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As many of you know I have posted about some very sad things that have happened in my life lately. Well today just tops it off. I got a phone call today around 11 from my father-in-law. He was out of town on business and my mother-in-law and sister-in-law were in a car accident. The terrible part was that they had a nine month old baby with them that my sister-in-law babysits. To make a long story short, they were driving down the interstate in Collinsville, Oklahoma. And they were following a dump drunk. The wind picked up a pew out of the dump druck bed and threw it through the wind shield of my mother-in-laws truck. It went right between the two front seats and into the back seat where the baby was. Needless to say it crushed his chest. When they finally came to a stop my sister-in-law jumped out of the truck and opened the back door and got him out from behind the pew, and out of the car seat. He quit breathing in her arms, but she was able to get him to start breathing again. He was life flighted to St. Francis hospital in Tulsa where he died about 11:30. My mother in law has a broken arm from trying to put her hand up to stop it from going into the back seat. My sister-in-law walked away with minor cuts.

When I got to the hospital the babies mom was there with my mother and sister-in-law. I didn't know what to say. We were just crying and crying. And all his mom kept saying to them was its not your fault, please don't blame yourself. :( She was being so strong. I feel so bad for her, and for my sister-in-law. Since he practically died in her arms. I was the only other family there, and since my sister-in-law was a minor, I had to sign for my mother-in-law to have surgery to fix her arm. And I had to sign to release my sister-in-law from the hospital. I took her home to change clothes, and rest a little bit. When we got there, she just lost it. All we saw was all of his little clothes there from the night before, and his binki, and bottles, etc. She just collapsed in my arms. It is so horrible. She is staying with his mom tonight and my mother in law will be in the hospital for a day or so to recover. Please say a prayer for them. Especially for his poor mommy. I could never imagine having to be in her place. :(

Here is the link to the story, the only thing is that it is not completely correct. The baby was in the back seat, not the front. And the pew didn't hit him in the face. It hit him in the chest area

http://www.kotv.com/main/home/storie...age=1&id=98937

What a heartbreaking thing for a family to face. My prayers are with all of you..

I am so sorry to hear such a horrible thing happend. I will keep you all in our prayers!!

I'm so sorry........just breaks my heart! Lots of prayers coming your way and to the families. Hang in there!

I am so sorry!!! Your family is in my thoughts. May God be with you in this time of need.

I will keep everyone in my prayers.
This is just horrible, I am crying so hard right now for your sister-in-law and for that poor babies mother. I hope that God sends them strength to get through all of this.

So Sorry My Friend
 

Heather, I just read it again and the news one and I cried like I did when I talked to you this afternoon Im so sorry that your family has went through so many tragic things lately.. I wish that we lived closer so that I could help you with the boys and Gizzy, Gidget. If there's anything I can do for you or your family just let me know. always Jessi

That is so heartbreaking. Our thoughts are with you and your family.

Oh Heather, this is so heartbreaking. Your family will be in my thoughts.

Oh my gosh...I feel so bad for you and your family. What a freak accident that was! I will be praying for you and your family and that poor baby's mom!

I read the story. I am so sad for everyone involved. I just can't believe this. I'm not sure what a pew is, but I HATE it when people drive around with stuff in the back, esspecially on the freeway and they don't hold it down. I almost got hit by a camper shell when it fell of a truck. Thank god I decided not to follow him very closely when I saw it moving. So if you are behind a truck or someone hauling something, try to move into another lane or follow from way behind. I have seen some crazy people stack stuff very high in a truck. Please let your family know that it was really the truck driver's fault, he should have been responsible for his load. This is so tragic.

Thanks so much. It was actually an old church pew. That you would sit in during mass. It was like a bunch of old stuff from a church or something that was being torn down probably. The back of it was off, so it was mostly like a bench without the legs. I saw it when we went to get somethings out of the truck. They had it laying there next to the truck. It was HUGE! It had to be longer than my van. And it looked very heavy. The truck looks so bad in person. The car seat was still in there. They are holding the truck for three days for evidence. It is so terrible. I know I never want to see that thing again. Even if it is fixed up, there is no way thatI could ever drive it. I took some pictures of the truck and the pew that hit it. I am not going to put any of them here though. It's just for legal purposes. The driver did not have the things tied down at all. And when it happened, he came back and asked if everyone was ok, after the a$$ chewing he got he went back to the truck and started to try to cover up his load!!! He didn't even offer to call 911. My poor sister-in-law had to dig through the truck to find a phone to use. I just got off the phone with her a minute ago and she and his mom are going to go take more pics of the truck tommorow since all I had was a camera phone. They have to have them for attorneys and stuff like that. The thing that makes this so terrible to me is that it could have been prevented if the driver would have taken five minutes to just tie down the load. He may have gotten away with saying that he had it tied down too, but the shot in the news showed otherwise. This trucking company is going to pay for this! I think that it should be completely illegal to drive with anything back there and not have it covered. It justs makes since. How many people are going to have to be killed before we finally make it illegal!

