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i think i like him i met this really nice guy around a month ago. i already had 1 date and already made him dinner last week, why, dont know, im a jerk, anyway i think im really starting to like him.. at first i really didnt, and then just went with the flow... he is so kind and generous and cares for me and im scared to death..im so afraid when the time comes when (you know ) that i will be an emotional crazy person....to me , when that day comes, im hooked. please just give me some advise. i need to be calmed down,im a bunch of nerves. he keeps text msging me as im typing this how much he missed me already. help! |
awww what's wrong with liking him? He seems nice and he seems to really like you! Take a deep breath and see what happens. Good luck you lucky girl! |
thanks, its been rough on me, i was married for 10 years, got divorced and i was so depressed, went down to 94 lbs....from 115 lbs.. then met someone else and he moved in for 4 years and didnt do the right thing by me and he was gone. that devestated me... and now after 1year and a half im finally ready and im scared of falling for someone...im not used to being treated like a lady... |
Just be yourself and you will be fine. If it's meant to be it will. Just enjoy his company! |
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Its time that you started looking out for yourself. Embrace the attention and take this one day at a time. let me know how this goes. |
Just take things a day at a time, don't worry about the future, and "that day, that may come" enjoy his friendship and company... if you feel he is going to fast, ask him to slow down. Don't go to the next level until you are ready, things don't have to go from 1st base to a home run within a week or month.... take your time and enjoy eachothers companionship. most of all HAVE FUN... :) |
I agree! All relationships are scary especially if you have experienced bad ones in the past (and we all have). You are the only who can decide if the time is right but don't pass it up out of fear. If he makes you happy and treats you well, it sounds like a nice thing. Does he make you smile? I think the older I get the smaller things are so much more important :) |
yes ,he does make me smile and i havent for a long time...he would just do anything for me and i dont even really know him that well..i was raised very old fashioned and was wondering how long should i wait for( it)..... i personally would say, if i go out with him about 2 or 3 more times i should be comfortable..i just have to get wasted to do so... i know myself, im so shy... at 43 im acting like a child.. sorry |
I agree with Minniemn.. Take it slow, be friends for awhile, then be best friends.. dont worry about tomorrow,, just live in the day,, and if it happens.. it happens,, Dont worry,, and Yes you deserve the best,,and don't settle for the rest. The worst that could happen,,, maybe ya end up with a great friend.. or maybe you end up with your BEST friend. ;) |
I don't know why I'm giving you advice (I've been single for 3 years) but I would say when the time is right and you feel comfortable you will know. I don't think you can plan it or put a timeline on it. P.S. I'm jealous! hehe |
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But, with the when its time you 'll know and be comfortable with it. but, I'm still cracking up at the Have to be wasted statement,, ( wont elaborate on it though! ha) |
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The time is right when it feels right sober... all your inhabitions go out the window when you are drinking, and you don't want to have any regrets about it. For me when I drink, I do things I wouldn't do sober, and I would wake up with regret... this just could be me though. If you worry about doing it, you won't be able to enjoy the present time together... let that worry go, when it happens it happens. |
I would say to not think about (it) just yet, because it's just adding to the stress. That will happen naturally when the time is right. Now you don't want to rush that sort of thing, because it should be something special shared between two people who LOVE each other. That is why I don't look at it like, it's ok after the 3 or 4th date,ect, ect. I can't be with someone that I don't love and if I'm not sure whether there's a future. Something to think about. Also, just have fun with the good feelings. You deserve to be treated like a queen, so don't be afraid of it, welcome it. CONGRATS by the way. |
I'm of the 'ride it 'til it bucks you off ' philosophy....life is short, enjoy each moment. It's nice getting the romance treatment, isn't it? |
i was kidding when i said wasted, i meant feel nice, relaxed... i had to do that with my former boyfriend too..it just calms me down....1 glass of wine and i feel at ease... nobella, your are right, i will do that.. i know you have a new bo.... tooo... |
I can so relate to your situation. I was married for 13 years and then was in a relationship for 5 years. That fell apart and I have been devestated by it all. I am terrified of letting myself for anyone again. Just take it slow and follow your heart. You will know what is right and when it is right! |
My best advised is to take it one day at the time and just go with the flow. Also just relax and have some fun. It is going to happen, it will happen on it own. GOOD LUCK!!!! |
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wow he is so cute and i am so happy for you, i have a picture of him if you want to post it for me. |
ok my friends. nobella is going to print his picture on here .. dont laugh ok he is really nice to me... |
1 Attachment(s) Aww what a cute picture. I hope it works out with you two. He is cute and looks really nice. |
i guess he is ok looking,but a charma.... he still has to grow on me.. i hope i get to like him more and more each day.. that scares me, i dont want to lose a good one just because of one flaw, you know what i mean? just like anything. oh the way he dances for one... he cannot dance good for his life and i met him in a club and when i danced with him omh i laughed all the way to the bank, couldnt help it. |
I've come to realize (at an amazingly young age) that looks fade, it's all about how he treats you. He may not dance well, who cares, as long as he is a gentleman to you and treats your baby good too. Just be careful, those charmers can get us in trouble. |
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He is handsome, and it looks like your furbaby likes him. Stop worrying so much, and have some fun. I have been with my boyfriend for little over a year now, and trust me are somethings I hate. But I look at the bigger picture, and thoso things do not seem so bad at all. Good luck, and I hope it works out for you. |
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Gina- he is cute! He has a great smile and really warm eyes. I just love that "Italian look" in guys. Believe me- if it's meant to be, you will fall in love with him and won't be able to keep your hands off him! Nobella is right- looks fade- and when you're old and wrinkled, you're going to want a man with a good heart who is going to make you feel like you're the most beautiful woman in the world. |
he just called me and wants to spend the whole weekend with me. he told me he wont touch me, i will have to first...yeah right, friggin liar... he wants to stay over. oh sh-- im in trouble now... i told him, not yet.... he understands. yeah right, friggin liar again....he wants to help me paint, and we will go to the movies and then what, back to my house? NO NO NO NO im gonna have a dam heart attack, im worring to much about nothing and i know it... i gotta grow the hell up |
Breath, and calm down. I think you starting to freak yourself out. Its going to okay. If you wants to help you paint and take you to the movies, let him. If he wants to stay over, make him sleep on the couch. When I first met my BF, we went out one night to a pub near my apartment, and well we both had little to much to drink. He lived about 30 minutes from me and I did not want him driving, so I let him stay over, but I made him sleep on the couch. He did not mind and he respected me. Plus, the next morning he cook breakfast and we went and spent the day at the beach. If you likes you and respects you, he want mind. |
just want to thank all of you for being so nice to me and help me through this. im just gonna go with the flow. you guys are the best and i can count on you. your good people... love ya gina |
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