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capt_noonie · 08-11-2011, 05:55 PM

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Originally Posted by ChibiLuv

(Warning: rant about not wanting kids- if you have kids no disrespect intended)
I dont understand what everones OBSESSION is about having kids. Really it doesnt seem that glamourous. So I just spayed my little girl and posted pics on my facebook and my aunt was sad I took away her 'womanhood" but I explained after working at the shelter and seeing animals die from overcrowding I just couldnt breed and I added that If I could spay myself I would. Of course this set off my mom who also wants me to have kids and now they are both harping on me! My aunt said I should at least have one so as to not to break my Mom's heart. REALLY?? I should have kids becouse my mom wants grandchildren? Sorry but last time I check that was not a sufficient enough reason to have kids. Even if kids was a possiblity in the future I'm not going to tell her, then every time I saw her itd be "so are you having them now?" and I have pretty much decided that if I do have kids I'm adopting. I rather not do the whole childbirth thing and really I rather have a slightly older kid, like 2 or up because the whole baby thing doesnt appeal to me either. The crying and the constant need for attention, I mean why? Really kids dont get cool until they start to do things for themselves. And weather or not I decide to adopt or have no kids I am NOT basing my decision off my Mom's need for grandchildren. It's none of my aunts or my moms or anyone elses buisness weather I have kids or not and the more they bug me about it the more it makes me NOT want to have kids. I just hate the whole stigmata surrounding having kids. Society acts like first comes love, then comes marraige, then comes a baby in a baby carrage. Like really are we 5 still? I'm not even Married yet. Sure me and my BF are planning the next step but that doesnt mean we are going to get married and immediatly have kids. I want to travel, I'm still young.
Anyways sorry for the rant, had to get that off my chest.

OMG you took the words right out of my mouth!!!

I've never wanted to have kids. I've always thought there are so many bad parents out there, and kids who live in foster homes who don't have a real family, i would rather try and help out one of those than have a kid of my own. The only reason I could understand that people would want kids is to see their own genes carried down. Purely selfish reason. (of course after you had said kid, the good parents are completely selfless to take care of the kids) So I also feel the same way about animals. Why breed them when there are plenty in need of good homes?

I'm so glad my parents don't pester me about having kids. I have an older sister and they already know they aren't getting any grandkids out of her. Both me and my younger brother also don't want kids. I'm 31 and I've been with my bf for almost 10 years, no plans on marriage (don't even get me started on that! LOL, plus I am against diamonds)

But if I ever DO have a baby, this is the carriage I want. See I just want the accessories and not the baby. Baby Carriages and Prams - Back When Baby Carriages and Prams Where In
Or I can just use it for Uni.

My lil friend · 08-11-2011, 06:18 PM

Ok Im the lady that wasn't going to have any kids. Then there is Jason,Jessica,Samuel,Hannah,Roy and Rachel... These are the children that I wasnt going to have. My oldest is a little interested in being a daddy,the rest of my children have NO desire to be parents and ya know what I am soooo ok with that. I love and enjoy the company of each of my children. We are all having such a good time being adults together. If they change their mind then that is ok too. No one pressured us into having children. I wont do that to my children. I haved actually told them to all get a tiny dog that they can enjoy,spoil and parent,,oh wait thats me.
So to each of you that dont want to join the sleep deprived,cash deprived,not enough vacations group there is nothing wrong with that decision. If you have children,you will be the one raising them, not the grandmommy,she will get to enjoy and send them back.

celstu1 · 08-11-2011, 06:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Ellie May

I know what you mean.

My family doesn't pressure me to have kids, but they at times appear to think I'm really strange for not even wanting to be around them. I cannot stand whining, crying very loudly, screaming, boogers and snot (baby or not, spit is still spit and snot is still snot and it is gross!), getting up during the night (? What's THAT all about?? lol), pacifiers (yucky). Then you send them to school and they pick up a whole bunch of nice things to say to their parents.

I'm a dog person.

I love my nephew to death. He is a precious boy. He cries/screams...LOUD. Five minutes of watching him..is enough to totally wear me down. Trying to rock him to sleep and screaming again?? WHY??

People think it's weird that I'd rather clean up after dogs than go hang out with kids. I guess I'll be the weird dog lady for now.