Wow, he sounds like SELFISH SOB. After everything that happened instead of TRYING to help out he goes and tries to cover his tracks and pretend that he tried to cover it up. People are dumb and they ASSUME that gravity will keep the stuff in the truck, but don't consider the speed that they're going. I hope that he gets sued by everyone involved. Unfortunately that still won't bring back that precious baby. Thanks for reminding me what a pew is. I just never saw the word in writting. That is horrible and it's no wonder your mother-in-law's arm was broken. I feel so bad for your family and esspecially the baby's mother.

Oh Heather, what a horrible thing to happen to your family!! Please know that I will have everyone in my thoughts and prayers.

If I can share, I'll try to keep it short... My best friend went through something similar. She was taking her daughter and her boyfriend back to college when someone hit them and the boyfriend was killed. (My friend was battered with some broken bones soft tissue loss and her daughter had a broken clavicle and some bruising.) They were hit from behind and there was nothing that she could have done to prevent it.

They are from a large and VERY close family with lots of friends and support and a very strong faith. Even with all of that, neither of them really began to heal until they started getting professional help quite a few months later. Being good Catholics, they were both so full of guilt and grief that it took medication to finally help them see their way through it.

After seeing all that they went through while I (and everyone else) wasn't able to help them, I would strongly urge you to try to get your MIL and SIL into counseling as soon as possible.

There is no way that we can ever imagine the horror that they saw and heard and felt.

May God bless you all and give you the strength to make it through this.

I am so sorry. I will keep them all in my thoughts and prayers.

I am so sorry, that is so awful. I will keep your family in my prayers. :love:

Thank you for sharing your story. My sister-in-law is already on anti-depressants for before the accident. And from what I hear they are really strong ones. I am doing everything that I can to get them both into some additional therapy. It is hard since I live in Arkansas. I may have to go back over there today or Friday to help Lesa out. Because poor Amber is such a mess. She was like a mom to little Brett too. She cared for him most nights since his mom (stacy) has to work the night shift. Amber(sister-in-law) has a crib and all the baby stuff for him. It was really bad when I brought him home from the hospital yesterday. She just broke down in my arms. She just kept trying to gather some of his things to give to Stacy. I just kept holding her, and telling her to take a moment to breath. :(

Oh no!!! Heather, my deepest condolences to you and your family and the baby's mommy...I couldn't believe what I was reading. This is such a tragedy. I know this is going to be so hard for your s-i-l and m-i-l...I don't even know what to say! That truck driver could have prevented it all by just tying down the stuff...Soooo sad :(

Oh Heather. I feel so badly for your family!! Please let them know they are in my prayers. The babies mother is also.

Heather, I am sooo sorry! What a tragic and senseless loss, I cannot imagine the grief you are all going through. If there is any way we can help, please let us know! Meanwhile, we will certainly keep you all in our prayers.

Sometimes you read one post and it affirms what awful really is. I am so sorry for everyone involved and can't imagine the pain and guilt involved. Prayers and blessings for healing in this terrible, terrible tragedy.....

oh my gosh. im so sorry. this is always a fear i have because i watch a baby also. i treat them as they were mine i can't imagine what your s-i-l is going through. my prayers go out to your family and the babies family.

Oh Heather! That is so tragic:( And considering how difficult it must have been for you to do so, thank you for letting us know. My heart is breaking for your MIL, SIL, and the baby's mom:( Many, many prayers going out to all.

Thanks so much for all your wishes. I just talked to Amber my sis. And she said that the media is calling like crazy trying to get her to do interviews. I told her to tell them all no. Since it is an investigation, and there will be lots of lawsuits she just needs to say nothing to them right now. She said the highway patrol is coming over to ask more questions today. I had to help her talk to them yesterday as well. It is just so much for a 16 year old girl to deal with. I wish I was still over there today so I could help her.

I am so sorry that this has happened- your sister is smart not to talk to the media- they don't get much right (just like the first story they did, they didn't have where the baby was sitting correct even)

They are lucky to have you there for support.... will keep you all in my thoughts.

Today was the funeral for little baby Brett :( . God bless that sweet baby boy! May he play in heaven with all the other angels! God knows we were so lucky to be with him for the short time!

My mother in law, Lesa, is now home from the hospital. She is doing good, just on lots of pain pills.

I just talked to my sis, Amber she is staying with Bretts mommy tonight to keep her company. She said that she is doing ok. Trying to take it day to day.

Please continue to say prayers for her, and for everyone involved.

Ohmy gosh that is terrible! My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

How terrible! Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.

oh dear. Thats terrible :( You are all in my thoughts and prayers...

my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.... god bless you all.