I need some good thoughts..

[LuvTaycieGirl]

Well...we talked. It was very non confrontational, which I am thankful for but I was not thrilled with what she decided. She told me she will not pay mileage,but she wants me to keep a log of my miles and we will convert it to how many miles to the gallon my car gets.

I am not thrilled,but it is better then nothing. She really didn't care about maintenance issues. I am saving receipts for admission costs and things that have to do with her kids. That will now be covered.

To say the least..I am getting something. In the meantime, I'm going to start job hunting. I am feeling overwhelmed and exhausted from the family. I feel its time for a change.

[My Sophia]

I'm in the same boat as you, absolutely hate confrontation and will put up with a lot to avoid it. But unless they're paying you a ****load of money as salary, then they are seriously taking advantage and should really be ashamed of themselves. You either need a substantial raise if they're going to expect you to continue to pay for raising their kids, or they need to start reimbursing you. Another point, what you have spent in gas, mileage, using a personal vehical for work etc., is a huge tax deduction for you. Track those expenses and Uncle Sam can pay you back too. And next time they ask you to pick something up "while you're out anyway I'll pay you back", hang on to it until they do. And hang on to the receipt, so if/when they don't pay for it, you can return it and get your money back.

[gidget529]

It sounds like you did a great job maintaining a calm discussion. Sometimes you just can't fully reason w someone. Like you said, at least you are getting something. You would think she would not want to lose a good employee who takes good care of her most precious items - her children. Some ppl never realize what they have.

[BabyGirl Rosie]

At least it is a start. And it will help until you find something else. I don't understand her reasoning. Does she not comprehend the expense of keeping a car? Obviously not!

[LuvTaycieGirl]

She alone makes over 100,000yr. Her husband ones his own tile company and I am not sure what he makes..

[BabyGirl Rosie]

Originally Posted by LuvTaycieGirl

She alone makes over 100,000yr. Her husband ones his own tile company and I am not sure what he makes..

Cheap woman!

[yorkieusa]

I'm sorry they are taking advantage of you and they surely are. I would definitely recommend you look for a regular job and then you could probably go back to school a few nights a week. I think you were wanting to go back to school anyway, weren't you? I wish you lots of luck!

[Maximo]

I'm glad you talked to the woman and that you will be reimbursed for any expenditures on the kids and for gas mileage. The woman should have been more thoughtful about the expenses related to the activities considering she knew exactly where you were with the kids at all times. She should be giving you an allowance while you provide receipts so that you don't have to front the cash. With gas prices what they are, she wouldn't be able to find a nanny who would foot the gas bill.

As for wear and tear on your car, keep in mind that there are many jobs that do not compensate for that, rural post routes, newspaper delivery, and many more. On the other hand, I have known many nannies who were provided use of one of the family cars during working hours.

I wish you well in whatever you decide to do. Remember, you are a business woman and you are providing a valuable service to this family. It is a very personal job so it is easy for the parents to blur the lines and make you feel obligated. Remind yourself, this is business and you have a good position to negotiate from having provided 2 years of excellent service.