's step-mom and you will have to deal with this woman for the rest of your life. Take the high road and be nice no matter what. It will pay off BIG!!!
Good luck to you.. I am so glad that you and your BF are happy!!!!!

thank you for that, you made me feel good...

Your welcome!!! Glad I could help!!!
Us girls from the "I've dated the worst men in the world" club gotta stick together!!!!
I am really rooting for you!!! Glad you found your "prince"!!!

Thats great GIna. I am soo happy for you. :D :D His X is just jealous.. i would just ignore her and her words.

How long have they been ex's ? She definately has feeling otherwise you wouldn't care who or what he was with or doing? Ya know. When you're done and have no feelings you could care less. Either way.. when there is HATE, and revenge, there are feelings.

they were married for 13 years. the last 5 were terrible. she called the cops on him one day and he never went back. he lived with his mom for a year
and just got into his own apt in october of 2005. his divorce was final in
december...the family tells me she was a fatal attraction...and she is very
crazy...im not the first of his girlfriends after his divorce..he was with someone for 3 months and another for 9 months.. he said he feels closer to
me in 3 months then he had ever felt with any other girls he has been with..
i hope i dont get hurt again, it would just kill me... ive been through so so much..im suprised i havent had a breakdown yet

No Breakdowns for you!!!! You're too strong for that!!! :hug: :hug: :hug:

My daughter when she was a few years younger 17, put a sign on her door that stays up there. Don't cry because it's over Smile becaused it happened. I thought that was a good atttitude to take in life in general. So hopefully he will end up being the one.

Hey Gina...you poor girl! I'm so sorry you had a bad night at the club! Good for you that you didn't sock her one! I would say if it happens again, just turn around and walk away. She's obviously blaming you for something you didn't do and she can't stand to see her X with someone else! As far as his daughter, I'm sure her mother is bad mouthing you to her, but just treat her well and she'll come to like you! Best wishes!!!

VERY smart girl you have there!! Too bad more peoople can't learn this!
Suz