I am with you girls!!! I am 34, been waiting 1/2 my life for that 'PULL' or 'NEED' to have kids... all my friends are having them now and I just don't have it. I think I am too selfish. I try to get a friend to go out to dinner and they are always broke and their reason for that??? They have kids. I like not having to sacrifice what I want because I have kids. Plus, they ARE needy! My boyfriend has 2 boys, they are older, 15 & 17, they are easier, but they smell, they are slobs, and no matter what anyone says about having kids to help them, they DO NOT help with ANYTHING without being prodded, begged, threatened... we only have them part time and they are like 2 tornados and when they leave after a weekend I'm left in a MESS! Kids are not rational, I can't stand not being able to reason with a 2 year old having a temper tantrum because he can't swing his bat in the house. lol I love my nephews, I love my friends kids, but they all go home and I like that too!

(Now I'm going to ride my motorcycle to the store and buy myself dinner and a ridiculously expensive purse! hahahaha KIDDING!)

capt_noonie · 08-11-2011, 06:45 PM

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Originally Posted by celstu1

I am with you girls!!! I am 34, been waiting 1/2 my life for that 'PULL' or 'NEED' to have kids... all my friends are having them now and I just don't have it. I think I am too selfish. I try to get a friend to go out to dinner and they are always broke and their reason for that??? They have kids. I like not having to sacrifice what I want because I have kids. Plus, they ARE needy! My boyfriend has 2 boys, they are older, 15 & 17, they are easier, but they smell, they are slobs, and no matter what anyone says about having kids to help them, they DO NOT help with ANYTHING without being prodded, begged, threatened... we only have them part time and they are like 2 tornados and when they leave after a weekend I'm left in a MESS! Kids are not rational, I can't stand not being able to reason with a 2 year old having a temper tantrum because he can't swing his bat in the house. lol I love my nephews, I love my friends kids, but they all go home and I like that too!

(Now I'm going to ride my motorcycle to the store and buy myself dinner and a ridiculously expensive purse! hahahaha KIDDING!)

Hahaha!!! I loved your post but the last part really did it for me!

celstu1 · 08-11-2011, 06:51 PM

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Originally Posted by capt_noonie

Hahaha!!! I loved your post but the last part really did it for me!

hahahaha Ever tell a 'new mom' what you paid for something that is actually for YOU??? I don't recommend it!!!

capt_noonie · 08-11-2011, 06:58 PM

tee hee that sounds like fun.

DvlshAngel985 · 08-11-2011, 07:00 PM

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Originally Posted by celstu1

hahahaha Ever tell a 'new mom' what you paid for something that is actually for YOU??? I don't recommend it!!!

I might try that. My best friend is going to be a mommy for the second time.

Might I add, she is no fun anymore! Her son Chris is pretty awesome, but he's 5. He's at that cool age. When he was a newborn, she left him with me while she took a quick shower. I think she fell asleep in there because it didn't feel like a quick shower to me!

Valenie · 08-11-2011, 07:00 PM

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Originally Posted by celstu1

hahahaha Ever tell a 'new mom' what you paid for something that is actually for YOU??? I don't recommend it!!!

Yeah they get pretty madd the last thing I bought for my self is Bella!!!

capt_noonie · 08-11-2011, 07:02 PM

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Originally Posted by DvlshAngel985

I might try that. My best friend is going to be a mommy for the second time.

Well then maybe it's time for Kaji to get a brother???

DvlshAngel985 · 08-11-2011, 07:03 PM

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Originally Posted by capt_noonie

Well then maybe it's time for Kaji to get a brother???

I think you're absolutely right! I do want to get him a brother before he turns 4.

bellababy08 · 08-11-2011, 07:07 PM

Not everyone wants kids, if you don't want them don't have any...and your family should respect that...my family was like you...they wanted me to go to college, have fun, travel, than have kids..well you have to have money to travel

...and my grandmother always told me, if you wait until you are financially able to have kids, you'll never have them...cause by the time you are financially able...you'll be to old...and in a way she was right.

I always wanted kids, even when I was a kid...so DH & I married right out of high school...We didn't want to go to college...I had the first of our 3, at 19...I don't regret it at all...yes it was tough at times financially but they didn't go without...and yes, I felt we missed out on alot at the time.

All my kids are grown now, living on there own. I've had a empty nest 3 yrs now and I'm 46...hubby & I are financially able to send our kids to college...still young enough to do all things we want to do, travel...hanging out with our friends, having fun...life is good

...I feel I made the right decision...wouldn't change a thing.

Do what feels right for you...if kids are not for you right now, if ever, don't have them...cause in the end, its your life and your choice...and trust me, your family will still love you!!

LoALAnna · 08-12-2011, 09:45 AM

In my case, I was an adopted "only" child that didn't get much exposure to babies and small children until I was around 19 and two of my best friends got pregnant around the same time with their sons. While I doted on their kids, the one time I babysat one of the boys, I got puked on , peed on, and screamed at by him, and that did something to me, I think!
I didn't get married until I was almost 34 and by then my biological clock had already slowed down to a crawl. Both my DH and I had all the exams to see why I couldn't conceive (which were inconclusive), but really, I had never had the unmistakable "pull" to give birth. Suprisingly, though, around the time I hit menopause (early at 45), thats when the "baby craving" hit with such force, it almost broke my heart! After almost 4 years of begging and cajoling, my DH finally gave in after using the "baby card" and let me get a puppy! I am definely NOT comparing my Neo and Connor to a human child, but they give us the "filling" of the hole we felt without them.

08-11-2011, 06:58 PM	#21
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08-11-2011, 07:07 PM	#26
bellababy08 YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Port St. Lucie, Florida Posts: 1,043	Not everyone wants kids, if you don't want them don't have any...and your family should respect that...my family was like you...they wanted me to go to college, have fun, travel, than have kids..well you have to have money to travel ...and my grandmother always told me, if you wait until you are financially able to have kids, you'll never have them...cause by the time you are financially able...you'll be to old...and in a way she was right. I always wanted kids, even when I was a kid...so DH & I married right out of high school...We didn't want to go to college...I had the first of our 3, at 19...I don't regret it at all...yes it was tough at times financially but they didn't go without...and yes, I felt we missed out on alot at the time. All my kids are grown now, living on there own. I've had a empty nest 3 yrs now and I'm 46...hubby & I are financially able to send our kids to college...still young enough to do all things we want to do, travel...hanging out with our friends, having fun...life is good ...I feel I made the right decision...wouldn't change a thing. Do what feels right for you...if kids are not for you right now, if ever, don't have them...cause in the end, its your life and your choice...and trust me, your family will still love you!! __________________ Jennifer R.I.P Bailey Bella Harley Ivy Baby Milo Last edited by bellababy08; 08-11-2011 at 07:10 PM.

08-11-2011, 06:18 PM	#17
My lil friend Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: FtWorth,TX,USA Posts: 3,269	Ok Im the lady that wasn't going to have any kids. Then there is Jason,Jessica,Samuel,Hannah,Roy and Rachel... These are the children that I wasnt going to have. My oldest is a little interested in being a daddy,the rest of my children have NO desire to be parents and ya know what I am soooo ok with that. I love and enjoy the company of each of my children. We are all having such a good time being adults together. If they change their mind then that is ok too. No one pressured us into having children. I wont do that to my children. I haved actually told them to all get a tiny dog that they can enjoy,spoil and parent,,oh wait thats me. So to each of you that dont want to join the sleep deprived,cash deprived,not enough vacations group there is nothing wrong with that decision. If you have children,you will be the one raising them, not the grandmommy,she will get to enjoy and send them back.

08-12-2011, 09:45 AM	#27
LoALAnna YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Elberta, AL USA Posts: 919	In my case, I was an adopted "only" child that didn't get much exposure to babies and small children until I was around 19 and two of my best friends got pregnant around the same time with their sons. While I doted on their kids, the one time I babysat one of the boys, I got puked on , peed on, and screamed at by him, and that did something to me, I think! I didn't get married until I was almost 34 and by then my biological clock had already slowed down to a crawl. Both my DH and I had all the exams to see why I couldn't conceive (which were inconclusive), but really, I had never had the unmistakable "pull" to give birth. Suprisingly, though, around the time I hit menopause (early at 45), thats when the "baby craving" hit with such force, it almost broke my heart! After almost 4 years of begging and cajoling, my DH finally gave in after using the "baby card" and let me get a puppy! I am definely NOT comparing my Neo and Connor to a human child, but they give us the "filling" of the hole we felt without them.